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Topic: Falling In Love
papersmile's photo
Mon 09/07/09 09:43 AM


i don't necessarily believe that love lasts forever and i also don't believe that we are meant to only love one person for all entirety nor that an ended love relationship indicates a failure.

i believe that people come into our lives for specific purposes, at such points of great need and/or when we are ready to receive them.

i take my own relationship day by day and, although there is of course some planning involved, i really don't know where we'll be at this time next year, next month, or even next week. i just know that for today i am in love with him (and he with me) and that i don't anticipate tomorrow being any different than today.

one you begin to place demands and expectations on the relationship, it starts to become one of soley duty and obligation and takes away from the spontaneity and joy.

it isn't that difficult to wipe the slate clean and begin again if you take responsibility for your own role in the way your past relationships ended and work on improving yourself, instead of placing the entire blame on the other person. we all have at least some role to play when a relationship ends. would you want your girlfriend to judge and treat you based on her past experiences? while at the same time, you can keep one eye open for any indications that you're headed down the previous paths, give her the benefit of the doubt.



everything she said

and I would add, don't overthink everything. don't agonize and analyze over every detail. just feel and react to the moment


hmmmm, now i wonder exactly what you mean by that.

Nyteflame's photo
Mon 09/07/09 09:54 AM

How many times can a person fall in love


Indefinite, you can fall in love as many times as you allow yourself to. Love is about caring for another person so much that you want them to be happy as much as possible, and you want yourself to part of the reason for the happiness. Therefor: You love your mate, and try to make him or her happy. You love your friends, your family, ext. If you want to do things to make them happy, you are feeling love for them. Love isn't necessarily Passion. I love my ex-boyfriend a great deal. I would walk through fire for him. That doesn't mean I wanna sleep with him, or want to marry him. It just means I love him. When I eventually find my mate, I'm not going to love Ted any less. Love isn't like a container, where you can only fit a finite number of people. It grows and changes as you do.

how does one fall out of love,

I suppose you might stop caring for him/her. You stop worrying about weather they are happy, or if something you are going to do will please them. You no longer think about them when you see something that would make them smile...I guess at that point, you no longer love them.

is love a feeling shared between 2 people, or is love something that manifest over a period of time,

These statements are not mutually exclusive. You can love someone without them reciprocating that feeling. This happens all the time. And yes, it can manifest over a period of time, rather then being instant. It should take time to grow. Giving up a part of your heart to someone, whether friend, mate, or family, is not a decision easily made. A lot of us fight it. We ask ourselves why we care what the other person thinks, why does it matter to us....if your answer is "because it will make him/her smile" then you probably love them.

how many of us mistake being in lust or infatuation as love.

A lot of people make this mistake. Lust is not love. It can certainly accompany love. But if all you feel for the person is a wish to take them to bed, then you don't love them. I guess whether or not infatuation is love, depends on exactly what you do with that feeling. Just wanting to gaze at them adoringly forever is not exactly love.

here is someone you were meant to be with, what does it mean when you miss your opportunity to be with that person.

If you were truly meant to be with them, then you wont have missed your opportunity. The opportunity to patch things exists for as long as you are meant to be together. Remember, sometimes we are only meant to be with someone for a short time. Their purpose in our lives is to act as a catalyst, to move us towards that ONE. Just because they weren't our ONE, doesn't mean we didn't or don't still love them...it just means that a deeper love still waits out there for us.

the years since our breakup I known some wonderful woman, some I even had long term relationships with, but the intense feelings I shared with my finance I have never experienced with another woman.

At the close of our relationship my fiance said she still loved me and always would care for me, but she was no longer in love with me, for a long period of time we had remained close friends until we just sort of drifted apart it has been 8 yrs since I have seen her but time to time I will still think about our time together but it no longer makes me sad as I always think of the best parts of our relaionship which make me smile a little.


