Have you ever made a decision that you knew you felt was right for you but you felt doubtful in actually going through with it? Do you listen to that voice inside your head that just says "Do it?"

Hi Mariah My life has been one decision after another since my divorce 20 years ago. I doubted very much of them & was scared schittless for many of them. Biggest two were First: Divorce. My x told me he would burn the house down and take my children away from me. My decision to listen to my voice was survival instincts. Second: Selling my home. The housing market was just starting to get bad and my payments were becoming unmanagable. I flipped a coin and it cam up heads to sell. What a roller coaster ride for the next year! If your head says yes and your gut says no, listen to your gut. Case in Point: After selling my house my x boyfriend said I could move in with him. I had an upset stomach from that time on. I moved in with him and moved out a year later.

I listen to my heart. The voices in my head play the tennis match...do it, don't do it, do it, don't do it...but a decision has to be made so I do what I "feel" is right. I figure if it's the wrong decision, I'll soon find out and adjust my course of action accordingly. If I follow my heart though, I'm usually happy with the outcome.

I try to take a combined approach to decision making.

Generally I know what I do and do not want and so don't agonize over a lot of decisions.

Early on when I started looking around what I thought life was all about I kind of roughed out a loose road map for myself. No I am not hog tied by an agenda or a lot of rules but having goals helped my focus and seems to have added to more successes than failures. Celebrateing each step in the goals also let it seem less unsurmountable and fun. Gave me something to hold onto when i stumbles as we all do.

I feel like I have a pretty good gut instinct too so when my gut starts pushing or pulling me one way or another I tend to listen. You can't always tell exactly what it is saying, especially if you are tired or ill, but if you remind yourself that you have a right to be happy, healthy, and free your gut tends to give you signals to follow. And really I don't think you have to justify it to anyone.

I try to make educated decisions and lower my risk factors. That usually means not rushing into too much or jumping off into something without "testing the water". We all know the old joke about experts only being aressholes but generally most decisions have been made by someone else before us so looking around to see how others have faired has saved my bacon several times and I recommend that. I don't buy everything I hear but if it makes sense it seems less stressful for me to proceed on what I know.

I even pray over stuff. Without getting religious I find it helps me so recommend whatever you see as your Higher power tune into it.

All that said I really want to stress that nobody has a crystal ball or perfect track record and sometimes failure is not as bad as it sounds because you learn a lot so try not to be too hung on fear or the few bad results we all get just living life. Overall it can be pretty good. Think about it if you are on here you have a lot of resources and pretty much the sky is the limit so Go With Angels and Eagles young lady.

I'm starting to trust my "gut feeling".
It's usually the one that's right. My heart and head make some good points, but my gut is the one that is usually right in the end.

i let my other head do all my thinkin

I have this problem.

Yes. Great for adventures.

The voices in my head play the tennis match...do it, don't do it, do it, don't do it..





You have those voices in your head too??????????????


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Nope....I just follow my initial instinct and then let the schitt hit the fan. More often than not, I am right. I ain't a big fan of overthinking or over analyzing a situation. Common sense in snap descisions works out better than you may think.

Thank you kind sir for the warm welcome and laying out the rules. Yes, I have multiple voices screaming loudly in my already addled brain but the imaginary shrink says it's nothing to worry about since I don't listen to anybody anyways.

Actually I've been on this site for years now, just haven't been around in awhile and don't post much even when I am. I'm more of the lurker type, hiding in the shadows and hoping to spy a possible accomplice to share my crazy life with. Hasn't happened yet but I believe in miracles so I'm not giving up hope.

Soooooo....post more.

Shake that love maker and get noticed!

Blending into the shadows is great if you need to be a ninja....not so great when attemping to be noticed for the beautiful woman that you are.

Just sayin....

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All the time. I can't say I'd be better or worse personally, but if people such as Bill Gates and Donald Trump didn't listen to that voice, they wouldn't be some of the richest people in the world.

All the time. Sometimes it has gotten me in trouble, but sometimes it has led to unexpected pleasant surprises. I always tell myself to play it safe, but sometimes I just have to go with my gut on something.

Yep, as long as I am not going to hurt anyone by doing it.

Glad to see you're the same sweet guy Krupa!

I don't really like to be the center of attention in any arena so I pretty much lie low wherever I am. I figure the right one will spot the diamond in the rough, no need for me to throw up a spotlight and advertise the wares. Sometimes being unnoticeable can draw the ones that see beyond the obvious, the ones that appreciate the subtle details, although I suppose this is just an assumption.

Taking into consideration. But what matters most is ultimately your truth. I'd rather blame myself for my own downfall then live life through someone else's eyes.

Sometimes you have to be ruthless, put your feeling aside and do what's best. A woman may be in love with a man that beats her. Does that mean should stay with him? Nonsense. She'll be better off in the long term by removing him from her life even if it does break her heart.

LOL This one has gotten me into a quandry a few times too. I found when I followed the devilish side it was so much punishment it got where is wasn't worth it. Especially true when my actions involved how things went for others. I am so stubborn you can pretty much horse whip me and I will laugh at you but you hurt someone I care about and I will knuckle under pretty fast. Makes me wonder how much trouble I am going to get myself into now I am a family of one again.