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Topic: Frustrating Relationship..just wanna scream
TNLakeLady's photo
Sat 11/14/09 07:38 PM
I'm in a relationship and having a lot of trouble with communication with this man. He lives a couple hours from me so I only see him once a week..we talk by texting mainly. We may go a couple days without talking and then he will text me out of the blue..I have came to understand he wants space and give him plenty.We have been getting along pretty well up until tonight..he texts and says he is off 3 days and wants to see me at the beginning of the week. So I text back and say that would be great I am off too..what day would be good..he says any..so I text back Mon or Tues would work for me..He never texts me back. After an hour i text and say where would be a good place to meet..he says nothing and I can see he is online on IM so I ask on there and he just logs off..I call an hour later and no answer..I mean I have seen that he is online so I know he is not asleep...At this point I am through trying to get an answer..
I feel like he is avoiding me and he was the one who ask me..

Now..I have no idea how to plan..and don't understand why he does this sometimes..I guess I should just wait and see if he calls me or texts..but what would make him not answer and act like this?

FYI I usually don't pursue when he gets this way but it involves making a plan and I would just like to know what is going on..

Goofball73's photo
Sat 11/14/09 07:42 PM
Seems that maybe he might have been making plans with another lady and was trying to schedule the both of you in? I mean, it sounds fishy and all, and when people act this way, that is (Normally, but not always) the reason. Just my thoughts though.

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Sat 11/14/09 07:43 PM
I would say....why are you wasting your time??

Sounds like head games to me!!:heart:

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Sat 11/14/09 07:44 PM
No offense meant but is he worth it? Sounds like he is playing games, and you deserve better. If he was really interested would he not be calling you to make the arrangements?

If it were me i would not contact him again, and when he makes contact, ask him what is going on.

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Sat 11/14/09 07:44 PM

I'm in a relationship and having a lot of trouble with communication with this man. He lives a couple hours from me so I only see him once a week..we talk by texting mainly. We may go a couple days without talking and then he will text me out of the blue..I have came to understand he wants space and give him plenty.We have been getting along pretty well up until tonight..he texts and says he is off 3 days and wants to see me at the beginning of the week. So I text back and say that would be great I am off too..what day would be good..he says any..so I text back Mon or Tues would work for me..He never texts me back. After an hour i text and say where would be a good place to meet..he says nothing and I can see he is online on IM so I ask on there and he just logs off..I call an hour later and no answer..I mean I have seen that he is online so I know he is not asleep...At this point I am through trying to get an answer..
I feel like he is avoiding me and he was the one who ask me..

Now..I have no idea how to plan..and don't understand why he does this sometimes..I guess I should just wait and see if he calls me or texts..but what would make him not answer and act like this?

FYI I usually don't pursue when he gets this way but it involves making a plan and I would just like to know what is going on..


Well it sounds like he is no longer interested and I personally would not continue to pursue him. If he decides to contact you I would not respond and see how he likes it. You deserve better than that. Sounds like a game of cat and mouse.

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Sat 11/14/09 07:44 PM
Somethings rotting here! You sure he isn't married? Has he came back to you off and on if there sex involved? Hmmmmmmmmmm....

TNLakeLady's photo
Sat 11/14/09 07:47 PM
I am too wondering if he is trying to plan something else with someone else..I mean we are not exclusive and not talked about it really but i feel it is a little disrespectful to ask me and then not follow through..

TNLakeLady's photo
Sat 11/14/09 07:49 PM

Somethings rotting here! You sure he isn't married? Has he came back to you off and on if there sex involved? Hmmmmmmmmmm....


Nah he is not married..I have known him for a long time but we just recently connected..
He just does stuff like this sometimes and makes me wonder if I should just give up..I have some feelings for him so it makes it a little complicated

JustAGuy2112's photo
Sat 11/14/09 07:50 PM

I am too wondering if he is trying to plan something else with someone else..I mean we are not exclusive and not talked about it really but i feel it is a little disrespectful to ask me and then not follow through..


Then just plan as you would if he wasn't involved.

If he contacts you after you have already made plans, that's his problem.

It's not like you didn't ask him.

MelodyGirl's photo
Sat 11/14/09 07:53 PM
Edited by MelodyGirl on Sat 11/14/09 07:54 PM

I would say....why are you wasting your time??

Sounds like head games to me!!:heart:


I agree.

Consider NOT texting to communicate especially if you are trying to resolve an issue. It's not very direct and there is no way you can get a feel for a person unless you at least talk to them. Texting is evil if used as a main source of communication in dating; it’s lazy and lacks personal attention. Anything online falls into the same abyss.

I wish you the best but the signs are not good. flowerforyou

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Sat 11/14/09 07:53 PM
I agree with what the others have posted. If it were me I would break it off, heal, and move on.

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Sat 11/14/09 07:54 PM


Somethings rotting here! You sure he isn't married? Has he came back to you off and on if there sex involved? Hmmmmmmmmmm....


