When you have met someone new.....(relationship, dating, friendship, etc...)

Do you ask yourself.....
What will my friends, and family think of this person.

How important is their opinion????
Would it effect the relationship, friendship, etc....

If I have to ask myself that, then I'm probably not picking the right person for me.

I care about what my family thinks of a person, but after all the drama it will only be me and that person

nope..i could care less what others think..except my sons. And if someone mistreats my boys will open a can of whoop azz on him..

Not really. I have to be comfortable with a person to introduce them to my family. I have similar values to my family so if I am comfortabel with the person, I am already confident that they will be too.

As long as the person I am dating is not harmful to others (in any way), it doesn't matter what my friends or family thinks of who I dates.

When THEY date that person -- then they can have an opinion.

The topic falls under the category of "none of your business".

I do not ever allow anyone to dictate how I live my life.

how often do you look to others to make your decisions for you? man up homeboy

Nope

I'm a big girl

Maybe my daughters

But everyone knows I make good decisions!!

*woo woo woo woo* (thats right, back to Arsenio)

Seeing as I couldnt be further outcast from my Fam... nahhhhh. My babes would be the final factor, but its not even possible for me to have anybody in my life intimately that is even partially questionable as a human being.

Hmmmm maybe, afterall they are a part of my life and would look through clearer eyes than mine. You know, love being blind and all.

yeah but my babies are grown men...and smart and rather fond of their mom.

Yeah, the wooting was for you. The second para was just a response in general.

It was general a question, or topic....little one. I was not looking for advice. Personally it doesn't matter to me what other thinks, because I'm not ambiguous about personalities from prior experiences, and my own maturity. I am very much my own person, or man.

I wouldnt care what anybody else thinks except for my son. However once he goes off into the world for himself I will not make his love decisions and he will not make mine. The only opinions that will matter are mine and the woman i am involved with.

I would not let anyone force my decisions with their opinions...but I can't say that it wouldn't hurt if they couldn't get along.

My family and I are very close knit and I do ask myself these questions. Too many people think that bringing someone into your life is only about yourself and your happiness. Family is important and as you know.....if you ever marry this person; they marry the family as well. Think about how hard it would be for the person being in a family where everyone didn't like them? That's not nice or fair to anyone----including yourself!

The other side to this is -- you can't pick your family. Just because they are family doesn't mean they are nice, fair, or open-minded to someone different.

I would be embarrassed if my family "barred" my new lover or acted childishly by not liking them *pout*. I hate judgmental people and most family finds a way to manipulate other family members with this tactic.

I still wouldn't allow that behavior and I would choose to walk away form anyone that tried to manipulate me -- family or not.

Like I said, if THEY are dating the person then they can have an opinion.

My parents raised me to be an independent thinker. And, that is not all that common when being raised in a Christian home. They want me to make my choices, and even if they may think that all my choices are not good, they will support me.

Now, saying this, I would like my family to "like" the next woman I date. But, then again, my family loves just about any and everyone. That is just how they are. My mom just wants to see that my next g/f makes me happy. Actually, I have three Mom's (My Mom, My Aunt, and My Grandma). You make an impression on them, then you are golden.

But, in the end, it is my happiness that matters. I have no idea who I will fall for. Who she is. What she will be like. But, I do know that when I do fall for a woman, I will know it.

My mom married someone that I really don't care for, but as long as he treats her good there is nothing I can do about it. My family has no bearing on who I date. As long as he is good to me and even better to my son, thats all that matters.