Ted... first of all… let me make this one point… I will not enter into a relationship at this stage of my life based on sexual attraction… as compatibility in that arena is not what I value most… if anything, snuggling under the covers as we playfully struggle over who gets the remote can please me more than the fleeting moments of passionate embraces, after which we return to whatever we doing before the mood struck… Although I’ve come to understand that this aspect of a relationship is very important to most people in determining whether they want to hook up, or not… and once they’ve had their test run, they come back still looking for another hook up, because the last one wasn’t the right fit… but, this is not how I intend to connect with the next man that I welcome into my life… I understand the younger generation has different priorities on what is most important being sex and money… I am past that stage at my age... and coming from a vastly different perspective, I place a very high moral standard on my degree of trust in a man that I will commit my life too. After all, I don't just go into a relationship trying to con or manipulate him to see what I can get out of it, or how it can benefit me more than it does my partner... I devote my entire self... my body for his pleasure.. my mind for his challenges... my services for his care and upkeep... these are just examples to paint a clearer picture… and I volunteer myself to these extents because this is what makes me feel fulfilled as a woman... this is my personal commitment that I make when I devote my life to another… and I take my word and my actions very seriously... I also "expect" to be treated by him, just as I treat him... he is reciprocal… though not to the same degree when it comes to the manual aspects of my duties as a female... when I trust him with my life and happiness, just as he too can trust me with his... there is a bond that we rely on as we grow together, sharing our lives, nurturing our spirits… in the process of two becoming one... this level of trust affords us a wider latitude to be ourselves without the need for questioning actions, or absences… however… if my partner elects to use his freedom to betray my trust and seek affection from another, then all my tr’us’t in him and the bond we shared up to that point is done. There will be no more “us” as a couple… he will have to move out and on with his life… because no amount of apologies could convince me that he had any excuse to forget about my love and feelings for him while he’s pumping another person full of himself… You see, to me… when a man is loyal to the personal commitment he has made with me, then I can trust him, but if he is not loyal to the promises he led me to believe I could depend on, then there is no trust and no true commitment… and I’m not interested in maintaining any type of a relationship that doesn’t make me feel happy and complete… I’m living on the other side of 50 now, and I intend for my future to be less complicated then the past… very simple and straight forward… love and lives being shared in the peace that a loyal and trusting connection can afford…

no popcorn life is so unfair ted refuses to share

I'm dominate I like to throat **** my girlfriend then bend her over and pound her *****!

so my dearest friend, Ted.. you are just going to buy a ticket to the show, I take it... BTW, I love popcorn...

Without trust there is no "us"...

Why is it when you tell a guy to go away ...I'm done they won't leave you alone???

sumtyms i see sum people. gettin tensed abt small amounts of mone.... bein selfish to others for small stuff... even stuff dat doent matter at all..... then i think... WAT A PATHETIC WORLD WE R IN.......

You specifically said, "never works with two family's under the same roof..."

I gave evidence that the "never" in your statement was not accurate.

Friendship is a form of love but is well short of the expectations of a committed "love" relationship. Once you commit to an exclusive relationship then you do not own, and have not the right, to give away the affection (sex) that was given to another. If you are simply cyber-friends without the stated exclusive commitment, then there is no expected or implied bonding (marriage).

Once a partner has cheated do we afford any leniency? That is a hard one. Love can conquer all but trust betrayed can destroy all. Children, length of time together, strength of your love, religious convictions, and a few more factors are all part of the equation. It is a personal decision to forgive only and leave or to forgive and try again. Only when you are in the situation can you say which way the current will take you.

hi Ted, nice to see you again... I don't know if you've noticed yet, but I'm a very open and talkative, yet deep female, who likes to put everything on the table in black and white.. okay maybe we have to go through all the gray areas to get to the point, because we are online in a public forum.. but once in private I, and/or, me and he would discuss expectations in detail so there are no surprises, and any unrealistic issues can be easily addressed before furthering a commitment... when I was younger I was more spontaneous, taking life and love as it came... but now I am settled and my spontaneity is saved for the romantic side of life... and... as boring as predictability can be, I find that it serves me better in the long view...