Nah he is not married..I have known him for a long time but we just recently connected..
He just does stuff like this sometimes and makes me wonder if I should just give up..I have some feelings for him so it makes it a little complicated


Living in that neck of the woods for several years. I learned by watching not piss off Southern Women...lol

I think something else is going on. Follow your instincts:)

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Sat 11/14/09 07:56 PM

I'm in a relationship and having a lot of trouble with communication with this man. He lives a couple hours from me so I only see him once a week..we talk by texting mainly. We may go a couple days without talking and then he will text me out of the blue..I have came to understand he wants space and give him plenty.We have been getting along pretty well up until tonight..he texts and says he is off 3 days and wants to see me at the beginning of the week. So I text back and say that would be great I am off too..what day would be good..he says any..so I text back Mon or Tues would work for me..He never texts me back. After an hour i text and say where would be a good place to meet..he says nothing and I can see he is online on IM so I ask on there and he just logs off..I call an hour later and no answer..I mean I have seen that he is online so I know he is not asleep...At this point I am through trying to get an answer..
I feel like he is avoiding me and he was the one who ask me..

Now..I have no idea how to plan..and don't understand why he does this sometimes..I guess I should just wait and see if he calls me or texts..but what would make him not answer and act like this?

FYI I usually don't pursue when he gets this way but it involves making a plan and I would just like to know what is going on..


Your first sentence says it all...communications. If your man isn't good at it..I'm thinking you're going to have problems sooner than later. Change your plans..and your relationship! Good luck...sound like you deserve better!flowerforyou

RKISIT's photo
Sat 11/14/09 07:56 PM

I'm in a relationship and having a lot of trouble with communication with this man. He lives a couple hours from me so I only see him once a week..we talk by texting mainly. We may go a couple days without talking and then he will text me out of the blue..I have came to understand he wants space and give him plenty.We have been getting along pretty well up until tonight..he texts and says he is off 3 days and wants to see me at the beginning of the week. So I text back and say that would be great I am off too..what day would be good..he says any..so I text back Mon or Tues would work for me..He never texts me back. After an hour i text and say where would be a good place to meet..he says nothing and I can see he is online on IM so I ask on there and he just logs off..I call an hour later and no answer..I mean I have seen that he is online so I know he is not asleep...At this point I am through trying to get an answer..
I feel like he is avoiding me and he was the one who ask me..

Now..I have no idea how to plan..and don't understand why he does this sometimes..I guess I should just wait and see if he calls me or texts..but what would make him not answer and act like this?

FYI I usually don't pursue when he gets this way but it involves making a plan and I would just like to know what is going on..
just come to florida,you are yummydrinker

TNLakeLady's photo
Sat 11/14/09 07:58 PM
Yeah I have a bad feeling..but everything is great when we are together..seems like when we are apart it goes downhill..He is hard to talk to and we don't discuss a lot of personal stuff. Wish I didn't have feelings going on and it wouldn't be a hard decision to make..

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Sat 11/14/09 07:58 PM
Ask him for a commitment, and if he says no, Find someone nice from Maine!!

Goofball73's photo
Sat 11/14/09 07:58 PM


I'm in a relationship and having a lot of trouble with communication with this man. He lives a couple hours from me so I only see him once a week..we talk by texting mainly. We may go a couple days without talking and then he will text me out of the blue..I have came to understand he wants space and give him plenty.We have been getting along pretty well up until tonight..he texts and says he is off 3 days and wants to see me at the beginning of the week. So I text back and say that would be great I am off too..what day would be good..he says any..so I text back Mon or Tues would work for me..He never texts me back. After an hour i text and say where would be a good place to meet..he says nothing and I can see he is online on IM so I ask on there and he just logs off..I call an hour later and no answer..I mean I have seen that he is online so I know he is not asleep...At this point I am through trying to get an answer..
I feel like he is avoiding me and he was the one who ask me..

Now..I have no idea how to plan..and don't understand why he does this sometimes..I guess I should just wait and see if he calls me or texts..but what would make him not answer and act like this?

FYI I usually don't pursue when he gets this way but it involves making a plan and I would just like to know what is going on..
just come to florida,you are yummydrinker



Leave it to you to get your Pimp on.laugh laugh

Jill298's photo
Sat 11/14/09 07:59 PM
OMG you're dating my ex!scared best of luck to you

RKISIT's photo
Sat 11/14/09 08:00 PM



I'm in a relationship and having a lot of trouble with communication with this man. He lives a couple hours from me so I only see him once a week..we talk by texting mainly. We may go a couple days without talking and then he will text me out of the blue..I have came to understand he wants space and give him plenty.We have been getting along pretty well up until tonight..he texts and says he is off 3 days and wants to see me at the beginning of the week. So I text back and say that would be great I am off too..what day would be good..he says any..so I text back Mon or Tues would work for me..He never texts me back. After an hour i text and say where would be a good place to meet..he says nothing and I can see he is online on IM so I ask on there and he just logs off..I call an hour later and no answer..I mean I have seen that he is online so I know he is not asleep...At this point I am through trying to get an answer..
I feel like he is avoiding me and he was the one who ask me..

Now..I have no idea how to plan..and don't understand why he does this sometimes..I guess I should just wait and see if he calls me or texts..but what would make him not answer and act like this?

FYI I usually don't pursue when he gets this way but it involves making a plan and I would just like to know what is going on..
just come to florida,you are yummydrinker



Leave it to you to get your Pimp on.laugh laugh
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Sat 11/14/09 08:01 PM
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