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Topic: Never found out why
angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Tue 12/30/08 05:05 AM
Did anyone ever break up with you, but wouldn't tell you the reason why,and you never found out? If so, how did you get closure? Once. Grieved a whole lot and eventually chalked it up to youth and him being a player....which he was at the time. He eventually married. Hopefully for his wife, he changed his ways.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Wed 12/31/08 02:55 PM
Did anyone ever break up with you, but wouldn't tell you the reason why,and you never found out? If so, how did you get closure? Once. Grieved a whole lot and eventually chalked it up to youth and him being a player....which he was at the time. He eventually married. Hopefully for his wife, he changed his ways. Hopefully

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Wed 12/31/08 03:25 PM
Did anyone ever break up with you, but wouldn't tell you the reason why,and you never found out? If so, how did you get closure? Yes several years ago. I was very hurt by it then I drank a bottle of wine than thought about if he was much of a coward to do this I was better off without him. Ran into him about 5 years afterwards and couldn't for the life of me see what I initially saw in him.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 01/01/09 05:09 AM
Did anyone ever break up with you, but wouldn't tell you the reason why,and you never found out? If so, how did you get closure? Yes several years ago. I was very hurt by it then I drank a bottle of wine than thought about if he was much of a coward to do this I was better off without him. Ran into him about 5 years afterwards and couldn't for the life of me see what I initially saw in him.

carold Joined Sun 03/23/08 Posts: 26747	Thu 01/01/09 05:20 AM
Did anyone ever break up with you, but wouldn't tell you the reason why,and you never found out? If so, how did you get closure? Once. Grieved a whole lot and eventually chalked it up to youth and him being a player....which he was at the time. He eventually married. Hopefully for his wife, he changed his ways. I don't know if people truely change there ways. Like an addict they always have to work on it if they truely want too. And can easily go back to it.

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Thu 01/01/09 06:41 AM
I think alot of those type things end because the person leaving was just a lying player. Seen it happen to many times & some of them HERE. Dang rude of folks to be user's like that.

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Thu 01/01/09 06:41 AM
Did anyone ever break up with you, but wouldn't tell you the reason why,and you never found out? If so, how did you get closure? ...she went back to an ex husband. Self explainitory.

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Thu 01/01/09 07:56 AM Edited by angelindarkness on Thu 01/01/09 07:58 AM
Did anyone ever break up with you, but wouldn't tell you the reason why,and you never found out? If so, how did you get closure? Once. Grieved a whole lot and eventually chalked it up to youth and him being a player....which he was at the time. He eventually married. Hopefully for his wife, he changed his ways. I don't know if people truely change there ways. Like an addict they always have to work on it if they truely want too. And can easily go back to it. Thinking back now to another experience, a couple months back. A recent reuniting and sudden end to (despite his strong attraction to/professed "love" for me) the intense courtship by a first love, I'd have to say you are right. At least he didn't get any use outta' me, oldsage.

angelindarkness Joined Sun 11/25/07 Posts: 6492	Thu 01/01/09 07:56 AM Edited by angelindarkness on Thu 01/01/09 07:56 AM
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MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 01/01/09 07:53 PM
Did anyone ever break up with you, but wouldn't tell you the reason why,and you never found out? If so, how did you get closure? Once. Grieved a whole lot and eventually chalked it up to youth and him being a player....which he was at the time. He eventually married. Hopefully for his wife, he changed his ways. I don't know if people truely change there ways. Like an addict they always have to work on it if they truely want too. And can easily go back to it. Thinking back now to another experience, a couple months back. A recent reuniting and sudden end to (despite his strong attraction to/professed "love" for me) the intense courtship by a first love, I'd have to say you are right. At least he didn't get any use outta' me, oldsage. Very thought provoking

twofotey Joined Sat 11/22/08 Posts: 100	Thu 01/01/09 08:01 PM
yeah, my wife of three+years everything was great and just bought our first house together, at christmas four years ago. She loaded the car I just had bought and drove off didn't hear from her for two years. When she finally surfaced I eventually recieved divorce papers in the mail at my Grandmothers house. But it sucks I never got to hear from her what was wrong...whats worse is that my son doesn't understand either . May God Bless her and give her peace, and one day maybe I will get my answer.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 01/01/09 08:15 PM
yeah, my wife of three+years everything was great and just bought our first house together, at christmas four years ago. She loaded the car I just had bought and drove off didn't hear from her for two years. When she finally surfaced I eventually recieved divorce papers in the mail at my Grandmothers house. But it sucks I never got to hear from her what was wrong...whats worse is that my son doesn't understand either . May God Bless her and give her peace, and one day maybe I will get my answer. Thank you for sharing

redialm Joined Mon 12/01/08 Posts: 392	Fri 01/02/09 10:05 AM
hey twofety i know the feeling almost the same thing happened to me. twice. first time she left with another guy stupid me took her back for the kid sake and then three years later just left again.

twofotey Joined Sat 11/22/08 Posts: 100	Fri 01/02/09 02:58 PM
sorry to hear that redialm, I suppose thats why I joined this mingle though I'm ready to risk getting hurt again.

Angelsing Joined Sat 07/21/07 Posts: 1111	Fri 01/02/09 04:25 PM
If you never found out why there is no closure so you accept that they weren't man or woman enough stand up and tell you why. Most of the time it has to do with people who can not deal with confrontations and they'd rather walk away and leave you hanging, than to deal with you asking them why.

carold Joined Sun 03/23/08 Posts: 26747	Fri 01/02/09 05:22 PM
If you never found out why there is no closure so you accept that they weren't man or woman enough stand up and tell you why. Most of the time it has to do with people who can not deal with confrontations and they'd rather walk away and leave you hanging, than to deal with you asking them why. I agree

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Tue 03/31/09 12:38 PM
If you never found out why there is no closure so you accept that they weren't man or woman enough stand up and tell you why. Most of the time it has to do with people who can not deal with confrontations and they'd rather walk away and leave you hanging, than to deal with you asking them why. I agree

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Tue 03/31/09 12:42 PM
I suppose it boils down to this: If they don't have the decency to tell you why, how can you respect them? And if you can't respect them, how can you love them? If I realize love wasn't true or real, well that makes it easier for me to find closure. I do need closure though, and I hate having to find it for myself. Once I do though, in any given situation, I feel better.

talldub Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 2629	Tue 03/31/09 12:43 PM
Did anyone ever break up with you, but wouldn't tell you the reason why,and you never found out? If so, how did you get closure? They say the best way to get over someone is to get on top of someone else. There's only two people i cared enough about to want to know and in one case i did the breaking up, but let her know exactly why. In the second case i made sure to get a reason.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Tue 03/31/09 04:50 PM
Did anyone ever break up with you, but wouldn't tell you the reason why,and you never found out? If so, how did you get closure? They say the best way to get over someone is to get on top of someone else. There's only two people i cared enough about to want to know and in one case i did the breaking up, but let her know exactly why. In the second case i made sure to get a reason.