Topic: No, I Don't Want To Date You
red_lace
Joined Sat 04/17/10 Posts: 6126 |
I have noticed that more and more people are here for friendship only, whether they be new or old. Personally, I'm here for the same reason. There are times that I would look at someone's profile or even send them a message because:
1. I randomly clicked on their profile and found something in there that piqued my curiosity. 2. I saw them around the Community Forum and found them funny or interesting. 3. I was just THAT bored. But some people would automatically assume that just because I initiated the contact: I want to date them, get their money, or marry them. Has anything like this ever happened to you too, wherein you found someone interesting on a friendship level, but they immediately took it the wrong way? How can you tell people that, "No, I don't find you hot. I'd probably slit my wrists with a rusty butter knife before I'd consider dating you. I actually just want to be friends." Have you ever initiated contact because you genuinely just want to be friends and they never replied back, or if they did, only gave you a perfunctory answer? I'm probably not making any sense, but they're serious questions.
Edited by red_lace on Mon 09/13/10 03:53 AM
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Teditis
Joined Sun 03/07/10 Posts: 3597 |
Makes perfect sense...
and yup, I've been there too. Some even act like it's "wrong" for peeps to just want to build online friendships... who'd be that lame? right? Whatever... keep bein' yourself Red. 
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RainbowTrout
Joined Fri 04/06/07 Posts: 13512 |
Friendship only just makes sense to me. I am sure each 'friendship only' person has their own reason. I would like it if Mingle2 had sound capability. My sound would be 'Close Encounters of the Third Kind".
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UQzI3sz83FY |
pratapshara
Joined Sat 09/12/09 Posts: 2 |
who ws that idiot who said u r searcching for a date. people really cant understand real meening fo friendship
odd people take care btye pratap |
singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25451 |
Tell them up front why you're sending them a message so there's no question. I often email people just because they seem interesting. Not because I want to date them.
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red_lace
Joined Sat 04/17/10 Posts: 6126 |
QUOTE: Makes perfect sense... and yup, I've been there too. Some even act like it's "wrong" for peeps to just want to build online friendships... who'd be that lame? right? Whatever... keep bein' yourself Red.
Oh, I am so glad you were the first to reply and you understood exactly what I meant. The things you said were exactly what I needed! 
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red_lace
Joined Sat 04/17/10 Posts: 6126 |
QUOTE: Friendship only just makes sense to me. I am sure each 'friendship only' person has their own reason. I would like it if Mingle2 had sound capability. My sound would be 'Close Encounters of the Third Kind". http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UQzI3sz83FY LOL! That would be cool! A theme song on every profile! I have to think of one too. 
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Mikey117
Joined Mon 11/20/06 Posts: 23668 |
Id hate to even guess what my theme song would be!!
  
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red_lace
Joined Sat 04/17/10 Posts: 6126 |
QUOTE: who ws that idiot who said u r searcching for a date. people really cant understand real meening fo friendship odd people take care btye pratap Take care too and welcome to Mingle! 
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red_lace
Joined Sat 04/17/10 Posts: 6126 |
QUOTE: Tell them up front why you're sending them a message so there's no question. I often email people just because they seem interesting. Not because I want to date them. I often do, Sing, and I even have on my profile that I'm here for friends. Maybe I should use bold letters when typing the phrase?
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red_lace
Joined Sat 04/17/10 Posts: 6126 |
QUOTE: Id hate to even guess what my theme song would be!!
Mikey! LOL! Yeah, we should make a new thread about this one.
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christbud
Joined Fri 09/10/10 Posts: 209 |
QUOTE: I have noticed that more and more people are here for friendship only, whether they be new or old. Personally, I'm here for the same reason. There are times that I would look at someone's profile or even send them a message because: 1. I randomly clicked on their profile and found something in there that piqued my curiosity. 2. I saw them around the Community Forum and found them funny or interesting. 3. I was just THAT bored. But some people would automatically assume that just because I initiated the contact: I want to date them, get their money, or marry them. Has anything like this ever happened to you too, wherein you found someone interesting on a friendship level, but they immediately took it the wrong way? How can you tell people that, "No, I don't find you hot. I'd probably slit my wrists with a rusty butter knife before I'd consider dating you. I actually just want to be friends." Have you ever initiated contact because you genuinely just want to be friends and they never replied back, or if they did, only gave you a perfunctory answer? I'm probably not making any sense, but they're serious questions. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25451 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: Tell them up front why you're sending them a message so there's no question. I often email people just because they seem interesting. Not because I want to date them. I often do, Sing, and I even have on my profile that I'm here for friends. Maybe I should use bold letters when typing the phrase?
