Sorry, but your so naive!
Have you already forgotten 9/11 -- just 8 years ago???

* * * * * * * * * * * * *And there's no 100% garantee it won't happen again -- the greatest mass murder in the US history! ! ! ! ! ! ! ******************************

We are so protected? WHO ARE YOU KIDDING??? (yourself?!!)

Sorry, but your so naive!
Have you already forgotten 9/11 -- just 8 years ago???

* * * * * * * * * * * * *And there's no 100% garantee it won't happen again -- the greatest mass murder in the US history! ! ! ! ! ! ! ******************************

We are so protected? WHO ARE YOU KIDDING??? (yourself?!!)

Yep! It was legal before... just like domestic violence was legal. Because the laws on the books deemed that a family matter... and was still linger ideals that women were property.

I think this is a good example of how WE DO NOT THINK IN LANGUAGE.
The whole time you knew you had the wrong word. The concept in your mind was [A] and when you matched the word you where using to express that concept it did not = [A] and so you knew you must continue to search for an appropriate word.

We do not think in language we think in concepts, that get translated at another processing center in the brain.

Thought is more fundamental then language.
However one of the main roles of thought for humans is communication, so its challenging to separate them when looking at the final product when it gets pushed to the conscious level.

actually language is required for thought. we think in language. everyone has a constant self dialogue

the hardest part of learning a new language is revising that inner dialogue to think in that language

Your right, there may be debil down under da eart that makes em pay.

Oh dam, maybe der is no debil.

I was gun get mad, but din I red dis.

IMHO to get what he deserves would require more then what he has got.

And I think there are far more examples of people who never get what they deserve then those that do . . .

Innocent child in Hiroshima in the year 1945?

If you have a giving personality it is easy to feel taken for granted.

Looking within yourself and figureing out why you seem to go further than you feel comfortable with. I don't know if any of these reasons apply or maybe there a completely different ones.

( ) You feel you have to make up for being selfish in another part of your relationship?
( ) Do you want to be seen as "nice".
( ) Have you been allowed to say "No" in your history?
( ) Have you always pushed yourself beyond your boundries to be successful?
( ) Do you see being submissive as feminine?
( ) Are you too intelligent to acknowledge someone being and ass?
( ) Are you hopeing that what you give out will come back to you?
( ) Are you trying to be more giving because someone was so selfish in your life that you don't want to be like them?
( ) Do you feel so grateful/guilty for having what you do that you feel you have to give back?
( ) Do you just go ahead and do it because it seems petty to complain?
( ) Do you just do it because it is quicker or it gets done your way?
( ) Do you tolerate a guy because he isn't as bad as some you have seen?
( ) Do you tolerate someone because your friends/family will blame you for picking a looser?
( )Do you think this is as good as it gets?
( ) Do you stay with the devil you know because you are afraid of the devil you haven't met?
( ) Do you feel superior that you give more than your share?
( ) Do you take it will make your partner look unmanly to help you?
( )Do you think he should know how to help? Read your mind?
( ) Do you not want to fight because you know he won't fight fair?

Once you figure out why you let someone take advantage of you it probably makes sense to set a goal to say "NO" to your top three worst peeves? Habits are hard to break but practice makes perfect.

Wouldn't hurt to work on prevention either. If you don't start being a doormat you don't have to stop. If the only way some guy is going to stick around is because he can take advantage of you in the first place it is easier to loose him early.

If you are hopeing to remediate someone it is possible but not anything to bet big money on.

I found when someone doesn't pick up their stuff either putting it away in totally the wrong place is helpful. Throwing things away is effective. I had a room-mates that left underwear on the floor. I warned them and then when it got down to about two pair of underwear they started making it into the hamper.

When a guy forgets to say "Thank You" don't do whatever you did and tell them well I figure it didn't mean enough to you to say thank you so I didn't see it was necessary.

When someone doesn't remember you for a holiday skip them the next holiday or year and remember someone that does.

One thing I know does NOT work is nagging, treating them like a kid, or being the manners police.

There is a saying that "What you ignore you endorse". In some cases that is true if you ignore the behavior but not if you totally ignore the person.

Sorry someone is making you feel bad. (HUGS)


True, True, True and True

I somehow don't think I'll manage draining lymph nodes.