really? this is so damn simple. do you want a casual thing, do you want the person you're seeing to be exclusive with you, what is your sexual drive/needs, do you want to eventually get married, are you not trying to ever get married, do you want kids, have kids, not ever want children? Are you advancing in your career with the possibility of relocating often or are you pretty satisfied living where you are. etc. that is what a person is asking when they ask what you want out of the relationship, basically, where are we going with this? Are we just ****ing or are we 'together' know what i'm sayin?