I'm on more than one dating site. One thing they all have in common is the debate over un-answered messages. Well, Ladies & gentlemen here is your chance to tell people in general why you choose not to answer a message. Maybe for some people it will lay it to rest just to know why the message(s) they send don't get answered. Don't be mean. But do be honest. I know some answer every message they get. But a lot don't. This thread is to tell why you don't. What turns you off from answering a message.

By the way, This is not a pity thread. I've started threads like this in other places. This is only meant to be an eye opener for those that just don't understand why there messages either never get answered or very little. I guess you might call it a "help thread"

I usually answer emails, but when I don't it's usually because the initial email sent seems like a mass copy/paste email. It's obvious the person didn't read my profile. I get message with people saying how they love my profile (not sure what they could love about it), or they seem to think we have a connection based on the profile (my profile doesn't have a lot about me in it)

I, also, get a lot of how pretty I am when all of my real pictures are on private. People really get turned on by cartoons????

Anyway...I don't like when the email seems to be mass produced and it's clear they didn't even look at my profile

If the email is unreadable, I won't bother to answer. If they can't put the effort into writing an email that is understandable, I won't put in the effort to respond.

Also, if they're rude in anyway, I won't bother to respond.

Other than that, I will usually respond and give them a chance to start a conversation. However, if all they do is say hi, how are you and drag the conversation on slowly like that, I'll lose interest and stop responding.

When I contact people, it's either because something in their profile caught my interest, or something in the forums caught my interest. So, I start a conversation based on that. I don't think it's asking too much to expect the same from others.

I pretty much answer all messages.

The ones that say they have read my profile and think we would be perfect together. Ianswer with Äre you sure you read all my profile"

Since it states that I am married and am only looking for friends, I am pretty sure that they havent.

The rest I answer and will happily talk.

Before I found my partner, I answered them all not realizing that the majority where lying. Thankfully I found someone honest before someone pretend tricked me.

I second that!

I don't get messages so I don't answer them.

I get TONS of emails from men in their thousands. You try answering them and trying to keep up with a guy you're trying to have an email conversation with. Sooner or later, one of em will have to go looking elsewhere. I can't have three conversations at once. If i grab you're attention that you want me that badly, then please have patience. Otherwise it's bye bye from me.

Yes...I mean no...what?

Oh dear. Hope it didn't look like i was bragging. I just meant that it can get a bit tedious for me. This is why i'd never make a good receptionist.

You were telling you get emails in the thousands from men, yet you don't want us to think you're bragging?

I don't answer emails from people that don't reside in the UK; those that do not meet my preferences or those that I'm not attracted to. I don't see the point really as it's unlikely to progress beyond emails.

In saying that, I do answer emails and accept send/accept friend requests from people that I have gotten to know from the forum(s) regardless of the above.

Well not in their thousands. It's not like i'm a major celebrity. . About ten a day, more like.

Ah, so you were exaggerating quite a bit. :)

Who doesn't want Rawrr_Girl, I'd give her a lick :p

The only time I don't respond to messages, is when the conversation becomes more then unfriendly, personnel, and rude =)

The only emails I don't answer are the ones where they say they like what they read in my profile but it's obvious they didn't read it.

I would no sooner reply to unknown email
than I would to someone accosting me
on the street.

No time, no inclination and I
have carpal tunnel.

Yeah i was :)

people get messages

most of the time i answer all my messages some a little longer to answer then others when i get messages .....but you also got to remember dude ,some lady,s don't respond right away cause some only come on every few days or maybe just on the weekend too :) so if a response is slow she may not be online at the time :) and also some just get to many to respond to all or maybe they already found someone they like but never changed the profile ,theres lot's of reasons so be patient and keep trying and 1 day you may hit the jackpot lollllll cheers i got a few tickets in i still waiting to win too hahaha

what are those lollllll that's what you saying ? thats to funny that