Is there a way i could go searching for a man secreatly? I'm Bi, but havn't told anyone and don't wan't to, because i don't wan't all the bs about gayness (though if i found someone i would like to be with I would come out for them and to be with them). My problem is going out and dating, and finding someone, i dopn't wan't to to come out and no one else has the balls to come out and i just get outcast. plz help. :(

The problem you're going to run in to is safety. If you don't want to come out, and want to operate in secret, it doesn't leave you a lot of options. Unless you're into the "no strings attached" scene, you may struggle a bit. I take it you live in a small town where you don't have the option of going out in public without being recognized?

Hey. Welcome

Stop hiding and go for it!!

There are gay straight bi trans. Just bout everything on here

I have not seen to much. If any predjudice round here

This would be a good place to open the closet door


Tammy

the stigma of Bi or Gay is going to be there if you have a hand to hold or not as you make the anoucement. my brother did it and he is a much happyer person for it. To ask someone to help you hide will be a little unfare to your partner as it can raise issues of how much you love them or how proud you are of them and who they are I would think.

anyway. online you can be that person of the heart buddy. jump in the waters fine and take the dive if you find that one.

last word of advice.... speek from the heart not the loin's it will bring better results. so perhaps modify your profile a bit and add a pic of sorts.

good luck

Ok, trans?? Where?? LOL I have not seen!

I've met 3. It's not on their pro. They told me and sent pics via cell. Will not out them ! Promise

Nooo I don't have a problem with it at all, I was just stating I haven't seen on here. I know a few in person.

I'm a lesbian

Me 2

actualy, being a lesbian would be sweet, because you would be able to hook up with relly hot chicks.

dont hide darlin' if you want a guy go for it !
dont worry what every one else think's !

It's not that I'm afraid or embarased, it's that I don't wan't to go through the drama. like my dad and step-mom would be like "it's okay, we're here for you", when the say that just because they have to be suportive and just doing it to be the stereo typical 'good parents'. Then my mom and step-dad would laugh at me and call me a pillow biter and all that, but I feel like it's pointless unless i have a good reason like if i find a guy i wan't to be with, I would bring him over and invite him to the family and everything. And yea i do live in a small town, i probable get beat up if came out, but not even that would stop if i found someone, but how do i go searching where? what? WHen? WHY? , but yea the time is come that everyone will know and i don't care, i've been drowling over my best friend without him relly know, though i told him I'm bi. he's relly the only one that knowes.

parents dont have to be supportive, they should be yet as humans bias tends to get in the way. if they at least try to help then good for them.

the thing that still strikes me is your dependency on another for you to take action in your life. finding one person who likes you for you and is willing to hold hands as you out yourself is going to be a large thing to ask. for someone who is disinterested in drama your asking someone who may have gone throu it befor to do so again like a mentor, not like a friend and lover.

as to where, the internet, gay bar, hair salon??
... what,when... google homosexual dateing sites??
... why, that one is all you buddy. the eternal question of why is only up to you to answer and all else is borrowing or intigrateing tell you formulate your own.

good luck

Dude,
Some of my best friends are gay.
Some are quite open about it, some are more reserved.
You will have to find your own way and how much "openness" you can tolerate.
Your TRUE friends will already know, as I did with my best friend.
He was shocked when he "came out" to me & I said "I know, but don't worry about it"
Unless you hide it REALLY well, your parents will also know, at least in the back of thier minds.

Save yourself some heartache & pain. Just be yourself.

You don't really need to make an announcement, just BE.

Just my opinion.

Good luck and be true to yourself. You will be happier in a short time.