Where are the guys that have that genetic programming?

I want one

we're the ones that in high school were your friends that you cried to when the a$$ holes broke your heart. I've had many girls that were friends with me like that

So whay can't I find one now?

No you must help me now..that is your duty

Oh lord, we're both SOL tonight! LOL

Theres a woman I've been completely infatuated with since the day we meet. We meet close to 10 years ago when we were in our mid teens. I believe I was 16 and she was 14. We both were interested in each other but due to the distance we lived from each other and the age we were at things just didn't develop at that time.

She is my brother's wifes half sister, so we've seen each other from time to time, here or there and always flashed the eyes at each other. I even escorted her down the aisle at my brother's weeding with my heart just a pounding. Over the past 10 years we've both gone through some bad, abusive relationships.(Even guys can be abused!)

I've just recently gotten out of my bad relationship and moved to the area where she's living, which is great! We've talked many times since I moved here, pretty much everyday. And now to the reason it's in the advice forum.

She's still married to her 2nd abusive husband. Although he doesn't beat on her like her 1st did, a fact I didn't know until a few weeks ago. He is more emotionally abusive. I've expressed my feelings for her and she has confirmed her feelings towards me. The thing I don't want to do is be that guy that comes in and brakes a marriage up. I honestly want her happy. Of course I want her happy with me but as long as she's happy I'll be good with whomever it may be.

I just want to scream to the world at the top of my lungs about how I feel about her but right now I've been asked to suppress that urge. I would like to know peoples opinion on this. I know this is a long post but I've had these feelings bottled up inside me and tonight I had to find some way to let these thoughts go. Thanks for listening and thanks in advance for your thoughts!

DON'T wait for the divorce GO FOR IT!! married women are great in bed Howard Hughes called them "Wet Decks" be seeing you

(Even guys can be abused!)

Altho I feel your pain, sounds like the ball is in HER court hon, not yours.

And sounds like you already know that. So what advise are you looking for? Or are you just needing to vent .. sometimes that is all we can do for each other, and it helps.

Theres a woman I've been completely infatuated with since the day we meet. We meet close to 10 years ago when we were in our mid teens. I believe I was 16 and she was 14. We both were interested in each other but due to the distance we lived from each other and the age we were at things just didn't develop at that time.

She is my brother's wifes half sister, so we've seen each other from time to time, here or there and always flashed the eyes at each other. I even escorted her down the aisle at my brother's weeding with my heart just a pounding. Over the past 10 years we've both gone through some bad, abusive relationships.(Even guys can be abused!)

I've just recently gotten out of my bad relationship and moved to the area where she's living, which is great! We've talked many times since I moved here, pretty much everyday. And now to the reason it's in the advice forum.

She's still married to her 2nd abusive husband. Although he doesn't beat on her like her 1st did, a fact I didn't know until a few weeks ago. He is more emotionally abusive. I've expressed my feelings for her and she has confirmed her feelings towards me. The thing I don't want to do is be that guy that comes in and brakes a marriage up. I honestly want her happy. Of course I want her happy with me but as long as she's happy I'll be good with whomever it may be.

I just want to scream to the world at the top of my lungs about how I feel about her but right now I've been asked to suppress that urge. I would like to know peoples opinion on this. I know this is a long post but I've had these feelings bottled up inside me and tonight I had to find some way to let these thoughts go. Thanks for listening and thanks in advance for your thoughts!

Venting is good. But we'll volunteer all kinds of advice. I say be her friend fo rnow, because that's what she needs more than anyhting, is supportive friends. If it develops into something more, then great. At the same time, though, be objective. I think Peccy said don't be the rebound. Rebound relationships seldom work out the way either party wants them to, and neither do "rescue relationships." That's where you rescue her from her present situation and one of you eventually realizes that things aren't all flowers adn sunshine anyway. Just be patient with her and with your self and the situation.