Topic: Do you believe profiles?
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Optomistic69 Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173 |
QUOTE: I wonder just how many profiles are pure honesty? Would you say on your profile that you have a bad temper? or say you are a messy person? or that you are head strong? Of course not; as you want to put your best foot forward. So, is that lying or considered giving limited information? I know if I was dating; I could not tell a man I was independent, can do renos, not afraid to travel alone, or do martial arts. Why, because he would feel threatened by this. I would have to hide this information about myself; get to know him and then slowly bit by bit let him know; ease him into it so to speak. Would this be considered a lie or deception? Maybe folks are afraid to be 100% honest for fear of scaring others off. Just something to ponder.
Honesty is always the best policy
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LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32260 |
QUOTE: I wonder just how many profiles are pure honesty? Would you say on your profile that you have a bad temper? or say you are a messy person? or that you are head strong? Of course not; as you want to put your best foot forward. So, is that lying or considered giving limited information? I know if I was dating; I could not tell a man I was independent, can do renos, not afraid to travel alone, or do martial arts. Why, because he would feel threatened by this. I would have to hide this information about myself; get to know him and then slowly bit by bit let him know; ease him into it so to speak. Would this be considered a lie or deception? Maybe folks are afraid to be 100% honest for fear of scaring others off. Just something to ponder.
I think it saves time (this is hypothetical, because it incorporates the idea that someone might actually want to meet at some point!) to be up front about negatives as well as positives. So, in various incarnations of my profile, I have mentioned my short attention span ("Gerbil on crack" usually says it all), my tendency to come across as an Arrogant Narcissistic Conceited Jerk (to the point that entire threads have been devoted to this), my rigidity on certain deal-breakers, despite the cadre of whiners who refuse to accept that my standards are what they are, my abhorrence of Oxi-Clean commercials, etc. People need to know these things before they can make an informed decision about whether or not they want to know you, or buy your books, or send you anonymous gifts, or whatever. Also, you will never see me describe myself as "laid back and easy going" in any profile, ever. Totally guaranteed. |
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navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: I wonder just how many profiles are pure honesty? Would you say on your profile that you have a bad temper? or say you are a messy person? or that you are head strong? Of course not; as you want to put your best foot forward. So, is that lying or considered giving limited information? I know if I was dating; I could not tell a man I was independent, can do renos, not afraid to travel alone, or do martial arts. Why, because he would feel threatened by this. I would have to hide this information about myself; get to know him and then slowly bit by bit let him know; ease him into it so to speak. Would this be considered a lie or deception? Maybe folks are afraid to be 100% honest for fear of scaring others off. Just something to ponder.
I would say it's lying if a guy says he's a neat freak, yet is actually very messy. Or if he said that he never gets angry, yet actually has a very bad temper. I don't expect these things to be mentioned in a profile, though. So really isn't it a case of damned if you do and damned if you don't. As I said; you want to put your best foot forward in a profile and you aren't going to share your bad habits; so to speak. So, would it be only considered a lie if it was completely opposite of what they said? Is it okay to say I am a neat freak for example but really this neatfreak falls off the clean wagon once in a while. Would that be an acceptable lie? |
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navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
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I wonder just how many profiles are pure honesty? Would you say on your profile that you have a bad temper? or say you are a messy person? or that you are head strong? Of course not; as you want to put your best foot forward. So, is that lying or considered giving limited information? I know if I was dating; I could not tell a man I was independent, can do renos, not afraid to travel alone, or do martial arts. Why, because he would feel threatened by this. I would have to hide this information about myself; get to know him and then slowly bit by bit let him know; ease him into it so to speak. Would this be considered a lie or deception? Maybe folks are afraid to be 100% honest for fear of scaring others off. Just something to ponder.
Navygirl I think sometimes we are a lot alike though different. Like I freely admit if they ask do I cook, absolutely. I am an awesome cook. Do I clean? NO. But I consider men with vacuum cleaners and who do dishes incredibly sexy and they have been jumped with soap bubbles still on their wrists from the sink.. Hmm, you will have to put man with vacuum cleaner only need apply on your profile.
I own two but forget how to turn them on. Vacuums not men. LOL he he, I was just going to jump on that comment but you specified vaccums not men so you were pretty quick on that one. |
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LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32260 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I wonder just how many profiles are pure honesty? Would you say on your profile that you have a bad temper? or say you are a messy person? or that you are head strong? Of course not; as you want to put your best foot forward. So, is that lying or considered giving limited information? I know if I was dating; I could not tell a man I was independent, can do renos, not afraid to travel alone, or do martial arts. Why, because he would feel threatened by this. I would have to hide this information about myself; get to know him and then slowly bit by bit let him know; ease him into it so to speak. Would this be considered a lie or deception? Maybe folks are afraid to be 100% honest for fear of scaring others off. Just something to ponder.
