hello. it was, when i was younger considered good to wait for the right person to lose your virginity to. a special event. virginity was something to be cherished, a sign of innocence.
is it in this modern era that the overall view of virginity has lost value among people?
no one appears to care when they lose there virginity these days and it seems to be a growing thought that cherishing virginity is old-fashioned.
it may be that people feel that they are missing out on life. that everyone is in the 'cool' group- so to speak- and your not. i personally feel that, that feeling of isolation is constant and that everyone feels lonely, lost and scared sometimes in the world. i digress.
is viginity still valued?

of course virginity has value. although if you happen to be one of the 72 appointed to be with a suicide bomber after he completes a mission, you might not feel as special

Ese......thats been dropped to 42....

Cut backs ya know!!!!!

its the .....Obama Plan!!

I think it shows how much self-worth someone has if they wait however long until they finally try it. I like someone who doesn't listen to society expectations, otherwise I end up standing my ground with my own morals. Never gave in to pressure. Still would rather do something when it feels just right. Not because people tell me to.

I don't know. its a hard question to answer.
There aren't many active volcanos any more.......
so I'm not sure there is much call for 'em.
But..........

I think if it works for someone personally....they shouldn't let society tell them different!!!

Since most people remember the "first time" like none other I would hope it is something special.

Kind of a one time gift so I see it as valuable.

Sad so many see it as something to get over.

highly over rated = practice is much more fun

This might be the very reason for the big scramble to lose the personal virginity. Who wants to spend an eternity with a horny Arab, or worse, who wants to spend eternity with a cold as ice Arab. Or Muslim, rather.

If I were a virgin, could I choose the woman that gets entitled to 72 virgin guys? I mean, it MUST work both ways, otherwise a lot of male virgins would spend eternity unemployed, and I am sure god frowns on those who don't work. No work, no food, even in heaven, is god's motto. God is a good Republican, and everyone knows that. He is present at every Republican party meeting and convention. It's in the bible.

If you want to stay a virgin and wait until you're ready, go for it. If you don't, then don't. It's a personal choice that you make. It shouldn't matter what others think.

That is true to a degree but if you live in a culture that values a certain degree of restraint then you buck the system and you have to accept the consequences of not following the prevailing mores.

In smaller communities where pretty much there is little privacy a woman who choses to be sexually active as it pleases her at the moment may find her choices limited in partners for committed relationships, houseing, even employment, or developeing same sex friendships or joining groups. Especially if her reputation preceeds her either by not being descreet herself or her partners or friends betraying her.

It is an unfair bias that is usually but not always applied to women.

And this is a problem that still exists currently. Even here in the USA.

It's still something the person has to decide. Whatever they choose is fine. There will always be people who judge that choice, no matter what.

I think where I get confused is why some care so much about what others do - as long it is not impacting them???? (in common speak - get a life - no one likes a busy body as my mom used to say )

Of course it is an individual choice for adult women AND men. I think the stigmas attached to sexual behavior - double standards- where they exist is another topic, but I agree that they do exist as pacificstar is saying.

Even so it is the individual's choice as to whether taboos or social pressures will affect their behavioral decisions - be it to have sex or not....still an individual choice.

So, if you are from Virginia,
it doesn't necessarily mean.....?
I visited there once..I think I
got it back.

That's my story.
I am sticking with it.

People are very judgmental, so I get why people worry about what others say. But in this case, I just think it's silly to worry about what others say.

I have been to Regina. Does that count?

I know many couples that succefully married as virgins and no of them claim they wish they has not waited. But it's important they do it for the right reasons and that they don't marrie just because they couldn't wait any longer.

That era of which you speak also greatly frowned upon divorce. Marriage is no longer sacred either in many cases. I think people should trust more in god and do what their heart tells them more than anything society says. As time goes by it often proves society to have been wrong. earth flat, vietnom, blk dustbowl, slavery, womens rights, etc. could go on and on. I think a person should come to a point of maturity and then make their own choices according to their heart. I think a lot of things are made too much of and then there is a great chance for disapointment. Holidays, weddings, virginity, etc. Not to say that stuff is not important but should be approached w sensibility.

(I think you are a Queen again!)

Im still a Virgin and it aint no fun!!

Lol. Well I did freeze something off so I think you maybe right!