Topic: What is your tactics to.......
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Tue 04/14/09 09:39 AM

Touch


Physical contact is usually how I diffuse people when they are angry.
I am not talking about grabbing them or hitting or anything, but touch their arm, hand or wrist and get them to look into my eyes. It usually gets them sidetracked for just a moment, long enough to loose some of the steam that is fueling them up.


agree with this, but you have to mean it and if your at fault you have to say your sorry too. by all means don't use the "puppy dog eyes" its insincere.... communication comes in all forms not just verbal....

prisoner's photo
Tue 04/14/09 09:46 AM
:smile: i don't repress other peoples emotions and i don't let people repress mine i respect the right of the indivdual to express their emotions be seeing you

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Tue 04/14/09 10:22 AM

cool down your angry lady ?? and ladies how would you cool down your angry man?
drinker


All depends of the reason why she is angry, I am compassionate and understandable but if the reason why is she is angry is unreasonable then she will have to vent her frustration by herself.

I will listen to her, agree with her, comfort her and let her know she can yell at me all she wants to vent her frustrations making sure she keeps in mind that she is angry at somebody/something else and not me.

Jess642's photo
Tue 04/14/09 05:54 PM
We use the same tactics......

the less angry one puts a hand up and says "Stop! Neither of us are communicating right now... I am going to leave, and when we are calmer, we can talk about this, then."

Makes me spitting mad!!!

But perfect... it creates space to reduce the stupidity of the anger... and then both are open to the issue that created the anger, once calm.

motowndowntown's photo
Tue 04/14/09 05:58 PM
I usually give her leash a good yank.

Jess642's photo
Tue 04/14/09 06:00 PM

I usually give her leash a good yank.


Hahahahahaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!


that's mild discipline, not diffusion....:wink:

Meg8771's photo
Tue 04/14/09 06:01 PM
Edited by Meg8771 on Tue 04/14/09 06:01 PM


Touch


Physical contact is usually how I diffuse people when they are angry.
I am not talking about grabbing them or hitting or anything, but touch their arm, hand or wrist and get them to look into my eyes. It usually gets them sidetracked for just a moment, long enough to loose some of the steam that is fueling them up.


agree with this, but you have to mean it and if your at fault you have to say your sorry too. by all means don't use the "puppy dog eyes" its insincere.... communication comes in all forms not just verbal....



I agree 100%. I can tell you that I do not say anything that I don't mean & I am woman enough to own my mistakes.

Thank you Ducky, er, I mean Mr. Duck. flowerforyou

MirrorMirror's photo
Tue 04/14/09 06:02 PM

:tongue: give her a tongue lashing:tongue:
laugh

motowndowntown's photo
Tue 04/14/09 06:04 PM


I usually give her leash a good yank.


Hahahahahaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!


that's mild discipline, not diffusion....:wink:


It's distraction. Gets her mind working on something else.

Jess642's photo
Tue 04/14/09 06:11 PM



I usually give her leash a good yank.


Hahahahahaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!


that's mild discipline, not diffusion....:wink:


It's distraction. Gets her mind working on something else.


She must be well trained then....


yank my leash and I would bite you! :angry:

:wink: laugh

motowndowntown's photo
Tue 04/14/09 06:33 PM




I usually give her leash a good yank.


Hahahahahaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!


that's mild discipline, not diffusion....:wink:


It's distraction. Gets her mind working on something else.


She must be well trained then....


yank my leash and I would bite you! :angry:

:wink: laugh


It wouldn't be the first time I've been bit.:wink:

DTHRomeo's photo
Tue 04/14/09 06:38 PM
Plant a big wet one on her






Who am i kidding? spock

Meg8771's photo
Tue 04/14/09 06:39 PM

Plant a big wet one on her






Who am i kidding? spock



In my very humble opinion, that would stop me in my tracks! Cause me to loose focus on whatever I was upset about.

DTHRomeo's photo
Tue 04/14/09 06:42 PM


Plant a big wet one on her






Who am i kidding? spock



In my very humble opinion, that would stop me in my tracks! Cause me to loose focus on whatever I was upset about.


It might but then i probably end up

With a black eye afterwards! laugh

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Tue 04/14/09 06:48 PM

Plant a big wet one on her






Who am i kidding? spock


That would definitely make me be quiet and weak at the knees.

I was mad about what? happy

DTHRomeo's photo
Tue 04/14/09 06:49 PM
laugh laugh laugh flowerforyou

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Tue 04/14/09 06:52 PM
bigsmile

smooched


DTHRomeo's photo
Tue 04/14/09 06:57 PM

bigsmile

smooched




smooched :wink:

Meg8771's photo
Tue 04/14/09 07:06 PM



Plant a big wet one on her






Who am i kidding? spock



In my very humble opinion, that would stop me in my tracks! Cause me to loose focus on whatever I was upset about.


It might but then i probably end up

With a black eye afterwards! laugh



I am a lover, not a fighter bigsmile

74Drew's photo
Tue 04/14/09 08:14 PM

I am a lover, not a fighter bigsmile

i'm neither.
no one has claimed me as the former, and i aspire to not be the latter.


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