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Topic: I'm in a difficult position with online dating

hopscotch1234 Joined Wed 09/05/12 Posts: 12	Sat 09/08/12 10:38 AM I have spent most of my life reading body language, which is like 86% of communication, and now I have started to try online dating. It is like speaking a foreign language to me. I have no idea when someone is telling me the truth or being deceptive. How can anyone have an online relationship? I met this one gal after declining many scammers and prostitutes and various other what nots. I know there is deception out there just don't know how much if any is true and real. This gal I met has no cam, no phone, and no way of knowing who she is. She txts like japanese americans talk but is supposedly caucasion. K. lol. let me hear some opinions

wolfchic Joined Wed 09/26/07 Posts: 7683	Sat 09/08/12 10:46 AM She my be a scammer.Or just trying to be safe untill she gets to know you better! J.M.O

MissMari Joined Tue 09/04/12 Posts: 2	Sat 09/08/12 10:50 AM Shes def fake either that or its a man

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 20284	Sat 09/08/12 11:00 AM Usually, a scammer will make early attempts to lure you off site. Yahoo is the predominant tool for this. The reason is, there are no controls off site, like there are here. If you suspect someone of ulterior motives, use the Report feature, no harm no foul :-)

klc Joined Sat 08/18/07 Posts: 7531	Sat 09/08/12 11:08 AM getting in touch on here is only step one. Agree to meet for a cheeseburger somewhere. You dont build a real relationship totally online, and if anyone tells you thats not true they are lying.

klc Joined Sat 08/18/07 Posts: 7531	Sat 09/08/12 11:08 AM btw, ive never heard of texting without a phone. ...and how do japanese americans talk? Ive never heard of that either. Edited by klc on Sat 09/08/12 11:09 AM

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 29064	Sat 09/08/12 11:13 AM QUOTE: btw, ive never heard of texting without a phone. ...and how do japanese americans talk? Ive never heard of that either. "you been here 4 hour" "you go! you go now!"

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19119	Sat 09/08/12 12:16 PM no phone no cam an she still txts unless u refering text to ims. i don't have a cam anymore for a reason but i do have phone an intend to text a person when asked but if it was the case your in then i would back off that usually means they nice an stuff then turn around an ask for money or something its just me but i would stay away from people like that.

456tessa Joined Wed 07/11/12 Posts: 31	Sat 09/08/12 12:33 PM I've been rather new here, too. And I have already experienced that a few guys have tempted to lure me off the site immediatelly after we had made a contact here giving me their yahoo id etc. I didn't do it, because going to a more personal contact like this is simply too fast for me...But I always wondered if I was too distrustful or weired, because to me online chatting and phone can be used only when there has been already some knowledge, trust and intimacy established through mailing... But all I experience is some strange hastiness I just can't get along... What do you guys think about this: is step by step approach to intimacy in online dating really so unreasonable or out of date? I have some other questions: are all such "hasty" people supposed to be scammers? What do the scammers really want to gain and why in particular do they use yahoo??? I hope I don't sound too ignorant, but I would really be grateful for any helpful information...:)

Mikey117 Joined Mon 11/20/06 Posts: 23673	Sat 09/08/12 12:39 PM RUN!! AS fast as U can away from her!!

klc Joined Sat 08/18/07 Posts: 7531	Sat 09/08/12 12:41 PM QUOTE: I've been rather new here, too. And I have already experienced that a few guys have tempted to lure me off the site immediatelly after we had made a contact here giving me their yahoo id etc. I didn't do it, because going to a more personal contact like this is simply too fast for me...But I always wondered if I was too distrustful or weired, because to me online chatting and phone can be used only when there has been already some knowledge, trust and intimacy established through mailing... But all I experience is some strange hastiness I just can't get along... What do you guys think about this: is step by step approach to intimacy in online dating really so unreasonable or out of date? I have some other questions: are all such "hasty" people supposed to be scammers? What do the scammers really want to gain and why in particular do they use yahoo??? I hope I don't sound too ignorant, but I would really be grateful for any helpful information...:) sometimes theyre 'hasty' because all they want is sex.

totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 22875	Sat 09/08/12 12:57 PM QUOTE: I have spent most of my life reading body language, which is like 86% of communication, and now I have started to try online dating. It is like speaking a foreign language to me. I have no idea when someone is telling me the truth or being deceptive. How can anyone have an online relationship? I met this one gal after declining many scammers and prostitutes and various other what nots. I know there is deception out there just don't know how much if any is true and real. This gal I met has no cam, no phone, and no way of knowing who she is. She txts like japanese americans talk but is supposedly caucasion. K. lol. let me hear some opinions Red flags, possible scammer. "Google" her screen name, email address, IM ids, any info. she has given you to see if she is a known scammer. Even if nothing comes up, she may still be a scammer, just use common sense and trust your gut.

totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 22875	Sat 09/08/12 01:00 PM QUOTE: btw, ive never heard of texting without a phone. ...and how do japanese americans talk? Ive never heard of that either. Every major phone company has the text to phone on their site, there's other services that can text to phone online. If you have email, you can send text via email, you just send an email to the phones email address, they can reply as well.

alleoops Joined Sat 08/06/11 Posts: 3303	Sat 09/08/12 01:04 PM QUOTE: QUOTE: btw, ive never heard of texting without a phone. ...and how do japanese americans talk? Ive never heard of that either. Every major phone company has the text to phone on their site, there's other services that can text to phone online. If you have email, you can send text via email, you just send an email to the phones email address, they can reply as well. I rewery rike u a rot. me luv u long time. ok?

klc Joined Sat 08/18/07 Posts: 7531	Sat 09/08/12 01:24 PM QUOTE: QUOTE: btw, ive never heard of texting without a phone. ...and how do japanese americans talk? Ive never heard of that either. Every major phone company has the text to phone on their site, there's other services that can text to phone online. If you have email, you can send text via email, you just send an email to the phones email address, they can reply as well. ah, yes. I forgot about that.

Sadiesgirl Joined Fri 10/29/10 Posts: 25	Sat 09/08/12 01:26 PM Just beware, she doesn't sound up front to me...

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 8955	Sat 09/08/12 02:04 PM My feeling she is she may be put off by your profile picture and just keeping things very safe. If someone doesn't post several pictures and trys to go off site before you want to then they are probabaly either a scammer of just bored playing on a phone and probably married. I get everyone is not a college graduate and may not have the best typing or grammer/spelling skills which should not preclude them being a good person but light conversation should not be that hard to get out of someone. Why waste your time? Too many nice people on line that are willing to make an effort.

Hikerjohn Joined Sun 08/19/12 Posts: 1026	Sat 09/08/12 02:06 PM Some girls here just want to have sex? See that's a problem. I would like you to report those to me and I investigate and get to the bottom of this.

hopscotch1234 Joined Wed 09/05/12 Posts: 12	Sat 09/08/12 05:22 PM QUOTE: QUOTE: I have spent most of my life reading body language, which is like 86% of communication, and now I have started to try online dating. It is like speaking a foreign language to me. I have no idea when someone is telling me the truth or being deceptive. How can anyone have an online relationship? I met this one gal after declining many scammers and prostitutes and various other what nots. I know there is deception out there just don't know how much if any is true and real. This gal I met has no cam, no phone, and no way of knowing who she is. She txts like japanese americans talk but is supposedly caucasion. K. lol. let me hear some opinions Red flags, possible scammer. "Google" her screen name, email address, IM ids, any info. she has given you to see if she is a known scammer. Even if nothing comes up, she may still be a scammer, just use common sense and trust your gut. I got her to give me her address and then I used google earth and saw there was a ball diamond across the road from her house and so I asked her what was across the road from her and she said a school. lol. idk

totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 22875	Sat 09/08/12 05:24 PM QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: I have spent most of my life reading body language, which is like 86% of communication, and now I have started to try online dating. It is like speaking a foreign language to me. I have no idea when someone is telling me the truth or being deceptive. How can anyone have an online relationship? I met this one gal after declining many scammers and prostitutes and various other what nots. I know there is deception out there just don't know how much if any is true and real. This gal I met has no cam, no phone, and no way of knowing who she is. She txts like japanese americans talk but is supposedly caucasion. K. lol. let me hear some opinions Red flags, possible scammer. "Google" her screen name, email address, IM ids, any info. she has given you to see if she is a known scammer. Even if nothing comes up, she may still be a scammer, just use common sense and trust your gut. I got her to give me her address and then I used google earth and saw there was a ball diamond across the road from her house and so I asked her what was across the road from her and she said a school. lol. idk If you suspect that she maybe a scammer, stop communicating with her, report her, and block her.

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