Women (or men if you are a woman) that you would like to take out always live so far away? Ah, the wonders of the internet!

Surely we don't pick those out because they are a safe distance from us? Your thoughts?

I don't want to take anyone out anymore really. I just want friendship, and there are local women on here, but they seem to be seeking more than what I want.

I simply want friendship, dinner and bowling, maybe play pool, golf, etc. Going out and enjoying life as friends, nothing more. I'm not looking for a sexual relationship either, just good, clean, asexual fun.

I know I'm living in a dream world to think I can find such, but we'll see.

I would just like a few good friends who would enjoy a chat a meal a movie or show a walk on the beach a laugh even if its at ourselves but every one I think I would like to spend some time with lives to far away

I dunno, all of the people I have encountered who I would like to hang out with or spend any sort of actual time around do seem to live a distance from me. I don't necessarily choose it, but it just sort of falls that way. I don't dig through profiles too much, and really only associate with those in the forums. The few people who do live close to me I have either messaged or been messaged by, much like in tot's situation, want more than what I am seeking, or are not interested in the same thing as I am.

It is what it is I suppose. I don't actually give it too much thought in general though.

If you're choosing women who live far away, only you know why. I would have no clue if it's because they are a safe distance from you.

Well I am glad to see I am not the only one with this situation.

By safe distance I mean someone we can hold at arm's length.

No idea if I explained that successfully.

You're NOT living in a dream world! If a guy said that to me I would jump straight in, seriously. There IS woman out there that wants these things too!
There is nothing worse than trying to get to know a guy and he starts to talk about $ex literally straight away. It would be GREAT to actually meet/talk to a guy who has other things on his mind.

Well I live SO far away, I don't have a hope in hell with meeting up with anyone. But, there are one or two that I wouldn't mind getting to know, if I could that is. Distance is So far so I highly doubt anyone has any interest in meeting me. And yet I keep coming back, why? I don't know.

What makes you so sure you're not part of my dream world? :P

Cause I'm too busy living in my own dream world. I'm not sure if I can be in two places at once, but, then again it's a dream world so maybe I am there :P

I would notice if you were. :)

Yes, I got that. But, you're the only one who knows why you're doing that. Sounds like you want to keep them at a distance for some reason. I've never understood that way of doing things.

Maybe the distance makes it more appealing?

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For me, I came onto mingle to make friends.
I was tired of the same old rubbish, where everyone who want's to take you out seems to be expecting way more than friendship.
I wanted to get to know people and find someone who liked me for me. for my strangeness without wanting to jump into bed with me straight away.
So I actually felt that I was way safer to talk to people on the other side of the world as i didnt think I would b3e as likely to end up with someone who didnt want to make the effort.

does it make it more apealing to you?

yeah i study all day and night for the most part... right now schooling is my focus point ... so talking on the forums is a good way to meet the right girl although it has been slow going...

I think sometimes we do pick them because there is a kinda initial safeness that you can get from meeting someone that lives far away.

I think that for some, it’s easier because you can maintain a geographical distance as well as an emotional one as well.

I guess I just don't see the point in doing that for the purpose of maintaining distance.

There really are no people close to me, so anyone I'd get along with and want to meet will be farther away. However, I make it a point to see people I really hit it off well with, whether we're friends or more.

I've had long-distance relationships and I hate them. They just don't work for me. Some people can make it work.