Topic: How to Split Up and Still Be........
therapy30's photo
Fri 04/03/09 11:22 AM
Edited by therapy30 on Fri 04/03/09 11:23 AM
Friends ?

You have a sweet partner who has never done anything to hurt you, is attached to you, and possibly loves you, but for some reason or another, you want to break up with him/her. This is perfectly fine; if it doesn't work out now, it probably never will. Still, you don't want to hurt your partner's feelings and want to keep their friendship.

How would you do that ?

Good morning everyone...


Have a great day:thumbsup:

Monier's photo
Fri 04/03/09 11:28 AM
I don't think I could do that. I think that it would be very mean and insensitive to ask to keep them as a friend.

Man, what kind of person would I be then?

Some people manage to stay friends after a relationship, it happens, but to make it happen? That's devious.

ladywolf9653's photo
Fri 04/03/09 11:31 AM
Have only ever had a couple work out that we could be friends afterwards, and we had to give each other plenty of space to work through the feelings and hurt first before we could even contemplate it.

We're not as close as we were, obviously, but I consider them both to be good friends, and we're able to hang out and discuss people we're dating or whathaveyou without problem.


MirrorMirror's photo
Fri 04/03/09 11:33 AM

Friends ?

You have a sweet partner who has never done anything to hurt you, is attached to you, and possibly loves you, but for some reason or another, you want to break up with him/her. This is perfectly fine; if it doesn't work out now, it probably never will. Still, you don't want to hurt your partner's feelings and want to keep their friendship.

How would you do that ?

Good morning everyone...


Have a great day:thumbsup:

:smile: very carefully:smile:

no photo
Fri 04/03/09 11:36 AM
My first ex husband and I were high school sweethearts.
We dated for 5 years (had a daughter) got married and it lasted three months.

That was 18 years ago and we are still very good friends.

It is easy when you realize that you are better at being friends and
you just want the other to have a chance at finding true happiness.

He did. He has now been married for 17 years.




therapy30's photo
Fri 04/03/09 11:41 AM


Friends ?

You have a sweet partner who has never done anything to hurt you, is attached to you, and possibly loves you, but for some reason or another, you want to break up with him/her. This is perfectly fine; if it doesn't work out now, it probably never will. Still, you don't want to hurt your partner's feelings and want to keep their friendship.

How would you do that ?

Good morning everyone...


Have a great day:thumbsup:

:smile: very carefully:smile:

what a nice adverb clause to this laugh laugh

lilith401's photo
Fri 04/03/09 11:42 AM
With good boundaries and communication, just like any other relationship. The only requirement is that you still respect each other.

therapy30's photo
Fri 04/03/09 12:00 PM
I think to start with, just convey your feelings earnestly.