Me? My life at present? TaDa - I've lived a series of TaDas and a good deal of “Weeeee!” - my daughter, friends, family, relationships, education have all blessed me greatly. I am a very happy aggregate of all of their input (and pizza). I hated the idea of divorce and the reality was worse. It was – however - the right thing to do and my ex and I are both better for it and great friends. My daughter teaches me daily and keeps me much younger than I am. She is my darling. The folks are a constant support system, source of wisdom and a ground in consistency. It is a joy to be a part of their 50 year date. My friends are diverse and wonderful – goofy and brilliant. Each is a mentor to some portion of my life and I am beholden to them. The relationships I’ve had have each made me a better man. Each woman in my life has been (still are) spectacular. If I knew what was “missing” in any one of the relationships – and could find “it” I’d still be in that relationship. I didn’t, I couldn’t, I am not and I am good with that.

So assuming nurture over nature - I am where I am because this is where I chose to be. It is where I want to go/be from here forward that inspired me to try this forum.

I, like most I know, want more. Not much more but something solid, uplifting, reciprocal and enriching. Something like more old movies, more time on Sunday afternoons, trips to New Orleans, more wiener schnitzel, more flowers, the need for conversation, the quiet ecstasy of embrace - of kisses, the paralyzing rapture of making love, the elation and joy of reaching out to another soul, the want to get deeper and desire to trust in that person more greatly so that we can allow ourselves to be more vulnerable, the vision of a future filled with family, but complete with each other, to build a dream and reach it together, cake, the Cubs to win one, the perfect burger, a lower handicap, smaller belt size, more “A duck walks into a bar…” jokes, and a wee more music… to name a few.

I’ve had these in degrees; I’ve lost some to being an idiot and lost some to other’s indifference or misgivings and lost still others to a chocolate addiction and an un-healthy emotional dependency on the Chicago Cubs . So be it. A dear friend often says “Everything happens for a reason and in the end it is always the right reason.” I am not sure I “buy” that to the letter – but… My “book of regrets” is empty.

The iPod runs from Edith Piaf to Daddy Yankee and from George Jones to Fall Out Boy. Stevie Wonder still slays me and Aretha still won’t return my calls.

So who do I want you to be? Dunno. If I could “build” the perfect partner I’d be insanely wealthy and in the manufacturing business. I’ve never dated the same (type) woman twice and (as stated) I’ve been overwhelmed by how much each of them has brought to the “table.” Of course if you bring me an Oreo and I’ll follow you anywhere.

If you want to go to the ballgame, or grab a dinner, or a drink, golf, or just chat after work and see if we like each other then lets do! Great things start simply. I do ask you have a dream, an attitude and opinion of your own.

Anything else you’d like to know – just ask.