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Topic: Will we never learn?
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Sat 04/18/09 07:12 PM
So I email this person who came up on my mutual match recently. It was against my better judgment, but I thought what the hell, he was very local and noted on his profile he was somewhat shy. So I thought "ok, I'll send the first email".

I get a response back that says "I'm only looking for friends right now, I'm kind of hooked up with someone".

That's great, but just how do you get "hooked up" with someone in that short of time?

Why do people click yes on mutual match if they really have no intention of "matching" with you?

frustrated frustrated frustrated

Just learned my lesson yet again. Sigh.

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Sat 04/18/09 07:12 PM
flowerforyou

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Sat 04/18/09 07:14 PM
Email him again

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Sat 04/18/09 07:15 PM
I get a lot of that from married gals

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Sat 04/18/09 07:15 PM

Email him again


And say what?

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Sat 04/18/09 07:16 PM

So I email this person who came up on my mutual match recently. It was against my better judgment, but I thought what the hell, he was very local and noted on his profile he was somewhat shy. So I thought "ok, I'll send the first email".

I get a response back that says "I'm only looking for friends right now, I'm kind of hooked up with someone".

That's great, but just how do you get "hooked up" with someone in that short of time?

Why do people click yes on mutual match if they really have no intention of "matching" with you?

frustrated frustrated frustrated

Just learned my lesson yet again. Sigh.
awww i am sorry heather, if you mutual with me, i would email you back love

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Sat 04/18/09 07:18 PM

]awww i am sorry heather, if you mutual with me, i would email you back love


Well that's sweet, if only you were closer! I have this "thing" about staying local...flowerforyou

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Sat 04/18/09 07:18 PM
hey someone emailed me from the mutal matches the first one I really thought I might could ahhh work something out with...keep your fingers crossed...

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Sat 04/18/09 07:19 PM


Email him again


And say what?
Phuqe michigan.....GO BUCKEYES...Or your a good guy:wink:

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Sat 04/18/09 07:20 PM

hey someone emailed me from the mutal matches the first one I really thought I might could ahhh work something out with...keep your fingers crossed...


Well good luck!

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Sat 04/18/09 07:21 PM

I get a lot of that from married gals


Didn't even think of it from that angle. Hmmmmm.

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Sat 04/18/09 07:23 PM
Someone can click "maybe" and it'll still tell you that they are a mutual match. they may have only looked at your picture also. Sometimes people will click yes on pictures but then change their mind after they read your profile. It's not all that uncommon. The mutual match system is kind of flawed in that way. But, it's a free thing and it's generally only suggestions anyway. I wouldn't let it ruin my day.

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Sat 04/18/09 07:25 PM

Someone can click "maybe" and it'll still tell you that they are a mutual match. they may have only looked at your picture also. Sometimes people will click yes on pictures but then change their mind after they read your profile. It's not all that uncommon. The mutual match system is kind of flawed in that way. But, it's a free thing and it's generally only suggestions anyway. I wouldn't let it ruin my day.


That's true...this particular guy read my profile the day he said yes or maybe......and I responded with a yes after I read his and then I sent the email today. I'm just whining about how mutual matches rarely work out.....hehehe. Don't mind me.

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Sat 04/18/09 07:26 PM


Someone can click "maybe" and it'll still tell you that they are a mutual match. they may have only looked at your picture also. Sometimes people will click yes on pictures but then change their mind after they read your profile. It's not all that uncommon. The mutual match system is kind of flawed in that way. But, it's a free thing and it's generally only suggestions anyway. I wouldn't let it ruin my day.


That's true...this particular guy read my profile the day he said yes or maybe......and I responded with a yes after I read his and then I sent the email today. I'm just whining about how mutual matches rarely work out.....hehehe. Don't mind me.
you got that right, none of my mutual matches want anything to do with me

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Sat 04/18/09 07:28 PM
My response?
The computer does it as well. It is not only people matching. The site will mutual match you as well.

Sorry to hear that happened but as Pats says, match, click and date!



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Sat 04/18/09 07:31 PM
Edited by heathersaysgobucks on Sat 04/18/09 07:32 PM

My response?
The computer does it as well. It is not only people matching. The site will mutual match you as well.

Sorry to hear that happened but as Pats says, match, click and date!



I don't think mingle has anything to do with mutual matches beyond putting someone's picture on your screen. To actually have a match, you both have to say yes or maybe. He said yes first, I responded with a yes (or maybe, same deal).

Anyhow, no matter......it's all over with now....hehe. I usually x 'em out after a few weeks. This one I thought I would send out an email shortly after it was a match. I guess he got "hooked up" fast! Probably not my kind of guy in the end.

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Sat 04/18/09 07:34 PM
I mutual matched myself and i said no lol.

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Sat 04/18/09 07:34 PM
Anyhow..I'm off to bed.

Whining phase is officially over, thanks for listening to it.

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Sat 04/18/09 07:35 PM
I agree with you Heather! That fast that soon? There is something to be said about it. But I can click yes to someone the computer matches me with and if they say no, well it isn't a match. Somedays I have 7 and the others may be 18 matches.

I now click NO to them all!

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Sat 04/18/09 07:41 PM
to be turned down is but recieving wisdom and direction and guidence from the entire cosmos and universe itself???

no one is turned down at all, rather only guided to and kept for, what truely see all that it is, and what thing that see this in anything, can walk away???

the wise women know, if a man turn her down, she has been spared much grief???




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