if you tkink he's cheating y have sex with him at all? I dont get it, i would tell him quite clearly to f off outa my life

This again. Just sounds to me when women come out with this that they have serious trust issues or low self esteem. It isn't a crime to want to be nice to a woman or try to help her.

Also, I'm failing to see what this little rant actually has to do with the topic.

Maybe there is something lost in translation here, because here is what I am getting.

I met a tall, handsome guy, he is not insane, he talked to me for over 3 hours, telling me how I was opposite of his girlfriend and flattering me, I gave him my phone number, and we still text, and when he does text I call him baby and flirt with him, but I don't meet with him, I also have texted his girl friend and she wants to know what is up between me and him, but I told she should google womanizer and break up with him, but I will continue to reply to his text's and flirt with him because I am bored.


Honestly it sounds like you are smitten with this guy, want him to break up with his girlfriend, and then maybe something may happen between you to.

Let me clear up ur doubts then
1. The last sentence nt tryin to put her down cz I dnt think girls with more meat unattractive, same goes to girls with lighter hair color or wear makeup, cz I do wear makeup sometimes..jst tryna say he told me the type of girl he wants completely opposite of his gf,because he tryna sweet talk me..perhaps when he's with the gf he'd say the opposite like I dislike girl as thin as stick..u get me?
2. When I say throughout the night doesn't mean the entire night, jst tryna emphasized throughout the 3hrs convo( I think frm 10pm-1am)he kept talkin wht girls want to hear..
3. As to why I gave him my number, because although he seemed insane but he's not stupid,he acted normal in the beginnin,so I gav my number..and I dnt see anythin wrong givin off numbers to strangers cz I can always block them..my phone is always in silent mode and I dnt pick calls, jst my habit(weird?)
4. And about flirt and then avoid..am bored most of the time,thts the main reason I joined this site.. So when he texts me and am free I'll reply sth like 'yes baby of course I miss u but I cnt meet u today am workin or am with my friend or blah blah blah..and yes I always hv excuse, and I won't text him first,if he tired of textin me let it be..

And lastly about helpin the girl out, she askd wht happened between me and him, I said nothing, we aint an item, then she questioned why I called him baby, she wanna know how we met and wht we did,so I told her everythin,and asked her to google'how to spot a womanizer', then last night she kept callin me,sayin she's sad,she even hit the wall with her head..and am not tryin to get help frm mingle,cz u can only help urself which is move on..
Postin here to see if anyone here has come across sth similar..its more abt sharing stories and encourage whoever been hurt
Excuse my english, never really had a proper english class..sorry

Don't really get it. You say you realized he was a womanizer and yet you spent the entire night with him??? Gave him your phone number, you even flirted with him, even though you knew he was a womanizer, and then tried to avoid him.
And now you're oh so concerned about his girlfriend?
And in your last sentence you find it necessary to point out that you look so much better than his girlfriend?
Sorry, find your story somewhat weird.

Sounds to me you simply let him get to you, you fell for his stories, then later on you found out he had a girlfriend.
And even then, why go to the extend of trying to find help for this girl, even here at Mingle?
Maybe it's me, but this all feels somewhat funky

Sorry dear ...
I am just joking.....but i really feel sad 4 you...bcs you know pakistan & china friendship!!!

I'm questioning this, I mean if you realized he was a womanizer right away, why in the world would you give him your real phone number?

THat happened to me once we went out on a couple of dates.... then his gf for over 5 yrs called me. I walked away... didn't care much. Then a year later I get the same call from the gf.... I told her it would be best to just move on instead of saving every girls number and making a fool of herself. She started crying can't stand when women let the men humiliate them ugh!!!

Be glad you found out what kind of person he was sooner rather than later, at least you didn't get hurt. There are tons of creeps out there...

That sux, I'm sorry. At least you didn't get emotionally involved, I hope and now she also knows. You did nothing wrong, it's him. My bf cheated on me after a year and his new gf called me asking if "we" were having an affair. I told her I dumped him and she can have him, she said they were dating for only a month and I knew it already which is why I dumped him (because his brother told me) and she was shocked when I told her were together for a year. She about died, then she dumped him while she called me on the phone right in front of him. You told his gf and it's up to her to make her own decision. Ps I've been dating his brother for about 5 months now.