thats how I feel.

Thats what I thought, so hun listen this is really about how you are feeling about yourself now if your not happy its going to be hard for him to be happy so my advice to you is to sit down write out what would make you happy if its helping him to support the both of you then get out there perhaps you would like to go to school part time and work part time... The issue seems to be with you not him take the time out and figure out what it is you really want JMO

You DO have a job and you're not getting paid for it. You cook and clean and care for him other ways. As long as you do those things well and he's happy, you've done your job. Make time for him and make it special for you both while you grow your relationship. Then whether or not you have a job will be irrelevant. The economy sucks right now, so getting a job won't be easy. But if you need a job to feel productive, then keep an eye out for one. In the meantime, if money is tight for y'all, try to be thrifty and make his money stretch. He'll appreciate it and admire your thriftiness and dedication.

We did talk last night an he understands how I feel, an he kept telling me that getting a job right now will be hard right now an he dont mind doing all the working right now. So till I can get a job I am gonna keep doing what I am doing here. Just want him to be happy an have a great life with me.

I have to agree this sounds like it is not about your lover at all but that you are finding fault with yourself and feeling unfulfilled and depressed. You expect more from yourself so you think he does as well. Ask yourself what it would take to make you feel better and more productive. Getting a job, working on your education, Etc...Then talk to him about it and see if you can decide on a course that will get you there. In the mean time take pride in what you do. There is pride in being able to maintain a home and cook meals. It takes work and is in no way demeaning.


Best of luck~

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...don't get down on your bad self. You have many quality attributes you can focus on. Just talk it out.

I hope you listen to all the positive feedback Red. You are a human being worthy of respect and love for just being you; you should not have to jump through hoops and be someone else for anyone. You are a precious gift.

He is happy with you, by the sounds of it...getting a job is tough right now and you are doing the best for him by being there taking care of him when he gets home...I think that is the best job ever

I'm so glad everything has worked out for you I still challenge you to think about what exactly would make you happy.. A job is tough to find right now but you could still look or how about going back to school just some thoughts here, the sky is your limit hun don't settle for less

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...or simply confuse you more?

You sound like you're living together? This might be old fashioned but how much respect are either one of you giving this relationship when you don't bother to make a legal long-term commitment? Maybe he sees you as a live-in housekeeper at the end of the day. Just a thought.

Define who you want to see, instead of the person that your see yourself as now. Become the person you want to see in the mirror.