Topic: death management
Joined Tue 12/06/11
I totally agree Jill. I was hoping she had something really fun she wanted to do, now that she's 'taking care of bizness'. You know, bucket list kinda thing. She's always wanted to go to Paris but that would be too strenuous.
Maybe just surround her with things and people she likes ...like flowers, family, friends, fav dishes.
I can speak to this - would sending her movies about Paris or filmed in Paris be a good gesture? If she can't go there, maybe you could have Paris come to her. Cafe au lait, baguettes, and such?
I have witnessed "good" deaths and "bad" deaths - the "good" ones are where the loved one was surrounded by family and friends, and had opportunities to cry and laugh and try to find peace with the circumstances. Say what needs saying, even if it feels uncomfortable, because when time's up, time's up - there aren't any do-overs. Sometimes it just means sitting quietly with each other.
All the best to you and your Mom and your family.