if a guy you go out on a few dates with is taking you serious or just trying to get you into bed?...i notice a lot of guys in here that do the serious talk about what they want but end up talking about they're more intrested in messing around lol i find that funny and at the same time annoying for spending time in trying to get to know the person to end up with not really looking for nothing serious....would luv to hear from guys especially.. ladies your still more than welcome to give me some advise here

You never know. Funny story (ill make it brief) my-ex was just some girl I was trying to fool around with, we had sex within 3 days of meeting eachother, I ended up in a wonderful relationship with her for 18 months and we had a very mutual and simple break up, we still are best friends (not with benefits you sicko) lol, It is difficult to tell I say....

if they talk about sex then that what ther after got to get to know someone first

It doesnt look like you've been here very long.

I don't know what kind of immoral people you're talking to! lol. I seriously would want nothing more than a relationship, i honestly can wait on sex... some guys are idiots >.>

I guess the way you can tell is if they try to smooth talk you alot. Like seriously, i have a friend and that is all he lives for and he tries to smooth talk girls that he goes out with all the time!

Now, if you want to know he is sincere... look for the small things like opening the car door for you or pulling out your chair for dinner. Just other small things like that, you know? That's what I do and it works alright.. don't get a kiss on the first date, but hey, if i wanted to be a player, i'd be smooth talking people all day

Your instinct is the best way to tell... like how he is acting.

lol ooh i never would of thought other wise . So do you think you should sleep with the person and see where things go?

Hi Jewel, I cant speak for the other guys on here, but I know that I am looking for something specific on here, but I also enjoy joking around and getting into the forum chats...sexy or otherwise. There is no sure fire way of knowing for sure if the guy your interested in in serious about getting to know you or only trying to get you in bed. Just stay smart, keep your eyes open and have some fun.

i like to talk to a woman for two weeks before we meet.that way,i know if we have anything in common.also,i like to know who i might be meeting. (edit for spelling mistake)

lol can't say i have...

NO!!! I would say that would be very skankish... but what do i know? I just have morals, and that would be totally against them! Especially on a first date!

I've been dumped for not wanting sex right off the bat...I'm a scorpio, I always want sex - I just have standards that must be met before I act on my wants

I've went out with several wonderful ladies that I met on JSH. It works. However,distance is a serious factor, but I enjoy chatting with all the others that live too far away.

hey makes sense to me...thanks!

I agree that some guys are idiots.. and you just can't tell.

I have known good friends that were players and they acted like they were more interested in a relationship than I did (when I wasn't that way) - so girls would be all over them..

They were just being played.. It sucked.. seen it many times.. glad I don't have to do that anymore.

lol, so i've heard :P Damn Leos... so aggressive :P

OMG!! An attractive Marylander on this site!?..Welcome!

Very nicely said Scorpio! yep yep you scorpios are very sexual

I would not want to just TELL you to do that, it is always your decision. However, it usually is best to wait a few weeks just to worm out someone who JUST wants sex with you. Of course some guys will hold out that long even if that is all they want, BUT watch the guys behavior during those weeks. If he calls you (not you calling him) etc. and genuinely seems to like you for YOU, he probably is interested in more than sex. LOL, more on my story (after my ex and I had sex, she was like "NOW, You are'nt just gonna use me as some booty call?! and me being the sarcastic comedian i am said, "Should'nt you have asked me that before we had sex?" LOL, it was funy at the moment.

Believe me you will be able to tell the difference adventually

Believe me you will be able to tell the difference adventually