thanks everybody, here is the twist though , we are back on like wild fire , you just never know why things happen , they just do , im glad we worked it out , it was just alot of life going on and it was just that one more thing ( like a last straw on the camels back ) but its all good once again , thanks for getting me through a rough spot , very much helped me out , im a very forgiving person, and i understood what was happening it hurt yes but forgiveness is our right , never give up until you have to !!!!