100% FREE ONLINE DATING
sponsored links
Previous
| Topic: sometimes you're better off without them | |
|---|---|
|
|
|
I realized something other people have been telling me for months. I am in love with a girl that makes me miserable. I never even went out with her, my friend used to and I live down the hall from her and she's drop dead gorgeous so I kinda got obsessed with her. I did fall in love with her but seriously, no human being has ever caused me as much misery as she has even though it was unintentional. She destroyed my relationship with her ex who was once my bf. Then over her, my friendship with my roommate and friend of 10yrs ended with me kicking him out after he kicked in my bedroom door and us never talking again. Besides, I tried so hard to get her only to see her pass me over time and again for scumbags and it made me hate myself. For 2 wks now I haven't answered her calls or talked to her and I'm once again take life lighlty and crack jokes after months of misery and self hatred. Guys I guess the moral of the story is, no matter how good she looks, if a woman makes you miserable and perpetuates self-loathing, then MOVE ON. You're better than that no matter who you are :)  |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Earthy is tellin it like it is!!!!!
Own up!!!!!! |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Edited by
Intrepid00
on
Thu 07/09/09 06:04 AM
|
|
I realized something other people have been telling me for months. I am in love with a girl that makes me miserable. I never even went out with her, my friend used to and I live down the hall from her and she's drop dead gorgeous so I kinda got obsessed with her. I did fall in love with her but seriously, no human being has ever caused me as much misery as she has even though it was unintentional. She destroyed my relationship with her ex who was once my bf. Then over her, my friendship with my roommate and friend of 10yrs ended with me kicking him out after he kicked in my bedroom door and us never talking again. Besides, I tried so hard to get her only to see her pass me over time and again for scumbags and it made me hate myself. For 2 wks now I haven't answered her calls or talked to her and I'm once again take life lighlty and crack jokes after months of misery and self hatred. Guys I guess the moral of the story is, no matter how good she looks, if a woman makes you miserable and perpetuates self-loathing, then MOVE ON. You're better than that no matter who you are :) Uh, Ya might wanna take some responsibility for YOUR OWN actions and feelings. Im not trying to knock you here, but Im trying to be honest. Noone is responsible for your feelings, and choices but YOU. YOU chose her, and him. You CHOSE your feelings about the matter. YOU allowed unhealthy hurtful people in your life. Noone MADE you do anything. Noone can MAKE you feel anything. YOU CHOOSE how you feel. YOU chose to "loathe" her. you dont have to hang out with anyone, and no way were there not signs. I would encourage you to use better judgement in whom you associate with, and working on your character defects in what makes you keep coming back for more from someone who is unavailable, and isnt extending themselves to you not only in not a positive way, but truly negative ones. Its your fault for obsessing over someone who never was interested in you in the first place. Im sorry to have to tell you. But its true. |
|
|
|
|
|
Edited by
earthytaurus76
on
Thu 07/09/09 06:29 AM
|
|
I realized something other people have been telling me for months. I am in love with a girl that makes me miserable. I never even went out with her, my friend used to and I live down the hall from her and she's drop dead gorgeous so I kinda got obsessed with her. I did fall in love with her but seriously, no human being has ever caused me as much misery as she has even though it was unintentional. She destroyed my relationship with her ex who was once my bf. Then over her, my friendship with my roommate and friend of 10yrs ended with me kicking him out after he kicked in my bedroom door and us never talking again. Besides, I tried so hard to get her only to see her pass me over time and again for scumbags and it made me hate myself. For 2 wks now I haven't answered her calls or talked to her and I'm once again take life lighlty and crack jokes after months of misery and self hatred. Guys I guess the moral of the story is, no matter how good she looks, if a woman makes you miserable and perpetuates self-loathing, then MOVE ON. You're better than that no matter who you are :) Uh, Ya might wanna take some responsibility for YOUR OWN actions and feelings. Im not trying to knock you here, but Im trying to be honest. Noone is responsible for your feelings, and choices but YOU. YOU chose her, and him. You CHOSE your feelings about the matter. YOU allowed unhealthy hurtful people in your life. Noone MADE you do anything. Noone can MAKE you feel anything. YOU CHOOSE how you feel. YOU chose to "loathe" her. you dont have to hang out with anyone, and no way were there not signs. I would encourage you to use better judgement in whom you associate with, and working on your character defects in what makes you keep coming back for more from someone who is unavailable, and isnt extending themselves to you not only in not a positive way, but truly negative ones. Its your fault for obsessing over someone who never was interested in you in the first place. Im sorry to have to tell you. But its true. Yes, no no your right, its all magic, you dont have control over yourself or your feelings, or what you think say or do.  Offf coursee you cant control yourselfff! This is something you also "learn in kindergarden" responsibility for your own actions, and your actions are also your FEELINGS. Feelings are controllable, unless you are completely mentally unstable. your telling ME this?   Im glad you have some reality hitting you here, but you still dont get it. Love is something that itself takes its own form on its own.. in another person. That is the only thing you cannot control.. others. Its good ya choose not to "hang out" with her anymore, but noones going to be convinced this is anyones fault but your own, COMPLETELY. Do you relaise how youe OP sounds. Listen I can only speak on the subject, because I have been there, be it absoloutely ABSURDLY BOLD how you posted this to the public. I feel for you in the way, you are young, and learning here, and we all do, its all trial and error, I know youve been hurt, and I am sorry, I really KNOW how it hurts. It always is gonna hurt if you do this to yourself. Im really not feeling sympathetic for you though, because I know better. All of your problem was completely avoidable. But please learn from this for sure, and dont make the same mistakes again. Otherwise, itll be the definition of insanity like before, (doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting different results each time.) Know your role. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Anyway, I dont know what your problem is.. You are too cute!
Anyone seen this guys pics? |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
et76 got this one right on the nose. This all belongs to the OP.
Having done similar things in the past, it took a while to see it, but when I did I stopped doing it. When I say "see it", I mean realize I brought it all upon myself. |
|
|
|
|
