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Marriage requires preparation, planning, and commitment. Cohabitation just happens.
People invest a tremendous amount of time and efforts into getting married and still 50% of marriages fail. Often the mental and emotional preparation for a wedding takes over a year. Commitments are made through vows, symbols (rings, etc), multiple ceremonies, and usually tons of family involvement. There is usually a strong spiritual aspect to getting married. Couples often receive some form of counseling before getting married. Financial plans are carefully talked about and executed. Even after all this over 50% of all marriages dissolve. Cohabitating usually requires virtually no planning. It does not elicit the support of family. There are no ceremonies. There is no display of public commitment. The commitment to live together can usually be summed up like this, “Let’s just try it and see how it works out.” There is no counseling, etc, etc. It just happens. Then it just ends…over 90% of the time. Cohabitation is almost always a failure waiting to happen. Ask anyone who’s done it – living together is hard work. Even for married couples, living together is actually the most difficult part! So how do you make an educated decision? Well obviously based on the statistics, the most educated decision is to not live together. You really can’t go wrong by deciding to not live together. Read that sentence again before continuing. YOU REALLY CAN’T GO WRONG BY DECIDING TO NOT LIVE TOGETHER. However I know that answer is not good enough for anyone who feels deep down inside that their love is strong enough to overcome all the problems with living together. To increase your odds of success focus on planning Get online and do the research. www.derfmagazine.com |
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Marriage requires preparation, planning, and commitment. Cohabitation just happens. People invest a tremendous amount of time and efforts into getting married and still 50% of marriages fail. Often the mental and emotional preparation for a wedding takes over a year. Commitments are made through vows, symbols (rings, etc), multiple ceremonies, and usually tons of family involvement. There is usually a strong spiritual aspect to getting married. Couples often receive some form of counseling before getting married. Financial plans are carefully talked about and executed. Even after all this over 50% of all marriages dissolve. Cohabitating usually requires virtually no planning. It does not elicit the support of family. There are no ceremonies. There is no display of public commitment. The commitment to live together can usually be summed up like this, “Let’s just try it and see how it works out.” There is no counseling, etc, etc. It just happens. Then it just ends…over 90% of the time. Cohabitation is almost always a failure waiting to happen. Ask anyone who’s done it – living together is hard work. Even for married couples, living together is actually the most difficult part! So how do you make an educated decision? Well obviously based on the statistics, the most educated decision is to not live together. You really can’t go wrong by deciding to not live together. Read that sentence again before continuing. YOU REALLY CAN’T GO WRONG BY DECIDING TO NOT LIVE TOGETHER. However I know that answer is not good enough for anyone who feels deep down inside that their love is strong enough to overcome all the problems with living together. To increase your odds of success focus on planning Get online and do the research. www.derfmagazine.com |
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I guess the 50% of marriages that fail are the ones that had crappy churches that did not offer counseling.
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I will cohabit or marry, as long as we are monogamous.
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