people who approach you but never post in forum ever ever ever??? I never know what to say to people who don't post. I find it out that out of nowhere, they see a picture and usually don't even read my blurb and then say they like me. What are your thoughts?

P.S. I used to have a quite lengthy profile where I explained that I did the Terri Remix of Religions and did not want children, etc. and it made no difference, I got more men looking for a "good Christian woman to start a family with". I told one guy that was called an "idiot hit" and he got me banned temporarily. I said it nicely but this guy wrote me with an obvious hot key script or cut and paste that was contrary to everything I said in my profile. THEN he wrote me a total obscene cuss out message for saying that when I got unblocked and came back!! And he was looking for "a good woman". Err....how about being a good man??? I find it very odd when I am friends with soooooooooooooo many good Christian women on here who want children. Why the heck are they writing me and not them?????

tend to agree - I seldom respond to non forum members unless they are local and seem normal

They don't see a picture, they perv it

I have a couple of very good blind friends and my one friend says I am going to have that problem on any dating site with pictures.

Usually, they have read my posts and want to discuss them. They dont post in the forums themselves, but they may still be interested in the topic and your opinion on it. Or they have a sense of who you are by lurking.

The only problem I would have with that is that I dont have that connection with THEM. I have not seen their perspectives and gotten a sense of them, so its unbalanced but manageable.

I dated someone like that from here for about 6 mts. He's still one I would call a friend, was very respectful and honest. He just wasnt into posting.

Just direct the free floaters to the forums.

II have big bold letters right at the start of my profile to not email me from other countries, I'm not interested. I still get constant foreign emails.
I don't really mind people who don't post in the forums much. It depends. Some people just aren't very social lol if they can hold a decent conversation, start with a decent email, something other than "hey hot lips" then I might talk with them

never get's perv'd well, by anyone in the same country as I am anyway

Well hey there hot lips.......

I Trust.....NOONE!!!!!!!!!!

It takes some time for me to see enough of someone to know they are "For Real".

The actions have to match the.....words......

Thats really hard .....in this Venue!!!!!

Consider yourself......Perved!!!!

I don't see why you can't trust, or at least chat with people who don't post in the forums. I bet most of the people who use this site don't use the forums. Why ignore them simply because they don't use the forums?

as a general rule : I trust until given REASON not to

and

I give respect automatically unless something is done to LOSE that respect

I know people generally either expect trust and respect to be earned or they give it automatically,,,,IM the latter,,,

Sometimes silence is golden. However, silence is fool's gold if one joins Mingle2 and then does not participate in the forums. I get a laugh out the OPs in the introduction forum. Men are constantly writing OPs that say "Here I am, Ladies; talk to me." What narcissism!

the forums are the best place to get to know people

I will answer non thread followers... however, I do not go for the "Hi, how are you?" ones

Hi.........

How are you?????



No.....Really!!!! I wanna know!!!

I am not sure all forums are for everyone but someone who comes in here and can never find anything to participate in would seem like someone that would get to be a real effort to be around because you would have to do all the work to communicate.

When I get those, they are always either a.) obvious scammers or b.) one-word messages like "Hi" or "Hello." I don't respond to them either way.

I would reply to the not-quite-obviously-scammers if they wrote something relevant, something more than one word, but that never happens.



I get lots of e-mails saying they saw my profile and they think I'm interesting, and they're looking for a good man to settle down and start a family with. That's how I know they didn't actually read my profile. These almost always turn out to be scammers, and they've probably sent the exact same message to 2,488,943 other people.



Same here, and I think I've bludgeoned the world with my "No Kids" policy long enough that anybody who doesn't get it is either blind or on serious medication.



One of the incomprehensible mysteries of life -- why go after after a guy with an immutable "No Kids" policy and try to change him, when there are 2,927,552 men on here who are totally OK with kids?

I'll never understand people....