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It hurts so so much. He told me he wanted to be with me forever, that he wanted to get married. But now he says that he hasn't been happy the past couple of months, which I don't understand because I've been doing so much for him. I don't think it was me that made him unhappy, I think it's the uncertainty of his life right now.
He says theres a possibility that we'll get back together, but that he needs to be his own person for a while, to be alone. He wants space. It hurts, because he's always seemed to be the one who loved me more than I loved him. And now this. Could I have some advice on how to cope? I'm really hurting right now. I don't think I'll find anyone else who would be interested in me. I'm so scared I'm going to spend the rest of my life alone >< |
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I dont have anything to say that you havent heard.
But the best way to cope for me is to be around supportive friends and family. As hard as it sounds, try to keep your mind focused on other things so you dont dwell on this. |
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Elsa, you are so young to be worrying about forever. Enjoy your youth and there are many more that will love you before you find "The One".
Take your time. 
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I dont have anything to say that you havent heard. But the best way to cope for me is to be around supportive friends and family. As hard as it sounds, try to keep your mind focused on other things so you dont dwell on this. 
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Well, I can only tell you what works for me: After a certain period of profound grief, I went out and found someone who was younger and cuter than the guy who dropped me. I didn't like this guy as much but I pretended I did.
I made sure that all our mutual acquaintances knew about the riotous and scandalous fun that was being had. It was difficult at first but the payoff came when I was sure that the two letters "EX", instead of meaning "ex boyfriend" stood for EXTREMELY JEALOUS and HIDING IT EXTREMELY POORLY former boyfriend. I'm not being flippant or disrespectful here--I've seen this work well for others besides myself. You may have to force yourself to smile at first, but it gets easier as you go along. I hope this was helpful. yours in Chaos, Scarlett |
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Edited by
GeniuSxBoY
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Sun 09/28/08 08:51 AM
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You need to change your logic around a little. You need to know that he is just looking for sex and different vagina.
He probably still loves you, but he can't fool around with other people and still be with you. so he broke up with you. He did you a favor. Probably nothing wrong with you at all. He just got bored and there was nothing more to conquer. The only reason he would fall out of love with you is if you have been overly jealous of him in the few weeks prior to the break up. This includes, but not limited to, internet stalking, computer stalking, reading his cell phone messages, to much neediness. |
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I don't think I'll find anyone else who would be interested in me. I'm so scared I'm going to spend the rest of my life alone. Why in the world would you think that hon? Of course there are many others who would be interested .. be confident in yourself and know you are a gift. To mankind! 
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I'm already interested. I'm just on the wrong coast.
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I dont have anything to say that you havent heard. But the best way to cope for me is to be around supportive friends and family. As hard as it sounds, try to keep your mind focused on other things so you dont dwell on this.
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Edited by
Pink_lady
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Sun 09/28/08 08:53 AM
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It hurts, because he's always seemed to be the one who loved me more than I loved him. And now this. Can u see how this ^^ could lead to this >>> He says theres a possibility that we'll get back together, but that he needs to be his own person for a while, to be alone. He wants space. Maybe he feels he does love u more than u love him? |
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It hurts, because he's always seemed to be the one who loved me more than I loved him. And now this. Can u see how this ^^ could lead to this >>> He says theres a possibility that we'll get back together, but that he needs to be his own person for a while, to be alone. He wants space. Maybe he feels he does love u more than u love him? (( lisa )) |
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You need to change your logic around a little. You need to know that he is just looking for sex and different vagina. He probably still loves you, but he can't fool around with other people and still be with you. so he broke up with you. He did you a favor. Probably nothing wrong with you at all. He just got bored and there was nothing more to conquer. The only reason he would fall out of love with you is if you have been overly jealous of him in the few weeks prior to the break up. This includes, but not limited to, internet stalking, computer stalking, reading his cell phone messages, to much neediness. Great way to try and make her feel better. |
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I don't know what it is, but we don't seem to tolerate grief anymore. Grieving is a part of life...something that will be done, with or without our cooperation. I'd say to take time to grieve the loss of this person and whatever dreams you may have lost...and do it in a healthy, constructive way. It hurts, but it can also bring insights into and a better understanding of yourself. And no matter how we delude ouselves, 'self' is the only person any of us can truly count on. Take sometime to grieve and get to know yourself better. You may find it helpful to tell someone all that has happened, it might help to write your feelings down you may get relief from tears...we all grieve differently...but we all grieve. And though it doesn't seem so now, even great intense pain will not last forever. This will pass...you will get beyond it. My hope is you will come out of this feeling stronger and healthier than ever before.
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hey girl.. Ive seen you on the forums here and from what Ive read and seen. Its his loss. I know it dont make your heart stop aching or the tears stop but really he doesnt make you who you are. you do. Youre young, intellegent and pretty. Take all the time to heal. You will feel better and be so much stronger.
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i know exactly what you are going through because the same thing happened to me several months ago....we were going to get married and all of that and then she "fell out of love with me"...except she decided to cheat on me on top of it all...
every person copes with these situations differently and nobody can really tell you how to....but you really should know that there will be other guys that will come into you life and that it is NOT the end of the world keep your head up and definitely do not give up on yourself and wallow in your own self pity....LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO WASTE YOUR TIME MORNING OVER WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN!!!! good luck to you and i hope that you find the happiness that you are searching for |
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Well, I can only tell you what works for me: After a certain period of profound grief, I went out and found someone who was younger and cuter than the guy who dropped me. I didn't like this guy as much but I pretended I did. I made sure that all our mutual acquaintances knew about the riotous and scandalous fun that was being had. It was difficult at first but the payoff came when I was sure that the two letters "EX", instead of meaning "ex boyfriend" stood for EXTREMELY JEALOUS and HIDING IT EXTREMELY POORLY former boyfriend. I'm not being flippant or disrespectful here--I've seen this work well for others besides myself. You may have to force yourself to smile at first, but it gets easier as you go along. I hope this was helpful. yours in Chaos, Scarlett 
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Gosh, it's nice to see you again, but not under THIS circumstance!!!
 Bless your heart!!!  But, you are young, and very nice and smart and interesting, and pretty to boot. You won't be single for long and hopefully you will get the love you deserve from someone who willingly has it to give and you'll love him back in kind.
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You need to change your logic around a little. You need to know that he is just looking for sex and different vagina. He probably still loves you, but he can't fool around with other people and still be with you. so he broke up with you. He did you a favor. Probably nothing wrong with you at all. He just got bored and there was nothing more to conquer. The only reason he would fall out of love with you is if you have been overly jealous of him in the few weeks prior to the break up. This includes, but not limited to, internet stalking, computer stalking, reading his cell phone messages, to much neediness. Great way to try and make her feel better. 
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Trollin', trollin', trollin', ....
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You need to change your logic around a little. You need to know that he is just looking for sex and different vagina. He probably still loves you, but he can't fool around with other people and still be with you. so he broke up with you. He did you a favor. Probably nothing wrong with you at all. He just got bored and there was nothing more to conquer. The only reason he would fall out of love with you is if you have been overly jealous of him in the few weeks prior to the break up. This includes, but not limited to, internet stalking, computer stalking, reading his cell phone messages, to much neediness. Now why can't I find a nice guy like you? |
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