I know that this is rather long, but found it an interesting read and discussion. I broke it down into two parts. The first four myths being here and the other four being posted later, just because I thought it was too long.

Let's face it, dating sucks.

It sucks to be rejected by hot and sexy babes, and it sucks to be alone. It sucks to be so nervous around a woman that you babble incoherently, and it is even worse to act like a stud and have her slap you in front of your buddies.

So what is the solution?

Get out, date, deal with the inevitable rejections, have fun, and learn about the machinery in your own head that leads to trouble and failure with women.

When it comes to dating, most men are run by myths, misconceptions, and denial of their power as men. Understanding the myths and the solutions will leaves you free to flirt and date women, and more importantly create the sex life you have always wanted.

I have listed a few dating myths that will begin to shed light on your most intimate dating troubles. These are complied from "How to Succeed With Women" - the best-selling book I co-wrote, published by Simon Shuster in 1998.

So wake up, smell the coffee, pay attention, and you may just learn something. Even if you act like a know it all, we know the truth: YOU DON'T! You have bought into some of these myths and they have caused you trouble somewhere down the road.

Myth #1 - You have to be a politician, millionaire, athlete, or blessed by god to get hot dates.

Guys love to believe that they don't have what it takes to get laid. Most men use their lack of success as an excuse for not dating and pursuing the women they really want. These men blame the system, society, social issues, and economic realities for the lack of sex, not the man in the mirror. While being in a position of power or being a rock star will obviously get you a large pool of women to draw from, you too can get the hot women if you heed my advice.

Here is the good news and the bad news. The good news: there are hot and sexy women available to you tonight. After personally surveying hundreds of women, most are looking for a man like you, a normal guy with normal desires and a normal job. The bad news: you have to work to get women. It won't happen by you staying home complaining about it.

The point is that you have what it takes to get women when you understand what the game is.

Repeat after me, "Dating is simply a numbers game." You flirt with x number of women and that will result in x number of conversations which will lead to x number of coffee dates which will lead to sleeping with x number. The work for you is to reduce what "x" is.

To date means flirting with women and initiating conversations with women. Figure out the number ahead of time and then create a plan to go out and meet and talk to women. The process is simple if you are willing to create a step by step plan and follow it.

Myth #2 - Just be nice and interesting enough and you'll get a woman.

This is another horrible myth promoted by SNAGS (sensitive new age guys) and feminist men. Believing that being nice and interesting will work is one of the worst ideas promoted over the past 20 years. Do you really think women are looking for "nice" guys anyway? (The answer is an emphatic no.)

The bottom line is that women want to be SEDUCED and ROMANCED. Most men think that if they like a woman, and she says that he is "sweet," "interesting," or "a wonderful friend," that he is moving the relationship towards romance and sex. This is dead wrong.

The reason why is because women will either put you into the category of "friend" or "lover," but not both. When you are nice and interesting a woman will likely put you into the category of friend, but not lover.

If you don't believe this, just look around at all the jerks who have sex with the hottest women. Women certainly are not having sex with these guys in every position imaginable because they are interesting, intellectually stimulating, and polite. No, these women are hot and heavy because these men are exciting, romantic, fun, and even a bit dangerous.

The solution: don't give up being interesting and nice. That too would be a fatal error. The solution is to bring out other parts of your personality with a woman. Bring out the romantic part and let that guide you in sweeping a woman off her feet. Get into her shoes and figure out what would turn her on and excite her.

If you find yourself spending time discussing fascinating topics, but not romantic ones, change the subject back to her beauty. Memorize poetry and whisper passages into her ear. If you tend to make the mistake of being a friend, focus your attention on romance and seduction and avoid the "fascinating" thoughts in your head.

Myth #3 - Be a woman's therapist and you'll get laid.

Along the same lines as being a nice and interesting guy, many men use the therapist ploy to attempt being lovers with a woman. We've seen this myth play out time and time again by desperate fools trying to get laid.

The ploy usually works this way; a guy is friends with a woman he wants to date. He thinks that if she opens up to him emotionally then it will likely lead to sex. He thinks that if he can solve her emotional problems she will want to date him. Then, to his surprise, things pan out differently.

Suddenly she starts to discuss every problem in her life with him. The guy thinks this is good and listens more and more and more to her complaints. In fact, he thinks that the more he listens to her, the better the chances are of her going to bed with him. She starts crying on his shoulder more frequently and even begins asking him to take her out for ice cream, expensive dinners, and even loan her money when she becomes too depressed to work.

Now it turns ugly. She begins telling him about her problems with men. Our jr. therapist stays in the role of advice giver and a lowly "friend' to the woman. She dates the jerks and comes to him for advice.

The solution: never be a therapist to a woman. Remember, you are either a lowly friend or a lover, not both. The most important thing in dealing with a woman is to make your romantic interests known right away so she thinks of you as a potential lover, not a friend. When you become a confidant to a woman she begins to associate you with her negative emotions and negative experiences putting you further out of the running for lover.

If you are in this position with women right now, stop being the therapist today. You are wasting your time and avoiding being out in the world pursuing other women. Get out now while you still have a chance.

Myth #4 - There is a limited number of available women.

This is the type of myth promoted by babies disguised as men. This myth is promoted by men who can't get laid to save their lives and then search for lame reasons why. In fact, there is no evidence anywhere to back up this claim.

Does the high percentage of divorce and affairs justify this myth? No. Does the high number of singles prove that this is indeed a fact? No. Does the large number of personals ads reflect this to be true? No. That is why it is called a myth and simply unfounded. Enough said.

Hmmmm I can't help thinking I wouldn't want to get friskey with either the person that wrote this or read this but then OMG I read it. Helppppp!

Ummmm....aren't we only halfway there?? lol

That is long M,

and one day i entend to read it,

Ahh yes. Bit I did say that I would post the other half later.

Ummmm....whoops. Didn't have my glasses on and kinda missed that part. Sorry M.

You mean to tell me that you caught the rest but not the part that was in bold?

..i'm in agreement with myth#2, it is relevant to me...i have 0 women friends.

roco

Ummm....yes???

Interesting point of view.

From a woman's point of view...if "dating sucks" (your introductory premise) then it doesn't matter if the myths are true of false.

...and besides-what is myth to one woman is fact to another. The rule is: THERE ARE NO RULES!