It is good that you have been able to move on. Keep looking. The right person is out there for you. She might have been close, but it doesn't look to me like she was it. When you feel similar to the way you felt with her, you will know you are closer to what you are looking for. Her purpose in your life was to give you a way to gauge your feelings for people. It's ok to still love her, but if she doesn't reciprocate that love in the way she would need to for a relationship, then you need to look elsewhere. When you find the right person, they will feel the same way about you.

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Mon 09/07/09 10:10 AM
Im not sure I even know what love is......

s1owhand's photo
Mon 09/07/09 10:11 AM

Im not sure I even know what love is......


well at least you know about the other sturr...:tongue:

Chinen's photo
Mon 09/07/09 10:26 AM
Love is a boat from a bad 70s sitcom.

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Mon 09/07/09 12:15 PM

Im not sure I even know what love is......





"WHAT IS LOOOOOOVE!!!???? - BAAAAAAABY DOOOOOOON'T HUUUURT ME, DOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOON'T HURT ME - NOOOOO MOOOOO ! "



:banana:

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Mon 09/07/09 12:20 PM

Love is a boat from a bad 70s sitcom.



It's Looooooooooooooooooooooooooooove! iT's Looooooooooooooooooooove!

It's LooooooooooooooooooooVVVVVVVVVVVVVVEEEEEEEEEEEE!

It's Theeeeeeeeeee Loooooooooooooove Boaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat - ah!


It's Theeeeeeeeeeeeeeee Loooooooooooooove Booaaaaaaaaaaaaat- ah!



no photo
Mon 09/07/09 12:21 PM
<-----starts to go-go dance feverishly!!!noway :banana: laugh

no photo
Mon 09/07/09 12:24 PM

<-----starts to go-go dance feverishly!!!noway :banana: laugh



I will.


Get on a knee.



And serenade you.


To the Love Boat theme song.


Dance or else!



devil laugh

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Mon 09/07/09 12:25 PM


<-----starts to go-go dance feverishly!!!noway :banana: laugh



I will.


Get on a knee.



And serenade you.


To the Love Boat theme song.


Dance or else!



devil laugh
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh play that guitar!!!bigsmile :banana:

no photo
Mon 09/07/09 12:28 PM
Oh ****, shake that *** ma, move it like a gypsy
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Now drop it looooow and let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING

Verse 1
Uh oh, lean back, girl you got some mean racks
You got a mean *** and I really mean that
But can't you see, that I need a girl, that can move
Make her hips SWING - and - look - just like you
But come to think about it, I think this club is crowded
It's kinda hard to do your thing when everyone's surrounding
So let me form a circle everybody step back
I heard somebody yell "Savage where the chorus at?!"

[ Chorus ]
Oh ****, shake that *** ma, move it like a gypsy
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Now drop it looooow and let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING

Verse 2
Uh oh, let it pop, ladies drop it like it's hot
Hell yeah, that's the spot, now bring it back to the top
Stop! Woah, now back it up, now back it up
Let it rise then watch it dump, shaking your junk in the trunk
And - I - like - the way you move it smoothly
Now why - don't - you move that booty - to - me
I'm tryna come up with some thoughts of attack,
until I heard somebody yellin' out "Savage where the chorus at?!"

[ Chorus ]
Oh ****, shake that *** ma, move it like a gypsy
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Now drop it looooow and let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING

Bridge x2
Knees bent, *** out, come on push your *** out
(Let me see your hips swing)
Bring it up then back down, bring it up then back down
(Let me see your hips swing)
All my ladies on the floor, all my ladies on the floor
(Let me see your hips swing)
Pick it up then dip it low, pick it up then dip it low
(Let me see your hips swing)

[ Chorus ]
Oh ****, shake that *** ma, move it like a gypsy
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Now drop it looooow and let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING

no photo
Mon 09/07/09 12:29 PM

Oh ****, shake that *** ma, move it like a gypsy
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Now drop it looooow and let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING

Verse 1
Uh oh, lean back, girl you got some mean racks
You got a mean *** and I really mean that
But can't you see, that I need a girl, that can move
Make her hips SWING - and - look - just like you
But come to think about it, I think this club is crowded
It's kinda hard to do your thing when everyone's surrounding
So let me form a circle everybody step back
I heard somebody yell "Savage where the chorus at?!"

