When will I find love: The very first 4 steps to find your love (for ladies only)

By L.a.

Every day I receive many questions with the same content asking about “when I can find love” or “ how to find the true love of my life”. 

You know, finding love is actually not as difficult as you think. According to a statistic on the United States Census Bureau, the number of single adults in the US is higher than ever and this number will continue to increase.

If you’re still single, don’t worry. There are countless people that are single like you. Who knows… maybe they are not in a relationship because they are waiting for a person like you. So what are you waiting for? It’s time to move as there is no time to waste to find happiness.

Today, I will give you the strategy to help you find love faster. If you’re ready, let’s start together.

Ask yourself if you really want to be in a relationship?

Have you ever wondered why I choose this as the first step? Simply, when you are truly sure about something, you will become more determined. Once you have the determination, you will easily be more successful.

In addition, I have encountered many weird cases. In this, instead of being confused about how to have a successful relationship, women are worried about themselves. They are not sure if they want to be in love with the one who they have flirted with or not. Many of them shared with me that they found the match is so great. However, they finally rejected that person because they thought they were not ready to be with someone. 

I myself used to be in this circumstance. When I graduated from university, I fell in love with the person I met. I was the one who made the first move. Everything was so great and we soon had our first date. However, when he wanted to become my official boyfriend, I felt scared of that thought. Then, I told him that it would be better if we were just friends. At that time, I didn’t know why I did that crazy thing. 

But when I got older, I recognized that I wasn’t ready for an official relationship with someone else. Up to now, I still feel sorry about it. 

So, before you want to find love, ask yourself if you really want this. If you’re still not sure, just love yourself first. Do not repeat my mistake, otherwise, you will spend the rest of your life being regretful. 

Identify your target

After making sure that you want a serious relationship, it’s time to identify your target. I mean you choose someone who is suitable for you. 

To do this, you can make a list of characteristics of the potential match such as age, appearance, personality and so on. 

This step is very useful because it can help you find someone who fits with your ideal types. 

However, before carrying out this step, identify yourself first. Don’t choose someone too different from you. This difference can be about everything such as background, the perspective of life and so on. 

If you’re asking me why? Ok, as I mentioned in one of my previous entries that love starts with attraction but builds with shared values. If you both are too different from each other, it will be very difficult for you to be in harmony with him. Consequently, you can’t get his sympathy, and he can neither understand you. If you and your partner fail to connect with each other, are you happy with this relationship? 

After all, we are still women, we just need someone who protects, supports and empathizes with us. 

On the other hand, please answer the question of how many Cinderellas actually end up with a happy ending with their Prince Charming? Not many. And also remember that although Cinderella is not a princess, she was born from a noble family. 

If you persistently choose a person who is too different from you, I’m not sure how far your relationship can go.

You know, love is built by the similarity of personality, interests and so on. Therefore, if you can localize your target, then you can answer the question “when will I find love” soon. 

Prepare your appearance

You don’t need to overdo anything. Instead, just be comfortable with who you are and what you look like and do not compare yourselves to anyone else. 

It’s said that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. 

Everyone has their own thoughts and opinions about what exactly is beautiful. Some men like girls with short hair, while others like the long one. Some men love to look at their girls in dresses because they found it so feminine that while others like to see their ladies in T-shirt and jeans because they make their girls dynamic. 

After all, if men are in love with you, they will love all of you even though you have perfect imperfections

Additionally, smile and keep eye contact when you greet him. There is no need to do anything excessive because women just need to smile and they can be extremely attractive.

“There is no weapon in the feminine armory to which men are so vulnerable as they are to a smile”

Dorothy Dix

Create opportunities to get to know him better

After determining your potential match and preparing your appearance, you should create your own opportunity to know more about him. If you have identified him as the person you want to date, just take action.

Women seem to be shy to make the first move, but it’s okay. As I mentioned above, you just need to smile at him, and keep eye-contact. 

Furthermore, you can give the green light by asking him for help. Men will feel happy and encouraged when he realizes that he can do something and create value for his lady. The value in this relationship is to help, so don’t be shy. Instead, be brave to ask him for help, men will never refuse to help women (remember that don’t ask something unreasonable, or he will run away). 

I used to tell you a bit about my love in some previous entry. I met him on Mingle2. But it didn’t mean that I couldn’t ask for his help online lol. Both of us are dog lovers. After some online conversations, I found that he had a great sense of humor and wanted to know more about him. That was all I could think about at the time.  Because I knew that we were in the same town, I asked him about his experience of taking care of his pet and good pet shops nearby. Gradually, we talked more and more, and we knew each other more and more as well. And what will come, will come. Now, he is mine.

One more important thing, you can reject his invitation for the hangout the first time, and even the second time, but if you have a crush on him, don’t do that the third time. Everyone has their own self-esteem, especially men.  After being rejected many times, he will conclude that you don’t like him. So, please pay attention to this point. 

I am sure that creating the opportunity will help you both better understand each other. This is also the premise of a long-term relationship.

After this step, if you think he is so great, so what are you waiting for? Move to the next step to give yourself the opportunity to love and be loved. 

You know, finding a lover is not difficult at all. It depends on you. As long as you are ready, your love will come. If you want to have a soulmate, just give yourself a chance. Don’t just sit there waiting for love to come. If you are ready, please rely on these tips to set yourself a strategy to come to a new journey. 

I’m sure that he is currently looking for you. Please give a signal, so he can come closer to you. However, if you keep motionless, there is no way for him to find you in this world of 7 billion people. Go and get your love. Good luck!

I hope that this blog can help you answer the question “When will I find love”.

If you have any questions or need advice, drop a comment to share with me.

Later!