Theres a woman I've been completely infatuated with since the day we meet. We meet close to 10 years ago when we were in our mid teens. I believe I was 16 and she was 14. We both were interested in each other but due to the distance we lived from each other and the age we were at things just didn't develop at that time.

She is my brother's wifes half sister, so we've seen each other from time to time, here or there and always flashed the eyes at each other. I even escorted her down the aisle at my brother's weeding with my heart just a pounding. Over the past 10 years we've both gone through some bad, abusive relationships.(Even guys can be abused!)

I've just recently gotten out of my bad relationship and moved to the area where she's living, which is great! We've talked many times since I moved here, pretty much everyday. And now to the reason it's in the advice forum.

She's still married to her 2nd abusive husband. Although he doesn't beat on her like her 1st did, a fact I didn't know until a few weeks ago. He is more emotionally abusive. I've expressed my feelings for her and she has confirmed her feelings towards me. The thing I don't want to do is be that guy that comes in and brakes a marriage up. I honestly want her happy. Of course I want her happy with me but as long as she's happy I'll be good with whomever it may be.

I just want to scream to the world at the top of my lungs about how I feel about her but right now I've been asked to suppress that urge. I would like to know peoples opinion on this. I know this is a long post but I've had these feelings bottled up inside me and tonight I had to find some way to let these thoughts go. Thanks for listening and thanks in advance for your thoughts!

You cant do anything but support her decisions at this point. Wait until she gets a divorce.

She will do what she thinks is best. You MUST respect that.

Good luck to ya

Wait for the divorce to be over 5-6 months, you don't want to be the rebound guy!

Oh I absolutely support her. Like I said I just want her to be happy. I don't want to be a "factor" in her decision, but at the same time I can't think of being with anyone else!

It'll pass.........just put it on the back burner a while.

I fell like I've done that for the past 10 years. I thought about her, not everyday, but damn close to it.

No good can come of it right now, trust me on this bro'.

Yeah I know but everything in my heart says that this it the woman that I'm meant to be with. If you read my profile I mention looking for someone that makes my heart skip a beat, this woman does that every time I see or even think about her.

A little piece that I left out was that as a teen I could never bring myself to tell her the full extent of my feelings for her. I mentioned to her that I regret not doing that and she said she regretted me not doing that too!?

patience is a virtue

very true! and at this point in my life and for this woman, I believe I can do it!

I think I can...I think I can....

LOL!!! Don't make me laugh! This is serious! LOL

Laughing is the cure to everything

It's a guys genetic programming to rescue a damsel in distress. But in rescuing, it also can blind you. Step back, ask yourself, do you really want to take this on. Hey you might, that's noble of you, but just be patient with the situation.

see Tami, I can be nice :p

Laughing is the cure to everything


True! The main thing tonight is I had to get this off my chest! I usually talk to my brother's wife about stuff like this, but being that it her sister and me being asked to keep stuff quiet for now I had no where else to turn to!

I appreciate that Keith!

(after you broke my heart and took me for everything that I had. I still luv ya )

It's a guys genetic programming to rescue a damsel in distress. But in rescuing, it also can blind you. Step back, ask yourself, do you really want to take this on. Hey you might, that's noble of you, but just be patient with the situation.


you know its weird I just don't see myself trying to do that! But I am going to have to be patient. She's worth it in my eyes!

Where are the guys that have that genetic programming?

I want one