All the questions going through your mind will never be answered so you need to let go of them. And her.

You know stuff like this is never easy to filter through. Thing is it seems like you knew this was coming a long time ago. You are gone and you need to stay gone. Once she chose to be with another man that should be the end of your relationship. She can regret it all she wants, but with some other guy. You are an awesome dude for having put up with all that. If you went to treatment then you should realize the damage this girl can do to you if you get back. Go back to treatment if you need to, but don't go back to her. Good luck bro. You'll be in my prayers.

Here is how I see it. I'm thinking she was simply looking to find out where you were. Maybe her current relationship went sour and she wanted you to fall back on. I mean you took her shat for 3 years and she took every advantage of you... she had no problems taking your money, had her space to do what she wanted for a month with your money while you were out working, helped you use instead of helping you to stop, wasn't affectionate and to top it off you spent thousands on a house that's her's...so heck yeah she's gonna come back looking for ya..I could be wrong but when you get back on your feet and things are looking up again for ya that's when you just might see her at your doorstep...my advice...be strong, don't answer the door, she had her chance and blew it...you deserve better.

and try not to overthink things with her...take it as a life lesson, don't give her the power to stress you out...you're better then that.

just relax..better theing are to come.

i wasnt literelly flashing money around,but she knew i had it because she knew what i did for a living.in this area where i live,if your a towboater then you are considered lucky.its a prime job here where i live.women automatically associate that with money around here,so its hard to tell when your a towboater what a woman is really after.a lot of towboaters get messed around,i see it all the time.its too bad but i guess its part of the life of working on the water.and in the beginning she did show chemistry,but of course that was just a ploy,but i thought she really did love me and i really truly loved her.....very much!

Unless you had it tattooed to your forehead, she found out how you earn your living because you told her. So, the same thing as flashing your money around. Where I live, people associate you with money just by the car you drive. *yawn*

Nobody just shows "chemistry", they fake chemistry if you don't know enough to notice red flags. Kinda like the spammers from other countries that give you a sob story about being stranded with no travelers' cheques.

Not making light of your situation, it just sucks to be in your position. I know, more or less, how you feel because I was in a situation like yours---only it wasn't over money. I was an enabler and I was played for a fool because of it.

To deal with the bottom feeders of dating, you need to grow a second skin.

Good luck to you.


P.S.: Also helps to find out the person's last serious relationship. You don't need to be a rebound relationship for anyone who is looking to use your cash as a way of forgetting the other one.

you have any single sisters with money? lol