just wondering if any one else here has special need kids, my 13 year old has a form of autism and my 11 year old has OCD....

My son is L.D. and ADD and my nephew is autistic. It's not easy, sometimes

what is LD??

My daughter has a Learning Disability as well. She was born with a chronic hearing condition which even after being surgically repaired she still struggles. It it definetly a challenge but its also something special that makes them unique. I firmly believe that we are given the opportunity to have these children born to us because we are the right people to take care of them and help them thrive into great adults.

well put, my prayers are with all of you

LD, learning disabled. He can't write, thought process is bad, what he sees on the paper isn't what is there. And, he has a hard time distinguishing symbols, in math. The math has gotten better but we've been told he's as far as he's gonna get in the writing. He's almost 13 and writes at a kindergarten level. But, as long as he can type stuff, he's ok. The ADD doesn't help, I'll tell you that

I know I'm a couple days behind on this post but I have a question. I have a 26 year old daughter with Cerebral Palsy, MR, seizures. She is functioning but is like a 5 year old. My question: I do have the information about her in my profile since when I didn't and than emails started and I told the other person about her, they stopped emailing.

Do you think it is best to leave the info on the profile or just deal with the rejection later?

i say leave it in the profile. if they are to accept you its a pkg deal. because a child has a situation does not mean they are a problem. if they chose to reject you because of your love of your child, to hell with them, they are not worthy of you anyways!

Absolutely agreed, anyone who cannot or isn't willing to accept that going in, isn't worth your time.

Thanks for the input.

I have a special needs daughter and do not have that in my profile. If that would be a turn off to some, those same guys would be a turn off to me.

My son is just a newborn but I live with my family still and all of my siblings are special needs kids.

We have to live in a house that is big and we cannot afford because each kid has to have their own bedroom.

my 15 year old brother has anger problems and ADHD along with depression. My 12 year old brother has asburgers, anti-social personality disorder, OCD and explosive something disoder... My sister who is 9 has the mentality of a 3 year old and is well beyond her years... I have no idea how my mother does it I can barely handle my son without wanting to cry!

You mom sounds like one stromg lady. I know what you mean. Most of us have those teary moments then get on to the next day.
Smiles and Hugs

I didn't know that (or I forgot)I know her son and he is great to be around, we have lots of fun

My 15 yr old daughter has ADHD, OCD, depression, and has had separation anxiety. And now I have to get her tested for Tourrets Syndrome to determine whether her strange loud noises are tics. But otherwise she is a normal teenager; quite popular and intelligent and very capable of making great grades when she wants to. She is highly creative and imaginative with art and plans a career in animal science. So, there is life beyond all these annoyances she and I must deal with. We just take them in stride, talk thru them some days, yell at each other some days, ignore it some days, and don't even remember she has it some days. Medication is crucial and so is the right counselor. "Right" being one that she feels comfortable with and is glad to talk to. She now knows this is just some glitches in her body that she deals with; and understands it has nothing to do with who she is and what she plans to do in life. I don't allow her to hide behind or use them as excuses to get away with stuff either. It's important to treat a child normally and not allow them to adopt the labels as who they are. So, it's all treatable, just different symptoms and different levels of it. Just remember the important thing is they are encouraged to be themselves and that everyone has something in life they have to deal with; whether it's physical, mental, or emotional. They need to know they are perfectly fine just as they are.

I'm dealing with the same things. My daughter will be 15 months old on the 1st of Feb. She has CP,Epilepsy and Failure to Thrive. I say if they don't like it there's the door don't let it hit you where the good Lord split you. My daughter will always be in my life. So why should we keep their challenges to our selves. On top of everything going on with my daughter my son has ADHD.

my youngest has special needs; high functioning autism and bipolar disorder. he's very stable and making significant progress but the highest level of functionality his doctor's and i have for him is a group home situation. i've accepted that and am ok...now. i wasn't always ok with it; it just took some getting used to. however, he's beginning to show greater progress at 14 (15 next month OMG) than we expected at 18ish so perhaps our estimation of his adult functional capacity is not giving him credit for all he is capable of achieving. I hope so. It would be beautiful for him. Yes, this is the same child I posted about today trying to get out of staying at school today LOL

I don't have it in my profile and tend to save it for something a bit later in a relationship before breaking it to folks. So far, guys have been pretty accepting. Although, I've not found Mr. Right but it had nothing to do with my child's issues. I just kind of think something of that nature can be a bit overwhelming in trying to get to know a new person and potential SO. If a person has potential then I bring up the topic. If they don't then I don't pursue it and can avoid putting the poor soul through the shock and trying to find a way to say they aren't interested without having to say OMG your kid is too much for me :)Mostly it just saves me the heartbreak of it all. All in all, I've found women are more critical/unaccepting of my child than men.

To all of you .I have a great neice with Disabilaties,What Aawsoe person she is.I thank the good lord for bring her into our lives.It is very hard for her mother.She can't help but feel guilty that she did somthing wrong to deserve this.So to you all.Be happy and proud that god found you to raise these Awsome children.
I now that it is hard.But they are blessing,And need to know they are.

while I don't have kids, Personally, I was diagnosed with ADD, which I probably do have, and a so called "non verbal learning disability" which, looking back, I don't really have that, I just saw an incompetent psychologist.

I do have a friend with genuinely diagnosed aspergers though, he's a nice guy, but you can tell

I do not have kids..but I myself am "differently-abled"(Spina Bifida and confined to a wheelchair..I hate the words disabled and handicapped..I was raised in a single parent home..and I think my life actually turned out for the better because of that..my "dad"..(which I do not use that word to describe him..lol)..was and still is a jerk..lol