[ Chorus ]
Oh ****, shake that *** ma, move it like a gypsy
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Now drop it looooow and let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING

Verse 2
Uh oh, let it pop, ladies drop it like it's hot
Hell yeah, that's the spot, now bring it back to the top
Stop! Woah, now back it up, now back it up
Let it rise then watch it dump, shaking your junk in the trunk
And - I - like - the way you move it smoothly
Now why - don't - you move that booty - to - me
I'm tryna come up with some thoughts of attack,
until I heard somebody yellin' out "Savage where the chorus at?!"

[ Chorus ]
Oh ****, shake that *** ma, move it like a gypsy
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Now drop it looooow and let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING

Bridge x2
Knees bent, *** out, come on push your *** out
(Let me see your hips swing)
Bring it up then back down, bring it up then back down
(Let me see your hips swing)
All my ladies on the floor, all my ladies on the floor
(Let me see your hips swing)
Pick it up then dip it low, pick it up then dip it low
(Let me see your hips swing)

[ Chorus ]
Oh ****, shake that *** ma, move it like a gypsy
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Stop, woah, back it up, now let me see your hips SWING
Now drop it looooow and let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING
Down to the floooor now let me see your hips SWING

bigsmile :banana: drinker laugh

earthytaurus76's photo
Mon 09/07/09 12:32 PM
Edited by earthytaurus76 on Mon 09/07/09 12:35 PM
Imo you can fall in love as many times as you want. Could happen a million times.


I think people trivialize it and say it was lust because they involve themselves with people who cant deal with the fact that youve been in love before with someone else.

Same with people who get out of relationships, and say they have never been in love.

Some people say this because they refuse to admit it, because they feel foolish for falling for someone who no longer wants them, or who wasnt "the one".


Love can come in many forms,planes, and levels.


Yes I do believe sometimes its infactuation, and obsession, or lust for some people.

s1owhand's photo
Mon 09/07/09 12:37 PM
:banana:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nsCXZczTQXo

Quietman_2009's photo
Mon 09/07/09 03:44 PM



i don't necessarily believe that love lasts forever and i also don't believe that we are meant to only love one person for all entirety nor that an ended love relationship indicates a failure.

i believe that people come into our lives for specific purposes, at such points of great need and/or when we are ready to receive them.

i take my own relationship day by day and, although there is of course some planning involved, i really don't know where we'll be at this time next year, next month, or even next week. i just know that for today i am in love with him (and he with me) and that i don't anticipate tomorrow being any different than today.

one you begin to place demands and expectations on the relationship, it starts to become one of soley duty and obligation and takes away from the spontaneity and joy.

it isn't that difficult to wipe the slate clean and begin again if you take responsibility for your own role in the way your past relationships ended and work on improving yourself, instead of placing the entire blame on the other person. we all have at least some role to play when a relationship ends. would you want your girlfriend to judge and treat you based on her past experiences? while at the same time, you can keep one eye open for any indications that you're headed down the previous paths, give her the benefit of the doubt.



everything she said

and I would add, don't overthink everything. don't agonize and analyze over every detail. just feel and react to the moment


hmmmm, now i wonder exactly what you mean by that.


silly

not you

him

Ruth34611's photo
Mon 09/07/09 03:50 PM

I just don't remember anymore....


Yeah. What she said.

TxsSun's photo
Mon 09/07/09 04:31 PM
Who wants to fall in love?

TRahul's photo
Thu 09/10/09 05:30 AM
i want love

FearandLoathing's photo
Thu 09/10/09 05:46 AM

Sorry Calleigh but i will have o disagree with you on that, maybe i just something that comes with age, too many bars too many clubs and one night stands the human heart yearns for so much more be careful the heart may urn to hard and would be incapable o love at all.ohwell ohwell


Mankind is incapable of love, well, depends on what definition you go off of. Personally, love is undeniable, unconditional, and without fault...love does not exist.

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