Topic: How Old Is too Old
navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: Age discrimination became an issue in the UK regarding employment in the workplace, there are now laws against age being a factor on whether you are suitable for any particular job. This to me illustrates the extent to which "agism" has risen. I gained a BSc degree at the age of 58 studying part time after a days work, who says you can't teach an old dog new tricks. Yes we all have preferences when it comes to finding a partner in love, and age is an influence to some,but labelling those who do not see age as a barrier in love interests is wrong in my opinion.Live and let live. Age discrimination is big here too. I guess I look at it that I am looking to retire in 17 years and if I were in a relationship; I would want that person to retire with me. No fun going on senior citizen trips while your partner is still working. I am just being practical when it comes to love and age. I look at the future; not just go day by day and hope for the best. To me; that is not being very logical and that is how I look at life and relationships. I don't let me emotions rule me; I let my brain do thinking instead. I understand your logic and respect your preferences, we all have choices to make in love interests and we are all different. It is the labelling of people who choose to date/marry someone younger or older than themselves that I find objectionable. Oh, now I understand what you were trying to say. I agree that let people do what they want to do and not judge them. |
miko1960
Joined Thu 06/11/09 Posts: 407 |
Just wanted to add my thoughts, I can't believe this thread is still going, anyway, we all have are own opinions, how many of us have ended up being with someone, we never thought we would be with, we are not always able to rule our own hearts, I never thought I would end up with someone in their thirties me being in my late forties at the time, I had been with this woman nearly three years, what can I say we both fell for one another, in my longest relationship, whom I refer to as my ex,she too was someone I never thought I would like too be with, we were such complete opposites of one another, too this day I still think about this woman and I still have feelings for her, we were together for 9yrs. oh we were only 4yrs apart, me being senior to her.
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sweetestgirl11
Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 22351 |
QUOTE: I'm not saying it won't work for everyone. I'm just speaking for myself. yes I understood that. I was just sharing a story. When it comes to love & matters of the heart things are subjective - true love can be so elusive sometimes that if u find it...I say go for it - it may not come 'round again and whose to judge who you love? I guess if there was one thing I could say to those much younger than me, it would be (from Hope Floats): Don't waste your chances they are not infinite I know that's a slight digression there - just a thought I was having 
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Rawrr_Girl
Joined Sun 10/04/09 Posts: 3517 |
In my last statement, I wasn't trying to insult the thread. I was just talking about all the disagreeing getting a bit old. We can never change anyone's mind. It's just how they are.
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singmesweet
Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 25451 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: Age discrimination became an issue in the UK regarding employment in the workplace, there are now laws against age being a factor on whether you are suitable for any particular job. This to me illustrates the extent to which "agism" has risen. I gained a BSc degree at the age of 58 studying part time after a days work, who says you can't teach an old dog new tricks. Yes we all have preferences when it comes to finding a partner in love, and age is an influence to some,but labelling those who do not see age as a barrier in love interests is wrong in my opinion.Live and let live. Age discrimination is big here too. I guess I look at it that I am looking to retire in 17 years and if I were in a relationship; I would want that person to retire with me. No fun going on senior citizen trips while your partner is still working. I am just being practical when it comes to love and age. I look at the future; not just go day by day and hope for the best. To me; that is not being very logical and that is how I look at life and relationships. I don't let me emotions rule me; I let my brain do thinking instead. I understand your logic and respect your preferences, we all have choices to make in love interests and we are all different. It is the labelling of people who choose to date/marry someone younger or older than themselves that I find objectionable. No one is saying you can't date or marry someone younger or older than you. Just find someone who has the same preferences. |
SashaLea
Joined Sun 09/09/12 Posts: 13 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: It's interesting to read different people's opinions and thoughts. When I say someone is mature they are more than just emotionally mature. They don't play head games, or go looking for drama. They understand that every action has a reaction, they have goals and ambitions. As for age just being a number, I always have and always will believe this...especially in love. Yes, age indicates the number of years we have been here on earth and how much cultural and societal changes we've witnessed. Age does not show the personal battles and milestones a person has experienced. While society and culture contribute to who you are, your personal conquests make you you. I am 25 years old and have been through more battles, whether win or lose, in my life than most people twice my age, and because of this I am unlike any other 25 year old. So to look at my age as a definer