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Tom4Uhere "Be yourself, I'll be me ~ We might match"
57 year old man from Bay Saint Louis, Mississippi      Looking for woman for relationship Last seen within the last day

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I feel quite comfortable interacting with other people. I find the company of others very stimulating and enjoy meeting new people. My relaxed demeanor in groups makes people around me comfortable too. I feel comfortable talking about myself with others and they tend to enjoy being around me. Most people perceive me as socially competent.

My confidence, which helps me feel comfortable talking to people also spills into my own personal beliefs about myself. Although I have several strengths, it’s easy for me to acknowledge and accept my weaknesses. I take full responsibility for my actions. I don't really regret things I’ve done in the past and I don't embarrass easily.

I do set exceptionally high standards for myself. I can also graciously forgive myself and others without fanfare. People come to me for advice and generally refer to me as someone with leader-like qualities.

I am a "hopeless romantic with a touch of realist." I do value the safety, security and comfort of Companionate Love, but for me, a relationship must have a strong dose of Romantic Love. I desire someone who is on the same wavelength as me – sharing similar attitudes, moods and impulses. It is common for me to view my partner as a soul mate.

S*xuality refers to our needs (frequency, boundaries, expressions) related to physical intimacy.
I have a firm sense of my s*xual orientation, preferred s*xual activities and comfort level. I like s*x that is romantic, adventurous and fun, but for me s*x is not a casual event.
S*x has great importance in my relationship but it is reserved for someone I love. Some may think my s*xual preferences are conservative, but I am no prude. I'm confident in my own s*xual ability and open to try various activities. In fact, I like to experiment actively. I'm not s*xually selfish – I like to focus on pleasing her and submitting to her desires. I'm looking for someone who regards s*x as a meaningful bond between people in love and who appreciates being the center of attention in the bedroom.

I am very flexible and action-oriented when addressing problems, yet not so eager to find resolution that I'll settle for quick, temporary agreements. Settling on a temporary agreement is often a way of avoiding conflict, and it can lead to needs not being met.
I don't avoid conflict; instead I evaluate the possible solutions and then actively engage my partner to work on a positive outcome that is best for the relationship. I have the capacity to relinquish control and pride for the greater good and the growth of the relationship. I'm looking for someone who is patient, a “big picture thinker” and can relinquish control and pride to make the best decisions for the good and growth of our relationship.

Effective communicators have strong emotional intelligence and I have an excellent level of emotional intelligence. I tend to show considerable tolerance of ambiguity and emotional expression. I have the capacity for being extremely sensitive to other’s feelings and to their body language.
People that know me well describe me as patient and eager to listen to others. I'm not really afraid of making or admitting to mistakes. I don't hide my vulnerabilities from others.
I'm keenly aware how my behavior impacts others. When asked directly, personally, I am willing to discuss my needs and desires honestly but I may not always take the initiative to be assertive with others. I seek to understand others, rather than seek for others to understand me. I'm looking for someone who will not put up emotional barriers when I look to understand her thoughts and feelings, but rather will communicate with me intimately and candidly.

I'm happy and content in my life.
I believe it is an excellent foundation for a committed relationship.
I have a clear vision and a sense of purpose for my life.
I connect well with others with effective relationship and dating skills and I have well defined ideas about where my life is headed.
I can be assertive and resourceful in meeting my goals.
My housekeeping is also in check – meaning that I don't have any negative baggage that can weigh down a relationship, like financial or legal problems, emotional or family issues.
I'm looking for a relationship to complement my life, not to fulfill or “complete” it.
I have a lot to offer someone.
I'm looking for someone who is not looking to be taken care of, but rather who is realistic about the hard work it takes to build and maintain a stable and satisfying relationship.

I have strong self-esteem, sense of self and sense of accomplishment.
I'm influential, patient and accepting of others – and calm, cool and collected most of the time. I am content with my personal qualities and feel I am an attractive person.
I have a good sense of control over the events in my life and I'm decisive in managing my life. I don't normally overreact to circumstances as others might do. I'm quite adaptable and able to maintain a balanced perspective on situations. Also I can be very influential and persuasive with others.
My family, friends and acquaintances often come to me for ideas of guidance across a range of issues. I'm confident that people who are important to me in life understand me, but I'm also comfortable not giving in to peer, family and other social pressures.
Family is important to me, but their expectations do not strongly influence my life. I have my own well-defined ambitions and goals. I'm looking for someone who is energetic, enthusiastic and has high self-efficacy like me and will support or even participate in my personal and professional interests that feed my sense of identity and accomplishment.

I have emotional intimacy to offer someone but that intimacy is expected to grow gradually over time. I can be open with a partner when it comes to lessons learned from past experiences and relationships. I long for emotional closeness and security with a special person. I would feel uncomfortable if there were serious secrets kept from my partner.
I see my partner as a best friend and a foremost confidant. There is no hesitation discussing current problems or concerns with her. I think I have realistic expectations for a committed relationship. I'm also acutely aware of the risks that come with intimacy. I tend to wonder whether my devotion and adoration will be reciprocated and whether her feelings will change.
I've learned not to lower my guard completely nor allow myself to be fully emotional vulnerable. I'm looking for someone who will understand and accept a slow pace for emotional intimacy and provide frequent reassurance of her feelings and intentions as our relationship is taken to progressive levels.

I don't really become overly dependent on a romantic partner. I'm looking for a reasonable level of independence in a relationship. This does not mean that I do not desire to be close with her. Indeed, when I feel close to someone, she often becomes an important part of who I am on the inside and I like showing off our “couplehood” in public.
However, I don't really need to be constantly “joined at the hip” in order to feel connected and secure in a relationship. I'm looking for someone who reciprocates a strong feeling of attachment to me but also respects and copes well with the fact that we benefit from a reasonable level of physical and psychological space at times.

“In your mind, is there any difference between ‘having s*x’ and ‘making love’?”
Certainly. Having s*x is physical. Making love includes s*x but is not defined by it. It happens long before, during and long after s*x.

"When it comes to the time a couple spends together, is quality more important than quantity in your opinion?"
With me, The quality causes quantity.

Profession: Disabled Master Truck Technician (disabled, not handicapped)
Profession: Disabled Master Truck Technician

Physical Appearance

Height
5' 6"
Body type
Average
Ethnicity
White / Caucasian

Lifestyle

Marital Status
Divorced
Have Children?
Yes, they live away from home
Smokes?
Occasionally
Religion
Other
Want Children?
Undecided/open
Drinks?
Occasionally

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