it is hard yes... for some that doesnt have a heart in hurting other people. it is hard because of the boundaries you set in your mind. its not hard babe all you need to do is to let go and go with the flow. it starts with attraction, then goes compatibility anf undertsanding each other.. until one day you will feel that it has grown deeper,u miss the person, you look for that person everyday. later realize you love that person and wanting to be with that person until the last breath of yout life.... awwww