I met this girl last july and she lived with me for almost 2months and then we moved to a bigger place....She changed into a person that wanted too control me.... So i went away for a few weeks to let her miss me.... and when i came back she was gone???? I have not have not seen or heard from her since ???? Yeserday she knocks 3 times and leaves???? By the time i got to the door she was gone???? The neighbors told me the the type of car and described her to me so i knew how it was...What should i do ???? Go to her work and see what she wanted or wait for her to come knockin ay my door again????

Seriously......don't chase after her. If she tried to control you once, you chasing her isn't a good thing. I have to say what you wrote sounds more like some sort of sick control struggle in a relationship. A relationship shoulnt be about control, but the ability to love and respect one another for the individual they are allowing the relationship room to grow, and for each other to be the free spirit they truly are inside!!!

You were not happy = she tried to change you.
You went somewhere for a couple of weeks, ( I am guessing you did not tell her where you were)
She was gone when you came back
And now you want to know what to do, because she pulled a childish prank, ( knocked on your door and left real quick)

Sheesh, the answer is simple, you two belong together. Call her 50 times a day, take huge bunches of flowers to her work twice a day, and then get on bended knee and propose.

(Now for the serious answer, be glad you did not answer the door and move on.)

You should knock twice on the pipes.

You went a way for a few weeks and when you came back...she was gone.

How is this a suprize? Did you let her know you were gonna be gone and make all the arrangements to keep everything flowing?

Don't go to her work Dude. Trust me.

Not every chick is "THE CHICK"....slow down and read the signs bro.

Thanks I agree...I'll make knock 6 times next....

That was a very passive aggressive thing to do, it's not masculine at all. It's the sort of thing you see a woman do in the movie or TV show. You should have set boundaries and kicked her out if she crossed them. Then she would have respected you.

As it is, I would suggest you read "No More Mr Nice Guy". After that, maybe you wait for her to come back or you send flowers to her job or you move on and forget her. That all depends on how you feel about her.

Actually he should knock three times on the ceiling!

And yeah....what Krup said....sorry Dude, but if she is trying to control you...not good...and you stomping off and disappearing like a bad teenager isn't good either....sounds like nothing works in this relationship, so why bother????? Just sayin'

I moved on....

Ya i agree with most everyone here she being childish doing that if she really wanted to talk to you she would of stayed but to take off like that she wanted to see if u would go after her but nah i wouldn't just do what you doing now an move on if she does it again or keeps doing then ya in trouble but i woudln't go after her.

I did'nt stomp off.... I went to a job so she could " see what she had before it was gone"

yeah...well, didn't work so well...I wouldn't bother with something that obviously doesn't work...just me

But why would you go see the guy again if it didn't work???? After so long it's over right????

She appears to have forgotten the rules. As I recall, she's supposed to know 3 times on the ceiling if the wants you.

Sounds like you started the whole thing when you went away to let her miss you. If you're going to do things like that, don't expect her to do things that make sense either.

Don't chase her unless you are serious about her. If you've lost feelings for her or just think of her as a friend and whatnot, then let her come to you. If you still have feelings for her, then go after her

I'm not gona chace her ....She it seem's too come to my door first ????

Looks like you are learning some lessons and she is probably doing the same. There are no rules to follow and there sometimes is nothing rational about feelings. You will do things you normally wouldn't and so will she. Your friends will tell you she's nuts and hers your nuts. You never know what it is going to be like when the dust settles so my advice would be let the dust settle where it may then see what is left.

I am learning from all the opinions on this site....

i agree with drawing the line. ive been burned a few times chasing after someone like that. its not worth the scars