Topic: So this is a dating site---- what do you have to offer?
singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25452 |
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galendgirl
Joined Sun 07/06/08 Posts: 24728 |
What do I have to offer???
Just me. |
Tizar
Joined Sat 04/28/12 Posts: 493 |
QUOTE: Are the rest of us old adults? 
Indeed, t'is the reality of things for us :) |
Kaleijoscope
Joined Fri 10/15/10 Posts: 1976 |
>i promise to write back as soon as i can
>when you're sick, i'll be your medicine >when you're lonely,i'll keep your company >when you fall short on anything,i'll be your lift >when you're lost,i'll hold your hand,and together we'll find the way >but when you say "i love you", im outta here! |
indianadave4
Joined Wed 02/09/11 Posts: 749 |
QUOTE: I'm just me. They have to get to know me and see if I'm what they want. Interestingly enough, most men will say the same thing. However, on a dating site most women view most men with skepticizm and seldom respond to messages. So in the end men and women don't cut each other enough slack to try to get to know one another. In real life that first meeting (even by accident) can open a door not usually available on dating sites. We don't trust each other. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25452 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: Are the rest of us old adults?
Indeed, t'is the reality of things for us :) Nah. I'm nowhere near old. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25452 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: I'm just me. They have to get to know me and see if I'm what they want. Interestingly enough, most men will say the same thing. However, on a dating site most women view most men with skepticizm and seldom respond to messages. So in the end men and women don't cut each other enough slack to try to get to know one another. In real life that first meeting (even by accident) can open a door not usually available on dating sites. We don't trust each other. I almost always respond to messages. If they haven't put any effort into the messages, I may not respond for long, though. So, not all of us are like you described. |
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Tizar
Joined Sat 04/28/12 Posts: 493 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: Are the rest of us old adults?
Indeed, t'is the reality of things for us :) Nah. I'm nowhere near old. Just because you are not elderly, doesn't mean you're not old. You're certainly not young. |
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indianadave4
Joined Wed 02/09/11 Posts: 749 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I'm just me. They have to get to know me and see if I'm what they want. Interestingly enough, most men will say the same thing. However, on a dating site most women view most men with skepticizm and seldom respond to messages. So in the end men and women don't cut each other enough slack to try to get to know one another. In real life that first meeting (even by accident) can open a door not usually available on dating sites. We don't trust each other. I almost always respond to messages. If they haven't put any effort into the messages, I may not respond for long, though. So, not all of us are like you described. Then you are different than most women. Most men get writers cramp and never get a response. I can understand the "she's not interested in you" but after dozens of messages with no responses and no profile views the average man will give up. Somehow, the bad boys seem to get responses. I've often wondered if it's because they start playing on women's emotions even with the first message. |
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Tizar
Joined Sat 04/28/12 Posts: 493 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I'm just me. They have to get to know me and see if I'm what they want. Interestingly enough, most men will say the same thing. However, on a dating site most women view most men with skepticizm and seldom respond to messages. So in the end men and women don't cut each other enough slack to try to get to know one another. In real life that first meeting (even by accident) can open a door not usually available on dating sites. We don't trust each other. I almost always respond to messages. If they haven't put any effort into the messages, I may not respond for long, though. So, not all of us are like you described. Then you are different than most women. Most men get writers cramp and never get a response. I can understand the "she's not interested in you" but after dozens of messages with no responses and no profile views the average man will give up. Somehow, the bad boys seem to get responses. I've often wondered if it's because they start playing on women's emotions even with the first message. I always get messages, and responces 
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Chloe23Irish
Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 717 |
QUOTE: Now, I was speaking for my generation mainly, 18-24, that's what matters to them. I know, as people get older, looks become less of a factor as they themselves age and aren't exactly what they used to be at 20. Not everyone thinks this way. I fall into that 18 -24 category and I can assure you 100% I do NOT think looks are everything. Id choose the average Joe on the road over Brad Pitt ANY DAY!! |
Jeanniebean
Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 37016 |
For you 18 - 24 year olds, keep in mind that the brain is not mature until about 25 -27. You are still children.