for who I am just doesn't seem fair if you ask me. Your right on the money! For some people (myself included) living outside of the boxes is far more natural than the man made rules of "norm". I believe you when you say "always will believe this". I'm 53 now and have had the same belief about this issue my whole life. People told me I was wrong or I would change, but this change never took place. I think (not to put down others) it has a lot to do with open-mindedness. The walls we build around us (most of time without us knowing) dictates our reactions to situations. If we never spend the time building those walls we remain fresh and open to more possibilities. You took the words right out of my mouth. I agree it has a lot to do with having an open mind and living life outside of the box. I think a lot of people, not all, put limits on age difference in a relationship because of what others will think or say about dating someone so much younger or older. I personally think life is far too short to worry at all about what others think. If something or someone makes me happy, I don't care what anyone else (except my son) thinks, it is my life and I want to live it as happily as possible. I would rather be a relationship with someone twice my age and happy, than be in a "socially accepted" relationship with someone closer to my age and unhappy. Some of the happiest couples I know have a significant age difference ranging from 10-22 years. You can't control who you fall in love with. |
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: It's interesting to read different people's opinions and thoughts. When I say someone is mature they are more than just emotionally mature. They don't play head games, or go looking for drama. They understand that every action has a reaction, they have goals and ambitions. As for age just being a number, I always have and always will believe this...especially in love. Yes, age indicates the number of years we have been here on earth and how much cultural and societal changes we've witnessed. Age does not show the personal battles and milestones a person has experienced. While society and culture contribute to who you are, your personal conquests make you you. I am 25 years old and have been through more battles, whether win or lose, in my life than most people twice my age, and because of this I am unlike any other 25 year old. So to look at my age as a definer for who I am just doesn't seem fair if you ask me. Your right on the money! For some people (myself included) living outside of the boxes is far more natural than the man made rules of "norm". I believe you when you say "always will believe this". I'm 53 now and have had the same belief about this issue my whole life. People told me I was wrong or I would change, but this change never took place. I think (not to put down others) it has a lot to do with open-mindedness. The walls we build around us (most of time without us knowing) dictates our reactions to situations. If we never spend the time building those walls we remain fresh and open to more possibilities. You took the words right out of my mouth. I agree it has a lot to do with having an open mind and living life outside of the box. I think a lot of people, not all, put limits on age difference in a relationship because of what others will think or say about dating someone so much younger or older. I personally think life is far too short to worry at all about what others think. If something or someone makes me happy, I don't care what anyone else (except my son) thinks, it is my life and I want to live it as happily as possible. I would rather be a relationship with someone twice my age and happy, than be in a "socially accepted" relationship with someone closer to my age and unhappy. Some of the happiest couples I know have a significant age difference ranging from 10-22 years. You can't control who you fall in love with. Interesting what you said about your son. So, what if he thinks you shouldn't be with an older person? Are you still going to do what makes you happy or what makes him happy? So, in essence you do worry about at least what one person thinks of your relationship choice. |
maletruckdriver
Joined Sun 10/25/09 Posts: 296 |
age is just a number do what ur heart tells u
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
QUOTE: age is just a number do what ur heart tells u Yep age is a number but for my my age is one heck of a high number. 
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Ushnelson
Joined Thu 09/13/12 Posts: 2 |
As far as im concern, age is just a number.. The most important thing is understanding.
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maletruckdriver
Joined Sun 10/25/09 Posts: 296 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: age is just a number do what ur heart tells u Yep age is a number but for my my age is one heck of a high number.
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maletruckdriver
Joined Sun 10/25/09 Posts: 296 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: age is just a number do what ur heart tells u Yep age is a number but for my my age is one heck of a high number.
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navygirl
Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 6138 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: age is just a number do what ur heart tells u Yep age is a number but for my my age is one heck of a high number.
You are just being kind. I am not a young woman anymore but that is okay. I don't kid myself about age. |
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maletruckdriver
Joined Sun 10/25/09 Posts: 296 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: age is just a number do what ur heart tells u Yep age is a number but for my my age is one heck of a high number.
You are just being kind. I am not a young woman anymore but that is okay. I don't kid myself about age. |