Honesty is always the best policy

I think it saves time (this is hypothetical, because it incorporates the idea that someone might actually want to meet at some point!) to be up front about negatives as well as positives. So, in various incarnations of my profile, I have mentioned my short attention span ("Gerbil on crack" usually says it all), my tendency to come across as an Arrogant Narcissistic Conceited Jerk (to the point that entire threads have been devoted to this), my rigidity on certain deal-breakers, despite the cadre of whiners who refuse to accept that my standards are what they are, my abhorrence of Oxi-Clean commercials, etc.

People need to know these things before they can make an informed decision about whether or not they want to know you, or buy your books, or send you anonymous gifts, or whatever.

Also, you will never see me describe myself as "laid back and easy going" in any profile, ever. Totally guaranteed.

So really isn't it a case of damned if you do and damned if you don't. As I said; you want to put your best foot forward in a profile and you aren't going to share your bad habits; so to speak. So, would it be only considered a lie if it was completely opposite of what they said? Is it okay to say I am a neat freak for example but really this neatfreak falls off the clean wagon once in a while. Would that be an acceptable lie?

he he, I was just going to jump on that comment but you specified vaccums not men so you were pretty quick on that one.

I don't know about that one, but I do know that "I'm looking for an intelligent guy" is almost a universal lie....

Maybe to someone else who is a neat freak? Those aren't really things I worry about much. They will come out when we get to know each other, though. Especially if it does get to the point of meeting.

Intelligence comes in varying degrees. I think a man does not have to have a University degree to be intelligent but he should be able to hold a basic conversation with me. I also think one should be intelligent enough to want to learn new things but that is just my thoughts.

My profile is the "Real Deal". what you read and what you see is who you get.

My personality is also like my postings in the forums.

I have met 7 people from mingle in person.

One was a total loser.

The other six people that I met were so much like their personalities here on mingle.

So, you are saying its all in the person' perspective on how they read or understand someone's profile. You are right though; that whatever a person with held or lied about comes out eventually.

PNot really I prefer to keep it short and sweet, prefer to let people find out what they want about me from me directly :-)

I hate that personally. If you say nothing in your profile, I have nothing to ask you. I hate those guys who say I am an open book ask me anything. I do not know if I am looking at a cheap romance novel, the dictionary, The E volume of the encyclopedia, a television instruction manual, etc. to know what to ask.

SX I think this profile sounds really good. I get a clear picture who you are and what you would be like to be around. If I was your age and activity level I would be eager to have an opportunity to know you better.

Yup this is so lame but it happens enough that you have to figure it isn't personal to you.

You should add more pictures of your tattoos!

I'd have to agree. I want something to go on.

No clue who this friend is, as you have not been very clear.

It's just the usual stirring!

Lol I will try but theres a few, thats kind of the reason that pic is there
mmmm ok see I always thought no body wants to trawl through pages of self description ( which they may not believe any way), obviously I was wrong
Will add some more to my profile then and see what happens

sorry my last message was in response to this ha ha (all new to me you see)