I would say it's lying if a guy says he's a neat freak, yet is actually very messy. Or if he said that he never gets angry, yet actually has a very bad temper. I don't expect these things to be mentioned in a profile, though. So really isn't it a case of damned if you do and damned if you don't. As I said; you want to put your best foot forward in a profile and you aren't going to share your bad habits; so to speak. So, would it be only considered a lie if it was completely opposite of what they said? Is it okay to say I am a neat freak for example but really this neatfreak falls off the clean wagon once in a while. Would that be an acceptable lie? I don't know about that one, but I do know that "I'm looking for an intelligent guy" is almost a universal lie.... |
singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25456 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I wonder just how many profiles are pure honesty? Would you say on your profile that you have a bad temper? or say you are a messy person? or that you are head strong? Of course not; as you want to put your best foot forward. So, is that lying or considered giving limited information? I know if I was dating; I could not tell a man I was independent, can do renos, not afraid to travel alone, or do martial arts. Why, because he would feel threatened by this. I would have to hide this information about myself; get to know him and then slowly bit by bit let him know; ease him into it so to speak. Would this be considered a lie or deception? Maybe folks are afraid to be 100% honest for fear of scaring others off. Just something to ponder.
I would say it's lying if a guy says he's a neat freak, yet is actually very messy. Or if he said that he never gets angry, yet actually has a very bad temper. I don't expect these things to be mentioned in a profile, though. So really isn't it a case of damned if you do and damned if you don't. As I said; you want to put your best foot forward in a profile and you aren't going to share your bad habits; so to speak. So, would it be only considered a lie if it was completely opposite of what they said? Is it okay to say I am a neat freak for example but really this neatfreak falls off the clean wagon once in a while. Would that be an acceptable lie? Maybe to someone else who is a neat freak? Those aren't really things I worry about much. They will come out when we get to know each other, though. Especially if it does get to the point of meeting. |
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navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I wonder just how many profiles are pure honesty? Would you say on your profile that you have a bad temper? or say you are a messy person? or that you are head strong? Of course not; as you want to put your best foot forward. So, is that lying or considered giving limited information? I know if I was dating; I could not tell a man I was independent, can do renos, not afraid to travel alone, or do martial arts. Why, because he would feel threatened by this. I would have to hide this information about myself; get to know him and then slowly bit by bit let him know; ease him into it so to speak. Would this be considered a lie or deception? Maybe folks are afraid to be 100% honest for fear of scaring others off. Just something to ponder.
I would say it's lying if a guy says he's a neat freak, yet is actually very messy. Or if he said that he never gets angry, yet actually has a very bad temper. I don't expect these things to be mentioned in a profile, though. So really isn't it a case of damned if you do and damned if you don't. As I said; you want to put your best foot forward in a profile and you aren't going to share your bad habits; so to speak. So, would it be only considered a lie if it was completely opposite of what they said? Is it okay to say I am a neat freak for example but really this neatfreak falls off the clean wagon once in a while. Would that be an acceptable lie? I don't know about that one, but I do know that "I'm looking for an intelligent guy" is almost a universal lie.... Intelligence comes in varying degrees. I think a man does not have to have a University degree to be intelligent but he should be able to hold a basic conversation with me. I also think one should be intelligent enough to want to learn new things but that is just my thoughts. |
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rara777 Joined Thu 10/18/07 Posts: 61393 |
My profile is the "Real Deal". what you read and what you see is who you get.
My personality is also like my postings in the forums.
I have met 7 people from mingle in person.
One was a total loser.
The other six people that I met were so much like their personalities here on mingle.
Edited by rara777 on Fri 12/09/11 01:39 PM
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navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I wonder just how many profiles are pure honesty? Would you say on your profile that you have a bad temper? or say you are a messy person? or that you are head strong? Of course not; as you want to put your best foot forward. So, is that lying or considered giving limited information? I know if I was dating; I could not tell a man I was independent, can do renos, not afraid to travel alone, or do martial arts. Why, because he would feel threatened by this. I would have to hide this information about myself; get to know him and then slowly bit by bit let him know; ease him into it so to speak. Would this be considered a lie or deception? Maybe folks are afraid to be 100% honest for fear of scaring others off. Just something to ponder.
