I was unhappy for a year and a half trying to make it work .If he is not at you're level it wont work.You need to find some one who is.

My reasoning behind this is that nothing has changed in the months since these issues were addressed. Change is needed and I see this as the fuel for the change, he sees it as moving backward in our relationship instead of moving forward and working on these things together. I just don't know how to get through to him that I am doing this for us so we don't end up hating each other later for staying in a relationship that wasn't working.

Am I being naive to think we can still work through this?

Sometimes people need a little kick in the pants to make changes, but if you don't see him truly and honestly working on himself, then know he probably won't ever do so.

It's torturous to have to admit that the situation is 'not it' for you, although the person, is 'it'...

it's heartbreaking....especially in it... to love them, but not the situation.

I had that terrible decision to make 3 years ago.....I thought it would kill me...

over the next three years we talked, debriefed, shared our highs and lows, our mishaps, everything, and what bloomed for us, was this deeply intimate friendship, wrapped in our genuine love and respect for each other.

He came home a week ago... he decided what was right for him, I already knew what was right for me...

it's no smooth sailing, we still squabble, and push against each other.... but we always have... for a whole seven years it has been a love affair of passions...that's who we are.


Time has a way of clearing the mind... and allowing the heart to know what it is that is right for it.

It took three years.... but it now feels like we were never apart.

Finally, we made some progress lastnight! Why is it that we have to get angry and yell before they listen to us? (And then call us crazy b!tches because we get angry and yell)