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Beckie, love the new pic.. (((Robin))) for some that is hard, the grass is always greener, I have it worse than anyone, loads of different things come into play... I've been single for a while and I don't mind it at all, so many pluses to it... If I met a special person great, but don't look for it, ask for it or need it, that'd just be strawberries on the cake...  ((Joy)) Yep, I get that, but you'd think after a while folks would see all those things are burdens, not stepping stones. I hope to meet someone special too, but....I've always said there are far more worse things to be than single. I think we just put what Mitch and Calleigh said together and add a bit more... I see people stay in a bad relationship for kids.. I think that's commendable however, in the end it could do more harm than good especially if the kids see, hear or experience fighting OR if they never see love, tenderness and compassion, they can grow up not even knowing how to have a normal relationship.... I have a question about that, I've heard many people say they stayed for the children and I'm wondering what the reason usually is- financial, wanting to be around the children all the time, giving a sense of stability. Just wondering, glad you brought it up.
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 It sometimes takes a while to find yourself. And being alone can be a little .... well.... uh... lonely. But you will do yourself a service to take some time just trying to find out who you are, what you do and don't like, and discovering that you're ok by yourself. The phrase "How do you like your eggs?" comes to mind (obscure movie reference). And a neat side effect of that is that you then have a self confidence that is very attractive and you can have a relationship that you want rather than one you think you need. Oh, and I just farted. |
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It sometimes takes a while to find yourself. And being alone can be a little .... well.... uh... lonely. But you will do yourself a service to take some time just trying to find out who you are, what you do and don't like, and discovering that you're ok by yourself. The phrase "How do you like your eggs?" comes to mind (obscure movie reference). And a neat side effect of that is that you then have a self confidence that is very attractive and you can have a relationship that you want rather than one you think you need.   This... Oh, and I just farted. TMI! 
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Beckie, love the new pic.. (((Robin))) for some that is hard, the grass is always greener, I have it worse than anyone, loads of different things come into play... I've been single for a while and I don't mind it at all, so many pluses to it... If I met a special person great, but don't look for it, ask for it or need it, that'd just be strawberries on the cake... ((Joy)) Yep, I get that, but you'd think after a while folks would see all those things are burdens, not stepping stones. I hope to meet someone special too, but....I've always said there are far more worse things to be than single. I think we just put what Mitch and Calleigh said together and add a bit more... I see people stay in a bad relationship for kids.. I think that's commendable however, in the end it could do more harm than good especially if the kids see, hear or experience fighting OR if they never see love, tenderness and compassion, they can grow up not even knowing how to have a normal relationship.... I have a question about that, I've heard many people say they stayed for the children and I'm wondering what the reason usually is- financial, wanting to be around the children all the time, giving a sense of stability. Just wondering, glad you brought it up. I think a lot of folks don't wanna put the kids through the pain of divorce, having weekend dads/moms, etc. For me, I think the tension in the home alone, not to mention the bickering and bitterness are more damaging. If folks are going to stay together for the sake of the children, I think they should also seek some counseling to address the situation in a healthy manner, and who knows, perhaps they'll also find a way to work out their issues at the same time. |
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Edited by
auburngirl
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Thu 07/09/09 05:15 PM
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I see so many beautiful people, inside and out, who are single, lonely and unhappy. By the same token, I see a lot of folks who are involved with someone who are equally unhappy. If you are single, don't carry it around like a burden. Embrace it. Get to know who you really are. Grow, learn, experience. Take steps to make yourself a more interesting, desirable, vital human being so that when you do find someone your are more grounded and confident partner. If you are involved with someone, embrace it. Know from the start things are not always going to be blissful. Instead of using deceit, games, manipulation or control to get the things you need from your partner, learn healthy ways to resolve your differences so that you both can maintain your dignity and respect for one another. To me, this is not rocket science and I just don't get why so many folks....just don't get it. I agree. I don't know why people are so worried about stuff like that when there are so many more important things to worry about. Like draconians. I'm not sure if anyone's ever told you, but you ain't right, Mirror! I'll leave the draconian worries to you. Im not the only one worried about it. And the world needs to know   The cheeseheads already work for the draconians 
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