If you really think that your picture or your looks are so important you should spend some money and have some really professional pictures taken for your profiles. Not so professional that it looks like glamour shots, but professional enough that it makes you look good. Don't expect someone to go ga ga over you with a poor unflattering shot of you. Then, at the very least you should list some of your interests.... if you have any. I see so many young people who have no interest in anything because they are so preoccupied with getting laid. (That's probably natural, but a bit boring.)
Edited by Jeanniebean on Wed 05/23/12 10:32 AM
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totage
Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 22875 |
QUOTE: Since this is a dating site some (not all) people here are looking to find a mate, partner, date or spouse. I see many people talking about what they want in a partner, but I don't see much about what they have to offer their partner. How would you sell yourself? What do you have to offer? Are you a great catch or not? I have nothing to offer anyone apparently. |
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25452 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I'm just me. They have to get to know me and see if I'm what they want. Interestingly enough, most men will say the same thing. However, on a dating site most women view most men with skepticizm and seldom respond to messages. So in the end men and women don't cut each other enough slack to try to get to know one another. In real life that first meeting (even by accident) can open a door not usually available on dating sites. We don't trust each other. I almost always respond to messages. If they haven't put any effort into the messages, I may not respond for long, though. So, not all of us are like you described. Then you are different than most women. Most men get writers cramp and never get a response. I can understand the "she's not interested in you" but after dozens of messages with no responses and no profile views the average man will give up. Somehow, the bad boys seem to get responses. I've often wondered if it's because they start playing on women's emotions even with the first message. When most messages from men on here are something like: "hi" "hey baby" "hey sexy" "hru" "sup" I can see why they don't get responses. Those who tend to put a bit more effort (doesn't mean they have to write a ton) into it probably do get better responses. |
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Jeanniebean
Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 37016 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: Since this is a dating site some (not all) people here are looking to find a mate, partner, date or spouse. I see many people talking about what they want in a partner, but I don't see much about what they have to offer their partner. How would you sell yourself? What do you have to offer? Are you a great catch or not? I have nothing to offer anyone apparently. Why do you say that? |
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Chloe23Irish
Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 717 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: Since this is a dating site some (not all) people here are looking to find a mate, partner, date or spouse. I see many people talking about what they want in a partner, but I don't see much about what they have to offer their partner. How would you sell yourself? What do you have to offer? Are you a great catch or not? I have nothing to offer anyone apparently. I can't imagine that to be true 
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Napodan
Joined Thu 01/05/12 Posts: 218 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I'm just me. They have to get to know me and see if I'm what they want. Interestingly enough, most men will say the same thing. However, on a dating site most women view most men with skepticizm and seldom respond to messages. So in the end men and women don't cut each other enough slack to try to get to know one another. In real life that first meeting (even by accident) can open a door not usually available on dating sites. We don't trust each other. I almost always respond to messages. If they haven't put any effort into the messages, I may not respond for long, though. So, not all of us are like you described. Then you are different than most women. Most men get writers cramp and never get a response. I can understand the "she's not interested in you" but after dozens of messages with no responses and no profile views the average man will give up. Somehow, the bad boys seem to get responses. I've often wondered if it's because they start playing on women's emotions even with the first message. Women are emotionally moved by what the hear. I dont think i have to write up crapy lies just to get a response. Thats why i prefer dating older ladies. |
unsure
Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4401 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: Since this is a dating site some (not all) people here are looking to find a mate, partner, date or spouse. I see many people talking about what they want in a partner, but I don't see much about what they have to offer their partner. How would you sell yourself? What do you have to offer? Are you a great catch or not? I have nothing to offer anyone apparently. BE SERIOUS! |
rara777
Joined Thu 10/18/07 Posts: 61393 |
QUOTE: Since this is a dating site some (not all) people here are looking to find a mate, partner, date or spouse. I see many people talking about what they want in a partner, but I don't see much about what they have to offer their partner. How would you sell yourself? What do you have to offer? Are you a great catch or not? If I would sell myself on here, couldn`t I get busted for solicitation?
Sorry about the comment.   
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Optomistic69
Joined Mon 10/10/11 Posts: 5173 |
QUOTE: Since this is a dating site some (not all) people here are looking to find a mate, partner, date or spouse. I see many people talking about what they want in a partner, but I don't see much about what they have to offer their partner. How would you sell yourself? What do you have to offer? Are you a great catch or not? 1. Me 2. The Whole Me 3. And Nothing But Me |