I would say it's lying if a guy says he's a neat freak, yet is actually very messy. Or if he said that he never gets angry, yet actually has a very bad temper. I don't expect these things to be mentioned in a profile, though. So really isn't it a case of damned if you do and damned if you don't. As I said; you want to put your best foot forward in a profile and you aren't going to share your bad habits; so to speak. So, would it be only considered a lie if it was completely opposite of what they said? Is it okay to say I am a neat freak for example but really this neatfreak falls off the clean wagon once in a while. Would that be an acceptable lie? Maybe to someone else who is a neat freak? Those aren't really things I worry about much. They will come out when we get to know each other, though. Especially if it does get to the point of meeting. So, you are saying its all in the person' perspective on how they read or understand someone's profile. You are right though; that whatever a person with held or lied about comes out eventually. |
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teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2464 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I wonder just how many profiles are pure honesty? Would you say on your profile that you have a bad temper? or say you are a messy person? or that you are head strong? Of course not; as you want to put your best foot forward. So, is that lying or considered giving limited information? I know if I was dating; I could not tell a man I was independent, can do renos, not afraid to travel alone, or do martial arts. Why, because he would feel threatened by this. I would have to hide this information about myself; get to know him and then slowly bit by bit let him know; ease him into it so to speak. Would this be considered a lie or deception? Maybe folks are afraid to be 100% honest for fear of scaring others off. Just something to ponder.
I would say it's lying if a guy says he's a neat freak, yet is actually very messy. Or if he said that he never gets angry, yet actually has a very bad temper. I don't expect these things to be mentioned in a profile, though. So really isn't it a case of damned if you do and damned if you don't. As I said; you want to put your best foot forward in a profile and you aren't going to share your bad habits; so to speak. So, would it be only considered a lie if it was completely opposite of what they said? Is it okay to say I am a neat freak for example but really this neatfreak falls off the clean wagon once in a while. Would that be an acceptable lie? I don't know about that one, but I do know that "I'm looking for an intelligent guy" is almost a universal lie.... Lex, You are too intelligent I think for most. I think what they want is a guy who can follow the directions on the Oxyclean, not go into the kitchen and do the chemistry to make their own. LOL |
Rugbytaff
Joined Fri 12/09/11 Posts: 8 |
PNot really I prefer to keep it short and sweet, prefer to let people find out what they want about me from me directly :-)
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teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2464 |
QUOTE: PNot really I prefer to keep it short and sweet, prefer to let people find out what they want about me from me directly :-)
I hate that personally. If you say nothing in your profile, I have nothing to ask you. I hate those guys who say I am an open book ask me anything. I do not know if I am looking at a cheap romance novel, the dictionary, The E volume of the encyclopedia, a television instruction manual, etc. to know what to ask. |
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PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 8955 |
SX I think this profile sounds really good. I get a clear picture who you are and what you would be like to be around. If I was your age and activity level I would be eager to have an opportunity to know you better.
Edited by PacificStar48 on Fri 12/09/11 04:04 PM
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PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 8955 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: My favorite is what I call "the grand reveal" where you talk to the person and then find out something you would never accept in five thousand million years like they are a dope dealer and then they get offended that you want nothing to do with them. LOL. Or you find out that they're actually married, then they get mad at you for judging them.
Yup this is so lame but it happens enough that you have to figure it isn't personal to you. |
singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25456 |
QUOTE: PNot really I prefer to keep it short and sweet, prefer to let people find out what they want about me from me directly :-)
You should add more pictures of your tattoos! |
singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25456 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: PNot really I prefer to keep it short and sweet, prefer to let people find out what they want about me from me directly :-)
I hate that personally. If you say nothing in your profile, I have nothing to ask you. I hate those guys who say I am an open book ask me anything. I do not know if I am looking at a cheap romance novel, the dictionary, The E volume of the encyclopedia, a television instruction manual, etc. to know what to ask. I'd have to agree. I want something to go on. |
singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25456 |
QUOTE: Anyway singme to continue with my story. This woman continues to talk to the friend who's profile it wasn't and accuses him of being one and the same person. They exchange e-mail address Home Telephone Numbers Home address etc etc. Sexual Innuendo on the threads .....e-mail Cyber sex on the e-mail section Phone sex..you name it they done it Long hours on the Telephone swearing undying love and all the time communicating with another man...yes you guessed it...his friend Will have to finish this to-morrow
No clue who this friend is, as you have not been very clear. |
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Conrad_73 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 8146 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: Anyway singme to continue with my story. This woman continues to talk to the friend who's profile it wasn't and accuses him of being one and the same person. They exchange e-mail address Home Telephone Numbers Home address etc etc. Sexual Innuendo on the threads .....e-mail Cyber sex on the e-mail section Phone sex..you name it they done it Long hours on the Telephone swearing undying love and all the time communicating with another man...yes you guessed it...his friend Will have to finish this to-morrow
No clue who this friend is, as you have not been very clear.
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Rugbytaff
Joined Fri 12/09/11 Posts: 8 |
Lol I will try but theres a few, thats kind of the reason that pic is there
mmmm ok see I always thought no body wants to trawl through pages of self description ( which they may not believe any way), obviously I was wrong
Will add some more to my profile then and see what happens |
Rugbytaff
Joined Fri 12/09/11 Posts: 8 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: PNot really I prefer to keep it short and sweet, prefer to let people find out what they want about me from me directly :-)
You should add more pictures of your tattoos! sorry my last message was in response to this ha ha (all new to me you see) |
