I still think of myself as an odd-ball...but I'd like to hold at least an intelligent conversation first with a guy. Even still, that's not a sure-fire guarantee for a relationship but at least I know you can string together more than 3-4 words in a proper sentence. (Now that's without allowing myself to mentally start dissecting and correcting grammar and/or punctuation.) Don't call me babe or sweetie or ask for my number or how far you get to go with me or think it'll be cute to drop me a pick-up line...that kind of approach doesn't make me inclined to talk with you.

Sure physical attraction is part of the equation at some point, but everyone has different perspectives on what's attractive. If you indirectly call me fat saying you like a heavy girl I'm going to just block you and try to control the instant impulse to digitally slap you for calling me fat. That might be someone else's preference, but where's that leave me when I get back into my prime shape? Does that mean I'm ugly? If there's no connection or attraction to the individual on any level but physical then I don't think it'll be a long lasting relationship.

What I look for (which may be a bit of a pipe dream or too idealistic) is a man that's:

honest (maybe even almost to a fault)

sweet with a touch of the romantic (doesn't have to be over dramatic, simplicity is best)

intellectually engaging (not asking for a scientist, politician or activist - just someone that can view and explore the world around them and carry on a conversation about it)

adventurous (not looking for the "bad boy" just someone willing to view and explore the world differently...not looking for the weekend warrior to go sky-diving or such either yet at the same time curious about things like that but not feeling they have something to prove...I hope that rambling made sense)

stable (by this I mean well grounded enough to know better that food and bills need to come first before buying that car they really want when they know they can't afford it - loan or not)

thoughtful (you'd think this goes hand-in-hand with another aspect, but oftentimes it doesn't and really what I mean by this is taking the time to show you care by doing the small almost unnoticed actions to show you're thinking of them or being considerate)

genuine (this one's probably the most difficult, I don't want a mask - I want the individual for who they are and I'm not under the illusion of changing a person to being something or someone they're not)

My list is probably a bit too idealistic, but like I said...I think I'm odd.

I have been here almost 6 years?...I got a family..and a BFF...friends.. ...and then there are the others..

I have also got respect,I have earned my place.