I won't berate him

He probably will find someone to cheat with

This site isn't 100% angelic

I've perved enough to know that!!

You want free and trustworthy when you are not free or trustworthy?

there is this place called Thailand...lol

While I can sympathise with the issue of wanting to have what you think is best for your kids but after working nearly forty years with families I can guarantee cheating on your family will not just hurt you and your wife but deeply hurt your children. While you might luck out and have a spouse who does not care what you do but children learn what they live and cheating is frequently a cause for violence and you could be looking at a future that reflects your past and it won't be nearly so acceptable to you then.