Then there's probably no hope for them if they don't pay attention. 
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Nitsua1984
Joined Sat 09/05/09 Posts: 734 |
QUOTE: I have noticed that more and more people are here for friendship only, whether they be new or old. Personally, I'm here for the same reason. There are times that I would look at someone's profile or even send them a message because: 1. I randomly clicked on their profile and found something in there that piqued my curiosity. 2. I saw them around the Community Forum and found them funny or interesting. 3. I was just THAT bored. But some people would automatically assume that just because I initiated the contact: I want to date them, get their money, or marry them. Has anything like this ever happened to you too, wherein you found someone interesting on a friendship level, but they immediately took it the wrong way? How can you tell people that, "No, I don't find you hot. I'd probably slit my wrists with a rusty butter knife before I'd consider dating you. I actually just want to be friends." Have you ever initiated contact because you genuinely just want to be friends and they never replied back, or if they did, only gave you a perfunctory answer? I'm probably not making any sense, but they're serious questions. I totally see where you coming from. So...when do you want to meet my parents, before or after the ceremony? |
Goofball73
Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 28978 |
View my profile at your own risk. For if you enter...you can never leave. Muwhahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!
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kc0003
Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 22679 |
QUOTE: I have noticed that more and more people are here for friendship only, whether they be new or old. Personally, I'm here for the same reason. There are times that I would look at someone's profile or even send them a message because: 1. I randomly clicked on their profile and found something in there that piqued my curiosity. 2. I saw them around the Community Forum and found them funny or interesting. 3. I was just THAT bored. But some people would automatically assume that just because I initiated the contact: I want to date them, get their money, or marry them. Has anything like this ever happened to you too, wherein you found someone interesting on a friendship level, but they immediately took it the wrong way? How can you tell people that, "No, I don't find you hot. I'd probably slit my wrists with a rusty butter knife before I'd consider dating you. I actually just want to be friends." Have you ever initiated contact because you genuinely just want to be friends and they never replied back, or if they did, only gave you a perfunctory answer? I'm probably not making any sense, but they're serious questions. Dammit!!! and of course the ticket is none refundable! 
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FearandLoathing
Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 28569 |
I'm completly daft when it comes to flirting. Even if people flirt with me I still can't seem to pick up on it. I can't flirt very well, and really can't pick up on when someone is flirting with me.
So pretty much every conversation is on a friendship level, and I can't tell you if they want to date me, marry me, or (as funny as it seems) want to get my money. |
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biglife
Joined Sat 08/29/09 Posts: 837 |
QUOTE: Id hate to even guess what my theme song would be!!
That one's easy Mikey Well, hello Dolly. Groan.
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LexFonteyne
Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32260 |
QUOTE: I'm completly daft when it comes to flirting. Even if people flirt with me I still can't seem to pick up on it. I can't flirt very well, and really can't pick up on when someone is flirting with me. So pretty much every conversation is on a friendship level, and I can't tell you if they want to date me, marry me, or (as funny as it seems) want to get my money. I'm the same way, I have absolutely no concept of flirting. People have said to me, "Didn't you notice her flirting with you?" and I'm totally oblivious. I never even know who they're talking about. Luckily, that's not really an issue for me here, because 92.5% of all my e-mails are either women complaining about my profile or trying to get me to go to Ghana for some reason. |
Atlantis75
Joined Wed 12/03/08 Posts: 8581 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: I'm completly daft when it comes to flirting. Even if people flirt with me I still can't seem to pick up on it. I can't flirt very well, and really can't pick up on when someone is flirting with me. So pretty much every conversation is on a friendship level, and I can't tell you if they want to date me, marry me, or (as funny as it seems) want to get my money. I'm the same way, I have absolutely no concept of flirting. People have said to me, "Didn't you notice her flirting with you?" and I'm totally oblivious. I never even know who they're talking about. Even when I was in a relationship with a girl, I used to get weird reactions at certain places with certain people. My (ex) girlfriend giving me a look; cutting short of conversations; pulling me away from certain areas..later I asked surprisingly "What is going on?" And she answered: "Didn't you notice she was flirting with you all along??" I'm like: "No." Then she would start acting all suspicious if I was actually playing with her. She was loosing her trust in me, even though I haven't done a damn thing.
Edited by Atlantis75 on Mon 09/13/10 04:52 PM
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