Topic: Chicks Dig Jerks
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Filmfreek Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 2541 |
Why do girls blow me off if I'm nice to them, but they seem interested if I'm an a hole???
Or why do they ignore me if I show interest & then suddenly become interested when I give up on trying to get them to notice me??? Why all the games ladies? |
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Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 19218 |
Nooooo FF, don't be one of those who starts a nice guy thread!
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soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 20284 |
You really need to ask the ones who are doing it.
The rest of us are just shaking our heads. |
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Filmfreek Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 2541 |
I have tried asking them & I always get the same reply. "Huh???...what are you talking about???...I don't play games." And then they get all defenseless & mad.
Seems like all the jerks took the cool chicks first, which leaves me with all the crazy ones.
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teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2464 |
QUOTE: Why do girls blow me off if I'm nice to them, but they seem interested if I'm an a hole??? Or why do they ignore me if I show interest & then suddenly become interested when I give up on trying to get them to notice me??? Why all the games ladies? Sounds like a personal problem. I dunno. With my current boyfriend, the more I see him treat people well in general, the better I like him not less. |
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HeadnHeart Joined Wed 06/02/10 Posts: 823 |
All too often we hear self-professed "Nice Guys" complaining about why they can't get a date, and whining that women just want to date jerks, etc. etc. The truth of the matter is that there are genuinely caring, compassionate, decent, fun guys out there who have NO TROUBLE meeting people, getting dates, and having relationships.
Unfortunately, many of the guys who DO have trouble, insist that women don't want them because they are "too Nice". These people who call themselves "Nice Guys" can't see that THEIR OWN behavior is the problem. That behavior either drives women away or attracts the WORST kind of predator - one who is manipulative and self-serving. Whether it is targeting women who are troubled to begin with, setting themselves up to be taken advantage of, or acting in a manipulative, patronizing or obsequious fashion, these guys sabotage themselves and often blame "all women" for their misfortunes. This section is devoted to the guys who suffer from that self-professed "Nice Guy" affliction. Here is the place to find out why YOUR behavior isn't as "Nice" as you think it is... http://www.heartless-*******.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml |
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manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29575 |
QUOTE: I have tried asking them & I always get the same reply. "Huh???...what are you talking about???...I don't play games." And then they get all defenseless & mad. Seems like all the jerks took the cool chicks first, which leaves me with all the crazy ones.
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Filmfreek Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 2541 |
I'll admit I have my problems just like everyone else. Nobody's perfect. But, I really am an honest, kind, genuine guy. Not to be mislabled as a "nice guy". Because I CAN be quite mean if you rub me the wrong way.
I don't know. I have dated a few sweethearts, but it seems like lately, I'm only talking to weird girls that like drama. Guess it's time to just put my head down, and keep trudgin along till I meet someone decent. Thanks for the feedback. |
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teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2464 |
QUOTE: I'll admit I have my problems just like everyone else. Nobody's perfect. But, I really am an honest, kind, genuine guy. Not to be mislabled as a "nice guy". Because I CAN be quite mean if you rub me the wrong way. I don't know. I have dated a few sweethearts, but it seems like lately, I'm only talking to weird girls that like drama. Guess it's time to just put my head down, and keep trudgin along till I meet someone decent. Thanks for the feedback. Don't stress over it. If you are truly a nice guy, at some point, some woman will find you and feel very lucky she did. You will make someone very happy eventually. |
StillLooking29
Joined Tue 04/20/10 Posts: 696 |
