So here's the thing, I message girls, some reply, most don't. The ones that do reply are usually just with a "hi". So I try some small talk to break the ice. Then something happens: NOTHING! Haha I generally don't get another reply. What gives? Is there too much competition out there and I'm just too ordinary? Advice greatly appreciated.

Have no idea what the problem is but I do know that I've had the same problem.

Women are colossal perverts, and sneak around perving profiles then sit in bathroom stalls shredding toilet paper talking to each other about their pervyness!

This site is pretty useless around our age range.

Great place to meet friends, but don't get your hopes up.

Oh no! Our secret is out

I've had the same problem mate. Wouldn't worry too much about it though. Seems to be a cultural norm or something in the internet dating world. Just gotta keep trying till you find the right girl I suppose and then hopefully hit it off

Not getting an answer may often mean that the other side is simply not interested.....either because of sth in your profile (she is perhaps looking for sth else) or because there isn't enough disclosed information to get interested enough to start a chat... A girl often needs a reason to answer back. And if, for example, somebody starts a conversation just by refering to her picture (though she has plenty other textual information, and she expects men to take the text as seriously as the picture or even more) than she probably won't answer to sb messaging her: "Hi. I love your picture ...", not because she is rude but because she can justly make an assumption that the man on the other side is looking for a more superficial relationship than her and so does not want to get involved into unnecessary conversation... Of course, it may be also a vice versa case (the girl seeking a lighter and more superficial relationship).... I'm not saying that this is exactly the case with you, but I'm trying to explain at least a part of possible logic behind this behaviour...
Or: It is also possible that the girl doesn't want to start chatting (short instant messaging) as the first step, without having established a certain knowledge, friendship... through a bit longer and more revealing letters at first...
There are a lot of possibilities...And remember: we reveal ourselves through everything we do/say or not do/say ...and it's OK....When we reveal overselves, we know if that's what we are looking for...and when we find out it's not, we continue to wait or do sth else....that's why we are here for, right?

I think while girls are wanting to find someone really special, they make lots of friends. Then through those friends they might find someone special.

So if your not trying to make friends with them and your not becoming someone special, well your probably goIng to be spinning your wheels.

That's probably not the way you wanted this to go but your not the one who is in control here. She is.

What kind of messages are you sending them that they're just replying to with "hi?"

What kind of "small talk" are you trying to break the ice with? Does it have anything to do with what you've read in their profile? Does it give them much to respond to?

Ice breakers, like asking how long they've been in our city. You see I just moved there and I'm trying to meet people. Also, I'm not the type of guy to just spill my whole life into a message on the first or second time. I believe that getting to know someone is progressive and takes time. I'm just an ordinary guy, I can't sweep someone off their feet "online". That's a personal thing for me, it has to be done in person after I gauge the amount of chemistry flowing. That's why I hate online dating sooo much. I did it for 9 months with a filipina, and although I made several trips over there, it sucked! You can't really know a person "online".

No one is talking about spilling your whole life in one email. What I suggest is to start reading profiles. Contact people based on what you find interesting about them. Try to start conversations based on what interested you about them. Give them something to respond to, rather than just typical questions that most people ask.

Nothing is wrong with you, keep on! Am experiencing the same. Hey one day will be your day!!

probably the same thing that's wrong with me




we're just 2 ugly s.o.b's

The secrets out ladies! Back to the drawing board.