This can be used in different ways, but since it's a dating site. I wonder how many people actually take resonsiblity for their actions when things don't work out as far as dating goes.

I dated a guy from here.....for a short time. He had LOTS of issues that I couldn't deal with. I felt like I was being asked to raise another son! I was nice too him and maybe some day; he will find someone that will suit him better. I felt bad being "honest" because I know it hurt him. I took the responsibility of making the decision to let go; before my anger took over!

When I was in my teenage/young adult years, I tend to run away when things go South. But I did take responsibility for my actions later on.

Do I feel guilty or responsible when it doesnt work out?


No, because I work hard at making things right.


If it doesnt work out, its been because I walked away, or the distance was too far.

Oh, too much responsibility, far too much. I think I'm clearer now, but 's been a while since I went on a date, so who's to say?

Hummm well I'm not perfect and sure I have made plenty of mistakes but I only hope that when relationships go bad I can be big enough to take what blame is mine that made it end..... and learn to move on....

I just got out of a 2 year relationship...but we were dating for about a year before we got serious...we both made alot of mistakes and i had thought we worked everything out and after everything we went through he called it quits, sometimes you just have to let things go.

It takes two to make it and it takes two to break it. That is what I was taught.

oops double sorry

When I was younger, there were times I didn't realize my failures in relationships until after the fact, in some cases even until years later. Older and more experienced now, I know everything and never make mistakes.

Ok, I can still screw up in relationships all the time.

I try to....sometimes it takes someone pointing it out to me. I'm responsible for myself

I'd like to think so...

Ultimately I have to say "whatever" to the whole blame-someone idea. If you need to blame me, regardless of whether or not it's my fault or not...just do it. I've got big shoulders...

This is a really good question. Been thinking about it lately too. My theory is that you don't know if you are going to click with a person until you step out and take a chance getting to know them. BOTH should realize in doing so you are taking a risk with your heart. But also both should allow a person to graciously bow out from it if you see that it's not working for you.

Dating someone is not a commitment to marriage. You gain much knowledge about yourself from dating I suppose. WE should be a little easier on the guys who decide we aren't ringing the bell for them. And visa versa......In doing so you are taking responsibility for your actions.

"Living in the moment" is a hard concept for me...for most people, I suspect. Nobody knows how they'll feel in a week, a month, or a year...
The tricky part is deciding from the start if it's worth the risk.

Things may simply not work out, there is not a match. In this case the idea of someone taking responsibity for their actions does not apply.

oh absolutely...I know I'm a b!tch

ITs a hard thing to do. I have to admit that I find it hard to figure out where I went wrong in past relationships. Its easy to know what hurt us enough to make us walk away but sometimes its harder to see or understand if and how we may have hurt others.

I agree with this.

I take full responsibility for my actions when something does'nt work out. I even go as far as blaming myself for being stupid and wasting my time if it was a bad situation.

I always take responsibility for my own actions. I will admit to my own mistakes and not put the blame on someone else.