I wrote this blog tonight and I am kind of proud of it.....

Titled: Mandler training, or How I became Tamba's mandler..

I went camping on Memorial Day weekend, and Tamba and I rode up together on a "Gilligan's Island" car ride. When we got there a story was told about why I was there as one of the very few ladies.



My friend Justin told his girlfriend that I HAD to be there as I was Tamba's mandler (much like a lion handler, but with a grown man...hence the name Mandler) It has stuck and is quite a true statement when it comes to our relationship. I "keep him from killing himself or others" other criteria for the job is that I keep him from being too harsh on newcomers to the group.



A few weeks ago our friend Steve mentioned how Tamba listened to me when I told him he was being out of line. Tamba is a great person, a wonderful friend, and actually a very kind individual ONCE you get to know him, at first he can be a tad ....uhm, overwhelming.



Tonight I went to dinner with my 3 Irish loud obnoxious brothers, my sister-in-law of almost 20 years and my brothers new girlfriend. My fully obnoxious brother was being his ridiculous self and embarrasing himself and his wife. He tried to play "uncle" with my daughter and tell her how she didn't have to eat her dinner and could only eat her desert.



Previously speaking of camping and such I had mentioned to my brother's new GF, the "mandler" story. After my brother had fully gotten on my nerves and quite frankly pissed me off. I laid down the law about his "role" as uncle. My oldest brother then tried to step in and tell my daughter she didn't have to eat her dinner also and he was swiftly put into place. My brother's tell the same obnoxious jokes that my dad told when we were growing up, and I would compensate to the waitress about how dumb they were.



Walking to the car my brother's GF said to me. "You are younger than them, shorter than them, and yet they listen to you" I laughed and told her that I had years of experience. She then said to me "no wonder you are the mandler, you have been trained all your life"



(Let's interject this here- Tamba is not NEARLY as obnoxious as my brothers)



On my way home I thought about what she had said to me. I WAS trained all my life to mandle.... I can tell when something that someone says upsets people and I don't like for anyone to have a bad time, I love my brothers and I adore Tamba and I don't want people to misunderstand where they are coming from. They all come from a place of love and kindness. In our family if we made fun of you that means we like you.... I know it's odd, but true no less.



Maybe it's the Libra in me that wants balance in the world, or maybe it's the fact that I can see and feel other people's emotions, but if I could pick a career that isn't a career, it would be to mandle those I love and adore. equalize situations that others don't see as equal



Maybe that's my dating issue, I am looking for someone who doesn't need me to mandle them.... maybe I should go back to the ones who need mandled... (not Tamba though, he's perfect as a friend).



I know "go to bed"



I'm on my way.



Love and Light.

Love & Light to you

I enjoyed your moment with your family and friends and have come to the conclusion you are and provide deep love,,

Thank you...