QUOTE: All too often we hear self-professed "Nice Guys" complaining about why they can't get a date, and whining that women just want to date jerks, etc. etc. The truth of the matter is that there are genuinely caring, compassionate, decent, fun guys out there who have NO TROUBLE meeting people, getting dates, and having relationships. Unfortunately, many of the guys who DO have trouble, insist that women don't want them because they are "too Nice". These people who call themselves "Nice Guys" can't see that THEIR OWN behavior is the problem. That behavior either drives women away or attracts the WORST kind of predator - one who is manipulative and self-serving. Whether it is targeting women who are troubled to begin with, setting themselves up to be taken advantage of, or acting in a manipulative, patronizing or obsequious fashion, these guys sabotage themselves and often blame "all women" for their misfortunes. This section is devoted to the guys who suffer from that self-professed "Nice Guy" affliction. Here is the place to find out why YOUR behavior isn't as "Nice" as you think it is... http://www.heartless-*******.com/rants/niceguys/ng.shtml Agreed |
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Filmfreek Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 2541 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: I'll admit I have my problems just like everyone else. Nobody's perfect. But, I really am an honest, kind, genuine guy. Not to be mislabled as a "nice guy". Because I CAN be quite mean if you rub me the wrong way. I don't know. I have dated a few sweethearts, but it seems like lately, I'm only talking to weird girls that like drama. Guess it's time to just put my head down, and keep trudgin along till I meet someone decent. Thanks for the feedback. Don't stress over it. If you are truly a nice guy, at some point, some woman will find you and feel very lucky she did. You will make someone very happy eventually. I guess one problem that I DO have is patience. I try to stay positive and believe that it will happen someday. I just hope it's not too late when it does. Thank you for the kind words. You just made my day.
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25457 |
Since I don't go for jerks, I can't answer your questions. Perhaps you'll have to ask the ladies who do that?
Generalizing about women isn't going to get you anywhere, though. |
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Filmfreek Joined Sat 11/15/08 Posts: 2541 |
QUOTE: Since I don't go for jerks, I can't answer your questions. Perhaps you'll have to ask the ladies who do that? Generalizing about women isn't going to get you anywhere, though. Haha. Did you even read through the thread? |
singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25457 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: Since I don't go for jerks, I can't answer your questions. Perhaps you'll have to ask the ladies who do that? Generalizing about women isn't going to get you anywhere, though. Haha. Did you even read through the thread? The ladies who have done this to you are the only ones that will be able to tell you why. If they can't tell you, neither can we. We can only guess. You started off the thread by generalizing about women. It just doesn't work that way. |
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ujGearhead Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 6524 |
QUOTE: Seems like all the jerks took the cool chicks first, which leaves me with all the crazy ones.
They're ALL crazy! Some just hide it better than others.... *Quickly runs out of the room while avoiding female propelled projectiles* |
singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25457 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: Seems like all the jerks took the cool chicks first, which leaves me with all the crazy ones.
They're ALL crazy! Some just hide it better than others.... *Quickly runs out of the room while avoiding female propelled projectiles* You could probably say that about many men as well.
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ujGearhead Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 6524 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: Seems like all the jerks took the cool chicks first, which leaves me with all the crazy ones.
They're ALL crazy! Some just hide it better than others.... *Quickly runs out of the room while avoiding female propelled projectiles* You could probably say that about many men as well.
MOST guys aren't crazy. We just reject the feminine ideal of saneness and substitute our own.
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25457 |
What is the "feminine ideal of saneness?" And what's your own?
Edited by singmesweet on Tue 07/17/12 12:08 PM
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ujGearhead Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 6524 |
QUOTE: What is the "feminine ideal of saneness?" And what's your own? If guys knew all their ideals (realistic or not) there probably wouldn't be as many dating sites. As far as my own goes...... *puts his spaghetti strainer hat back on* it involves knowing that Elvis can only be at one gas station at a time. |
singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25457 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: What is the "feminine ideal of saneness?" And what's your own? If guys knew all their ideals (realistic or not) there probably wouldn't be as many dating sites. As far as my own goes...... *puts his spaghetti strainer hat back on* it involves knowing that Elvis can only be at one gas station at a time. You said "we just reject the feminine ideal of saneness." To reject it, don't you have to know what it is?
Edited by singmesweet on Tue 07/17/12 12:20 PM
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