Life is like that
You can't resist your feelings if that's the case I will go for it
Try to live for the day

ciretom, again you have a pretty good grasp on the standard id. I try to rationalize and remove delusions whenever possible. Reality, when embraced, can be enlightening.

Love is not rational. Love is full of illusions and delusions. People in love with another don't make rational decisions and it really doesn't matter why. They operate on the physical/emotional high love gives them. In a way you could say they get stoned on love. Addicted to it.

I have been in this situation and also experienced it from the opposite side. Just because someone you love says no to a life changing propsition certainly does not mean they do not love you.
Love is fluidic, it changes over time and has waves of increasing and decreasing severity. Love and being "in love" are two different branches on the same bush.

I have declined such a commitment because I was "in love' but I was not sure actual 'love' was there. I explained this to her. She got angry and walked away from our relationship. In time, she contacted me and told me she now understands why I declined.

When I got the "no" answer, at first I was hurt but I respectfully and sincerely asked her if she could explain why she declined. She got angry and accused me of not being able to let her go. I did and that was the end.

If I enter into a loving relationship with a woman and it progresses accordingly I fully expect at some point we will live together. That is not a bad thing and many successful relationships prosper this way. Here on a dating site we mostly have people that have been in failed relationships trying to find that someone special.

Being 'in love' causes us to over-look some of those things that we find disheartening. When we finally move to the 'love' stage of a relatonship we have accepted those disheartening things in favor of the good that person demonstrates. That acceptance must be shared by both parties before a commitment of this magnitude can be attempted. If one is "in love" and the other fully "loves" there is still illusion and delusion on one part. Thus, fear causes one to deny the other. Fear of the unknown. Fear of dishonesty and lies on major points. Fear of loss of one's self.

I feel it is best to wait before asking such commitment from another until you are sure the answer will be yes. Build the relationship on "love", enjoying the "in love" periods but not focusing on them.

I "love" when she touches me.
I "don't mind" her dirty socks in the toaster.
When I don't see her, hear her or smell her she is still with me.

Love is needy/greedy. It is supposed to be. The trick is to find someone that is just as needy and greedy for you as you are for them.
If you find THAT, you should be together.

I don't believe there are any advantages.
There are a whole lot of disadvantages.
1. If he would cheat on her he will cheat on you.
2. Think about the pain you will cause to his family kids, grandkids let alone his wife can you live with the knowledge out of selfishness you caused that type of pain. If so go for it.

Those are the top two I can think of.


Bottom line once a cheater always a cheater.

Your question is very convoluted...
Too many variables involved - implications implied, then speaking in the third person..

The answer is.... You're not looking for answers only validation. Sorry, I ran out of validation stickers this morning.

The answer is.... You're not looking for answers only validation. Sorry, I ran out of validation stickers this morning.

lhyne36:


lhyne36 just answered her original question.

There you go i fixed it for you... And yup i use it all the time.

patience s a virtue

a real man should know f the woman she s dealing is real or just want some past times to ease her boredom

or
u can use ur experienced to differentiate the real from fake

Both of them are busy answering the 1000000000 messages they get from us guys...

Have patience and they will get to your message in a couple of years..

For whom how, there're a lot of strange relations.. As for me I prefer neither from above :))

Dear Abby said years ago that if you manage to separate a married man from his wife, all you get is a man who cheated on his wife and you will be next!