Originally from Dagenham,East London,now living in Kansas State,USA.Since my divorce in 1993,i have become more of a roaming gnome.So,i look for female friends.Though i have known many people in this country,not many have become close friends.
Though i do not take people or things at face value,i do take and respect them,for who or what they are.We've all made mistakes in life,i'm no exception,but like yin and yang,there comes good out of bad and vice-versa.I'm not perfect,i'm just me.I believe,no one has the right to prejudge anyone.I also know that people all over the world,can get along together,it's only politics,that prevents that,in MOST cases.I'm not political,like i said,i'm just me,it's up to people if they can accept that.
It's really amazing nowadays,how fast this world is changing.What i've noticed,is in general,people don't trust each other anymore.Some women out there,believe men are only after one thing.Some men out there,believe women want a free ride to life.In some cases,yes,it's true on both sides,but not everyone thinks the same.Some of us do believe in values and virtues.So,trust goes out the window.However,if you can not learn to trust someone,how are they going to trust you?
Then there is of course,the people who have no respect for themselves.Again,if you can not respect yourself,just how do you expect others to respect you?You have to believe in yourself,in order for others to believe in you.If you can not do that,the fundamental of life,then you truly have my sympathy.After all,you can not help someone,whose not willing,to help themselves.
In a nutshell,you have to be friends,before getting involved.Listen as well as hearing and be honest enough with others,to properly get to know them.The least you are going to get out of it,is a friend and a better world to live in.You are the only one,who can change your life and,in return,just maybe,someone,will want to share it with you.

There's a Bull Frog hiding under the reeds on the river bank one day,when a Scorpion approaches him.

"Hi Frog,what are you doing here?" asks the Scorpion

"Well....." replies the Frog ".....my home is across the water,so i wait until dark so i can cross the water without a predator getting me."

"Well...." says the Scorpion, "....I too need to cross the water,but i can't swim.So,if you would let me ride on your back,no predator will attack you,when they see me on your back"

"But if i do that...." says the Frog,"......you will sting me and i will surely die."

"If i did that,i too would die,since i can't swim!" replies the Scorpion

After a few minutes of thought,the Frog see's the logic in it and agree's to give the Scorpion a ride.The Scorpion gets on the frog's back and they start the journey across the water.

Halfway across,the Scorpion stings him

"You stung me...." says the Frog, "....We will both surely die! WHY DID YOU DO THAT?"

"I'm sorry....." replies the Scorpion, "....... it's in my nature!"

CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Personally,i have the typical "Bulldog" attitude which makes me direct,upfront and "tell it how it is". I refuse to use and abuse others and have the well known British sense of humour,but also know when to be serious.

A question to ponder......

Consider the man,driving a long country road,early one sunny Sunday morning.The sun is bright in the morning sky and the golden wheat in the meadows,sways in the breeze as a skylark sings over head.
Suddenly ahead,he notices a four way stop,so gently,he takes his foot off the accelerator and gently applies the brake.On slowing,he looks left,then right,then left again and on seeing no vehicles in sight,he lifts his foot from the brake and coasts through the intersection,unaware of the police cruiser behind him.
Within seconds,the officer has him pulled over."Why have you stopped me,Officer?" asks the driver."Well Sir....." replies the cop,"...you failed to stop at the sign back there". "But..." argues the driver "..... i almost stopped,but didn't see the point,since no other vehicles were in sight,so WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE???!!!!"
With that,the Officer pulls the driver out of his vehicle and,starts to beat him with his stick."Now Sir..." asks the Officer,"...would you rather i ALMOST stop,or COMPLETELY stop?"

Applying this scenario to your life,are you the Cop,or the Driver?

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Whose woods these are I think I know.
His house is in the village though;
He will not see me stopping here
To watch his woods fill up with snow.

My little horse must think it queer
To stop without a farmhouse near
Between the woods and frozen lake
The darkest evening of the year.

He gives his harness bells a shake
To ask if there is some mistake.
The only other sound's the sweep
Of easy wind and downy flake.

The woods are lovely, dark and deep.
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep.