If you where married to a guy, for lets say just a year.

you had 2 teenage kids (not his), and he had 1 2 year old(not urs)....and the realtionship was good...very good at points, but always good....

there was never any cheating, physical or mental abuse.....the guy made like $100k a year...took care of you and your kids...was super in the bed....

And truly loved you...and willing to do anything for you...

lets say after about a year....because u didnt work and couldnt really get a good job due to being uneducated....and ur ex husband never sent child support for ur kids...

lets say u and ur current husband, started having a few problems...ur husband started letting stress overwhelm him, mainly beause he did too much...he worked a full time job as a IT Director..(those of you who know that job know it can be very stressful), he ran a online bizz too...makin extra $$ to provide for the family....and he was trying to start anopther organization to help less fortunate poeple...

lets say his stress levels got everwhelming...and you too started to fight because mainly,....he needed some help from you, and you couldnt..because getting a job and ediucation take time....

but lets say you screwe dsomthitn up finaically....put alot more streess on him...and he kinda told you to pack it up and go back to ur moms 2 hours away.....mainly because his stress levels had gotten so bad....and then a week after going back..u too was taling but had a big fight over the phone...

lets say a week after that....his stress levels started to come down.....and he realized he made a huge istake tellin you to leave...

all he asked was you help him, even if not contributing with $$ help him by not causding more $$$ issues....

would you take him back? or come back to him if he was genuine? and u knew was a good man and loved you very much?

remember....he is a good man, ur kids love him and he loves them back alot...his child loves you and you love her very much too....and he ws successful and a great provider, and never cheated or abused you...no drug or alcohol issues, and a good all around man....

would you come back to him? and if you told him you needed time and space to think things thru...how long would it take you? and would u come back? help me ladies!

If it were me and I was in the situation you've described, I don't know if I would come back or not. This may have not been your intent, but it seems you've come across as a bit condescending, as you've mentioned she's "uneducated" over and over again. She may feel some of that and decide her pride is worth more than money.

If it were me and I was in the situation you've described, I don't know if I would come back or not. This may have not been your intent, but it seems you've come across as a bit condescending, as you've mentioned she's "uneducated" over and over again. She may feel some of that and decide her pride is worth more than money.

If it were me and I was in the situation you've described, I don't know if I would come back or not. This may have not been your intent, but it seems you've come across as a bit condescending, as you've mentioned she's "uneducated" over and over again. She may feel some of that and decide her pride is worth more than money.

Why do so many refer to saying "uneducated" as condescending?? How many of you know the definitions of educated and uneducated and how that definition relates to today's society? There's a big difference between uneducated and stupid and EDUCATED people know that. He didn't call her stupid, moronic, dumb or any of the other 17,000 some words that could be used to describe just plain stupid. Might be wise for a few of you to also refresh your memory on the definition of "condescending."

It is clear why many of you SINGLES are on this site...you're ALL TAKE and NO GIVE and I AM BEING CONDESCENDING!!!!!!! (Note: I'm on the site but I'm not single...in a very fulfilled a loving relationship thank you...one which blossomed through this site!)

How condescending of you to criticize anyone for asking for help! Based on what I read, he didn't ask her to change...he asked for her help. That is a key part of relationships...supporting each other IN ALL WAYS in good and bad times! (Could your lack of supporting your mate be the reason your single? Your reply IMPLYS that attitude.)And though yes, he may have made a quick, rash decsion asking her to leave, sometimes couples need some space so they may continue to have a fulfilled loving relationship. Time apart is time to rejuvinate and remember all the reasons you fell in love and love them still.

Provided the details of this scenario are TRUE...I would go back in a heartbeat! And hun if she has to think about coming back...I'd ask myself how much she really loves him???? NO DOUBT it hurt like hell when he asked her to leave and she's probably still working through those hurt feelings BUT does she really think it's that easy to find another man like the one described? I am in total support of her taking all the time she needs/wants to resolve hurt feelings BUT REALLY HOPE SHE'S TAKING TIME FOR THE RIGHT REASONS!!!!

I did read the whole thing through and UMM EXCUSE ME where did he say it was her fault? I read he took out his stress on her...I also read that she did something to make the financial situation more stressful. Nowhere did it say it was her fault. Wonder which of us needs to read the whole thing through????

Observation - your profile says looking for man for dating.

Why do so many refer to saying "uneducated" as condescending?? How many of you know the definitions of educated and uneducated and how that definition relates to today's society? There's a big difference between uneducated and stupid and EDUCATED people know that. He didn't call her stupid, moronic, dumb or any of the other 17,000 some words that could be used to describe just plain stupid. Might be wise for a few of you to also refresh your memory on the definition of "condescending."

It is clear why many of you SINGLES are on this site...you're ALL TAKE and NO GIVE and I AM BEING CONDESCENDING!!!!!!! (Note: I'm on the site but I'm not single...in a very fulfilled a loving relationship thank you...one which blossomed through this site!)

second time we have seen this thread.. and if you read the whole thing thru.. he told her that it was good for her to stay home and take care of the house.. then all the sudden he gets in a financial bind and its her fault..
but have a nice day

or i can DD, for once,

Observation - your profile says looking for man for dating.

ALSO.. i just read all the way through the profile..*i dont recomend it.. its like trying to follow a rabbit through the woods..* and NOWHERE in there does it say "taken" "ive found a good guy" nothing about being in a relationship..ANYWHERE!!!

also just an observation.

Also a good observation...I've been so busy being in love that I haven't bothered to update my profile...good project to add to my to do list today. Thank you! It's probably pretty easy for someone such as you to refer to my profile as "like trying to follow a rabbit through the woods." Simple minded, UNEDUCATED people have a tendancy to make remarks like that especially when they can't see the woods for the trees let alone know how to go about catching a rabbit in them.